'AITA for telling my sister she should have shaved before my engagement party?'
"AITA for telling my sister (F22) that she should've shaved before coming to my engagement party?"
I (F27) got engaged recently. We had the engagement party at a restaurant. It was paid for by my future MIL.
My sister (F22) came with my parents. She is the type that lives by 'the body positivity' concept which is more than okay, but she tends to put me in situations where I find myself having to deal with people's reactions. I'll explain what I mean in a minute.
She came to the party wearing a dress above knee. My future MIL and the other women were staring at her legs constantly. MIL then pulled me aside and pointed out my sister's leg hair. I was completely baffled and quiet shocked. She said it made her and the other women feel uneasy and weirded out.
I said I was sorry for how they felt and tried to stay calm but I was mad from the inside. The women continued to stare and my sister acted like everything was fine. I honestly felt like she caused disruption to the party.
I brought it up with her later and told her about what the guests felt about her unshaved legs. She kept chewing on her gum while completely acting like it was nothing, she even said my future inlaw women need to chill.
I told her this was unacceptable and that she should've shaved before coming since it was my event and I had to deal with the looks and disruption from the women. My parents told me to get off her back and leave her alone. Then they left.
Mom is now telling me to apologize for upsetting my sister after she came to share my happy moments. I told this to my fiance and he just kept laughing and making comments about us being 'ridiculous'. AITA wrong here? I feel like she disrespected me and my guests.
Comments:
Itsallormuffin says:
YTA. It’s just hair. Grow up. What makes leg hair any different than the hair you grow on your head. If other people are uneasy by leg hair then that’s their problem. Don’t make it your sister’s problem. Also apologize to her and stand up for her in the future.
Patchwork2022 says:
I’m pretty sure you’re the YTA here. I mean come on it’s her body her choice. If we weren’t meant to have any hair on our bodies then we wouldn’t have been born with it.
BeebasaurusRex says:
YTA. The only people who disrupted your party are the weirdos who can’t get over leg hair. Kudos to your sister for not being bothered ??
pikachu-atlanta says:
YTA. Her body, her choice.
TheStarshipCat says:
Lol. As a 22yo woman with hairy legs and a 27yo sister, I know she would NEVER do that, not only because she knows that I don't care what people think, but she also would know it's not her business or her right to get bothered by what other people think of me. YTA
Pepper-90210 says:
YTA a million times over. Did you step into a time traveling phone booth that took you back to 1954?? You should have gone off on your future MIL and defended not only your sister, but ALL women who are critiqued and body shamed for simply being alive and having hair.
JFC I hope you know that carrying the water for the patriarchy will get you nowhere. Do hairy legs make you people uncomfortable, or do WOMENS hairy legs make you people uncomfortable?