Pregnant bridesmaid gets kicked out of wedding, 'I need to be selfish right now.'
Brides often get hung up on the difference in color between 'dusty rose' and 'rose dust' dresses, but forbidding your close friend from being in your bridal party because she happens to be living her own life is a new one...
So, when a frustrated Maid of Honor decided to vent to the gloriously petty 'Wedding Shaming' group of Reddit about a hilariously entitled and wildly delusional bride, the gossip-loving crew of internet strangers was dying to hear the details.
Bride kicked pregnant friend out of bridal party...
I am the maid of honor for a wedding scheduled for September 2023. Six months into planning the wedding, and with still 6 months to go, the bride this week kicked out a pregnant friend from the wedding party.
The bride and all her bridesmaids know each other from school and are all close friends. They see each other regularly (at least once a week) and live in the same city. Whereas, none of the groomsmen live in the same city as the others.
The bridesmaid is currently 6 months pregnant, with her due date at the end of June. She is not originally from this city, and decided that her and her husband were going to move back to her hometown prior to the due date to have familiar support once the baby comes. Every time she has spoken about the plan, she always insisted that she was going to move back to town prior to the wedding.
But apparently the bride is mad that she is moving away to have the baby because she didn’t communicate this to the bride until after she had told the other bridesmaids and won’t be around to help with further wedding details (like stuffing the invitation envelopes and picking out the table arrangements).
Despite the bridesmaid insisting multiple times that she was planning to move back to town 6 weeks before the wedding, the bride is absolutely convinced that she will flake and not show up for the wedding. The bride kept saying, “well what happens if the baby gets sick?” like we didn’t just live through a pandemic where anybody could get sick.
The bride said that this bridesmaid has already flaked out on other wedding events, so she’ll likely flake on the wedding too. For context, the two events this bridesmaid missed are one of the catering tastings (because her grandfather died that week) and the bachelorette trip (because the bride insisted on having it in May well beyond the time the bridesmaid could safely fly and in Napa where the bridesmaid couldn’t participate in any of the activities).
This bridesmaid has gone to every other event, including 2 dress appointments, a different catering tasting, and the engagement party, where she showed up hours early to help set up and brought all the catered food.
The bride has insisted that she “needs to be selfish right now” and even called the pregnant one selfish because she claims that the bridesmaid has made the whole planning process about her and being pregnant.
The bride has given no explanation as to why the other bridesmaids can’t help out more in her place or why she isn’t mad at the groomsmen who live out of town and haven’t helped with planning a single thing.
The bride is even planning to replace the bridesmaid with a cousin who lives in another state and wouldn’t be able to help with any additional wedding planning.
The bride has said that she is willing to live with the consequences of her choice, aka losing the friendship over this situation, despite being friends with this bridesmaid longer than any of the other bridesmaids. The bride won’t listen to any of the other bridesmaids about how ridiculous and rude she is being.
Yikes...this one is a special mess. Of course, the jury of wedding shamers was eager to weigh in on this bridesmaid drama. Here's what people had to say:
mishadog22 said:
When did this happen where bridesmaids become the slave of the bride for a year? All these events and planning sessions are ridiculous! the bridesmaids should be responsible for: planning ONE event for the bride (shower, etc.), wearing a bridesmaid dress and whatever that entails (fittings, etc.), and being there on the wedding day to help the bride. that's it.
These entitled brides are just ridiculous brats, and yes, what the heck are the groomsmen doing - nothing! I never expected nor did I need anyone to help us stuff invitations, go to catering tasting, etc. If I was one of that bride's bridesmaids, I would tell her if she kicks the pregnant one out, I'm out too.
DifficultCockroach63 said:
In what world are the bridesmaids expected to go to every fitting and tasting and help send invitations and pick center pieces?? The groom can do literally everything except fittings and even then why would anyone in their right mind expect someone to go to every single one. Sounds like the groom is either refusing to do anything or the bride has a real complex.
ribbonsofgreen said:
I think all of you should quit. The bride sounds entitled and awful.
Marnnirk said:
Her friend is better off skipping the event. I just do not understand how seemingly normal women become so entitled and self centred around their wedding..so many friendships have not survived that nonsense. The bride won't just loose the one friend, I'm betting others will move away after the debacle is over. Just sad!
Curious_Payment_9932 said:
You all should drop out and leave it to her for the way she is acting. Imagine the extra stress that she is putting on your pregnant friend. Is this fair for her to have this added to her already unease, fears, stress if a normal pregnancy? If you and the other girls stay be prepared to be next in the line of abuse.