Brides are often labeled as 'bridezillas' when they're simply trying to organize the day they always dreamed of, but there are some people that truly earn their 'zilla title.
So, when a conflicted groom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not he was wrong to kick his own mother out of his wedding, people were eager to deem a verdict.
I got married recently and it was a great night, but I know it was a lot of stress for my wife leading up to it as she wanted everything to be perfect.
The day-of she told me she was very upset over my mom's hair. So my mom had (I suck at describing, but I'll try) her hair half up and half down, and the piece that was in the ponytail had pearls in it, and then some cascading down her hair. She told me she felt it was a bridal hairstyle and that pearls are a traditionally bridal thing. She felt it was inappropriate.
To be totally honest I have no idea about this stuff, but took her lead. We confronted my mom and asked her to take it out. She refused and called my wife narcissistic. My wife began to get emotional and I asked what she wanted to do. She said she wanted her to take it out or leave, so I gave my mom that option.
She said it was way too much work to just take it out after an hour and she would rather leave and go somewhere nice with her husband where she could keep it in.
She left with her husband muttering about us, and we got a lot of hate from a lot of people calling us as*holes and selfish, but my wife strongly feels that it was done on purpose.
Someone needs to check in on this bride, because clearly she is unwell. Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this mess. Here's what people had to say:
YTA (You're the As*hole) - bridezilla much? This is ridiculously controlling. Congrats on ruining a relationship over nothing; mom's assessment of your wife as 'narcissistic' is probably correct.
YTA. An elaborate hairstyle for sure, but if she wasn't wearing white or a bridal style dress, I see 0 reason this would clash with the bride.
YTA and so is wife I'm afraid...it's just a hairstyle, it won't be noticed in pictures. If your mom was also wearing a wedding dress then it would be understandable, but it was just her hair.
Pearls aren't just bridal, they're also the birthstone for June, and popular amongst many people as they're beautiful. It sounds like your mom's hair was amazing and your wife was incredibly jealous.
YTA. Your poor mother… she probably just wanted to look pretty for your wedding and she got kicked out? Your wife shouldn’t have threatened to kick her out and you should have defended your mother.
YTA but mostly your wife. Was your mom wearing a big white dress?? I'm guessing not, so no one was going to confuse her for the bride. I am a woman who is married, and never have I heard anything about pearls in the hair only being for the bride. It is crazy that your wife would make such a scene over something like that. It sounds like she and your mom may have some deeper issues.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this bride and groom were both hilariously wrong to kick the mother-of-the-groom out of the wedding over a hairstyle. It's definitely going to be awkward explaining to family members in the future why the groom's mother isn't featured in any photos.
'Oh you see, the bride thought her future husband's mother was trying to steal the spotlight...at her own son's wedding...from...the woman he's about to marry.' Good luck, everyone.