Weddings

<h2>&quot;AITA For telling my teenage daughter that if she can&#39;t adhere to a dress code for a destination wedding, then she&#39;s not coming on the trip at all?&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>My wife (37F) and I (38M) have been married for 14 years and have 3 kids, a 15-year old daughter, and 12-year old twin boys. My younger brother got engaged a few months ago and he and his fiance have decided to have a destination wedding in the Caribbean.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I am the best man in the wedding so I obviously have to go. And since we haven&#39;t been on a family vacation since pre-covid, we figured a week at an all-inclusive resort would be a nice break for all of us.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>A couple weeks ago, I was discussing the wedding with my brother and asked how planning was going. He started talking about the dress code and what their ideas are. He said they aren&#39;t expecting all men to wear suits since it&#39;s going to be hot, but they don&#39;t want anyone in shorts either.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He said they want all men wear in slacks and a dress shirt, but no ties required. And for all women to be in a dress. He said they want everyone to be comfortable, but to also look nice.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Personally, I don&#39;t see anything wrong with that. But my daughter is not happy. She absolutely hates dresses and will go to great lengths to avoid wearing one. When I told her about the dress code, she said she would not wear a dress and if that&#39;s a requirement for the wedding, then she just won&#39;t attend the ceremony or reception.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I told her if she can&#39;t wear a dress for a few hours on a single day to attend her uncle&#39;s wedding, then she won&#39;t have to worry about attending the ceremony, because she won&#39;t even be coming with on the trip.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She asked if I would seriously leave her home while the rest of the family goes on a tropical vacation and I told her I would have no problem with it if she&#39;s going to raise a huge fuss about wearing a dress for a few hours.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She said forcing people to wear something they aren&#39;t comfortable in is an outdated idea and as long as she&#39;s comfortable and looks nice, it shouldn&#39;t matter what she&#39;s wearing. I told her that dress codes for weddings are absolutely a thing and totally up to the couple getting married.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My wife suggested talking to my brother about making an exception for our daughter, so I reached out to him. He said they really want every woman to be in a dress, but if my daughter is more comfortable in a romper-style dress, that would work too. But that is also unacceptable to my daughter. I asked her what she wants to wear and she told me &quot;I don&#39;t know.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At that point I threw up my hands because she hadn&#39;t even thought of alternatives and is just insisting on not wearing a dress. I told her and my wife that they need to figure out either a compromise with my brother and his fiance, or find a dress that our daughter can wear, but if they can&#39;t then she&#39;s staying home.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Q&amp;A with OP:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/aceofshovels09/">aceofshovels09</a> asks:</p><blockquote> <p>If the situation was switched and you were required to wear a dress to this event, would you?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/tuitiongapaita/">tuitiongapaita</a> OP responded:</p><blockquote> <p>If it meant standing next to my brother and supporting him in his marriage, I&#39;d wear whatever he wanted me to. It&#39;s a few hours of your life, you can stand to be uncomfortable to support someone you love.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Substantial_Plum3460/">Substantial_Plum3460</a> asks:</p><blockquote> <p>The point is that this dress code is sexist&hellip;what do you not understand about this?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/tuitiongapaita/">tuitiongapaita</a> OP responded:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m not the one who made the dress code. What do you not understand about that?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/flowerbutt00/">flowerbutt00</a> asks:</p><blockquote> <p>Would you do the same for your rando uncle?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/tuitiongapaita/">tuitiongapaita</a> OP responded:</p><blockquote> <p>This isn&#39;t some rando uncle. This is her godfather and someone who has been very involved in her life since the day she was born. I know he loves my daughter and cares for her and wants her to be comfortable. But I also understand that couples get to pick dress codes for their wedding.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s how people judged OP&#39;s situation:</h2><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/thathorribledude/">thathorribledude</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I wish I grew up when teenagers made the rules 🤣</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Beginning-Letter-111/">Beginning-Letter-111</a> writes:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your daughter is old enough to know that the world doesn&#39;t revolve around her. This is a perfectly reasonable request. Hell, you even tried to accommodate her and she still refuses. This is a great time for to learn the lesson that actions have consequences.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SJoyD/">SJoyD</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Why can&#39;t she wear slacks and a shirt like the men? I think it&#39;s pretty crazy to demand that all women wear skirts... it&#39;s 2023.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/c1ncinasty/">c1ncinasty</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>The &quot;women in dresses only&quot; requirement is bulls**t. The part where you say &quot;you aren&#39;t coming on vacation with us&quot; if she refuses to acquiesce to these silly requirements is the big issue here. What are you teaching your kids here, man? That you&#39;ll abandon them the instant they make you look bad? YTA.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/FriendlyCanadianCPA/">FriendlyCanadianCPA</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>Why does she have to wear FEMININE clothes though??? Why can&#39;t she wear what the men wear? This is completely outdated</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Teen refuses to wear dress to destination beach wedding; dad says she can stay home.

&quot;AITA For telling my teenage daughter that if she can&#39;t adhere to a dress code for a destination wedding, then she&#39;s not coming on the trip at all?&quot; My wife (37F) and I (38M) have been married for 14 years and have 3 kids, a 15-year old daughter, and 12-year old twin boys. My younger brother got engaged a few months ago and he and his fiance have decided to have a destination wedding in the Caribbean.  I am the best man in the wedding so I obviously have to go. And since we haven&#39;t been on a family vacation since pre-covid, we figured a week at an all-inclusive resort would be a nice break for all of us.  A couple weeks ago, I was discussing the wedding with my brother and asked how planning was going. He started talking about the dress code and what their ideas are. He said they aren&#39;t expecting all men to wear suits since it&#39;s going to be hot, but they don&#39;t want anyone in shorts either.  He said they want all men wear in slacks and a dress shirt, but no ties required. And for all women to be in a dress. He said they want everyone to be comfortable, but to also look nice.  Personally, I don&#39;t see anything wrong with that. But my daughter is not happy. She absolutely hates dresses and will go to great lengths to avoid wearing one. When I told her about the dress code, she said she would not wear a dress and if that&#39;s a requirement for the wedding, then she just won&#39;t attend the ceremony or reception.  I told her if she can&#39;t wear a dress for a few hours on a single day to attend her uncle&#39;s wedding, then she won&#39;t have to worry about attending the ceremony, because she won&#39;t even be coming with on the trip.  She asked if I would seriously leave her home while the rest of the family goes on a tropical vacation and I told her I would have no problem with it if she&#39;s going to raise a huge fuss about wearing a dress for a few hours.  She said forcing people to wear something they aren&#39;t comfortable in is an outdated idea and as long as she&#39;s comfortable and looks nice, it shouldn&#39;t matter what she&#39;s wearing. I told her that dress codes for weddings are absolutely a thing and totally up to the couple getting married.  My wife suggested talking to my brother about making an exception for our daughter, so I reached out to him. He said they really want every woman to be in a dress, but if my daughter is more comfortable in a romper-style dress, that would work too. But that is also unacceptable to my daughter. I asked her what she wants to wear and she told me &quot;I don&#39;t know.&quot;  At that point I threw up my hands because she hadn&#39;t even thought of alternatives and is just insisting on not wearing a dress. I told her and my wife that they need to figure out either a compromise with my brother and his fiance, or find a dress that our daughter can wear, but if they can&#39;t then she&#39;s staying home. Q&amp;A with OP:aceofshovels09 asks: If the situation was switched and you were required to wear a dress to this event, would you? tuitiongapaita OP responded: If it meant standing next to my brother and supporting him in his marriage, I&#39;d wear whatever he wanted me to. It&#39;s a few hours of your life, you can stand to be uncomfortable to support someone you love. Substantial_Plum3460 asks: The point is that this dress code is sexist&hellip;what do you not understand about this? tuitiongapaita OP responded: I&#39;m not the one who made the dress code. What do you not understand about that? flowerbutt00 asks: Would you do the same for your rando uncle? tuitiongapaita OP responded: This isn&#39;t some rando uncle. This is her godfather and someone who has been very involved in her life since the day she was born. I know he loves my daughter and cares for her and wants her to be comfortable. But I also understand that couples get to pick dress codes for their wedding. Here&#39;s how people judged OP&#39;s situation:thathorribledude writes: I wish I grew up when teenagers made the rules 🤣  Beginning-Letter-111 writes: NTA. Your daughter is old enough to know that the world doesn&#39;t revolve around her. This is a perfectly reasonable request. Hell, you even tried to accommodate her and she still refuses. This is a great time for to learn the lesson that actions have consequences. SJoyD writes: Why can&#39;t she wear slacks and a shirt like the men? I think it&#39;s pretty crazy to demand that all women wear skirts... it&#39;s 2023. c1ncinasty writes: The &quot;women in dresses only&quot; requirement is bulls**t. The part where you say &quot;you aren&#39;t coming on vacation with us&quot; if she refuses to acquiesce to these silly requirements is the big issue here. What are you teaching your kids here, man? That you&#39;ll abandon them the instant they make you look bad? YTA.  FriendlyCanadianCPA writes: Why does she have to wear FEMININE clothes though??? Why can&#39;t she wear what the men wear? This is completely outdated 

&quot;AITA For telling my teenage daughter that if she can&#39;t adhere to a dress code for a destination wedding, then she&#39;s not coming on the trip at all?&quot;   My wife (37F) and I (38M) have been married for 14 years and have 3...