If the food is good at your wedding, guests will discuss it for months and even years to come. While most couples want their guests to enjoy every part of their wedding, is it the couple's responsibility to pay for food they'd never eat themselves? If you want a wonderfully unpopular vegan carrot cake as your wedding dessert, you should be able to go for it without sparking great drama in the family group chat.
So, when a bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about her vegetarian wedding vision, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
Me (26F) and my fiancé (28M) are in the very early stages of wedding planning. Both of of our families have offered to chip in, but we’ll be covering the bulk.
We’re both vegetarians and really only have dairy products very occasionally. 9/10 we choose the vegan option and mainly cook vegan for ourselves, just when we have the same meals as our baby (10 month old) we all eat the same.
We can be in the same room as meat cooking etc, we’re not particularly preachy, we just don’t want to spend money for animals to die in celebration of our wedding. It feels wrong for us to pay into that industry. Also looking forward to having a choice rather than the one option.
My mum has already made a comment that it’s not fair for us to not offer a meat option we’re of the mindset that it’s literally one afternoon we’re asking guests not eat meat. No one in our guest lists have any other dietary requirements we need to think about.
She made the point that we’d expect a vegetarian option at someone else’s wedding. So WIBTA for not offering a meat option?
NTA (Not the As*hole) as long as the menu is palatable and recognizable for non-vegan folks. Like, don’t serve tempeh. Go with like pesto pasta instead. You know?
NTA. People are not going to die if they eat a meal without meat for one meal. There are plenty of very delicious vegetarian meals. Your mom’s argument is flawed because vegetarians cannot eat meat options, while meat eaters can eat vegetarian options. I’d rather eat a meal with tasty Mac and cheese, crisp green beans and freshly baked bread than a stale piece of chicken or overcooked steak.
NTA - I had a vegetarian wedding and my family threatened to bring meat but I held firm. At the end of the day the food was amazing and everyone had a great time. I don't understand the fuss people kick up for one bloody meal
NTA. I don't attend weddings for the food. I attend them because I care about the couple getting married.
NTA. Wedding food is notoriously bad, and the meat tends to be the worst part. If you focus on making sure the food is good, a vegetarian wedding sounds like it could be made into a better experience for a guest.
Everyone agreed unanimously for this one that this vegetarian couple has no obligation to provide a meat option for guests as long as they're paying for it. Vegetarians can't eat meat for one night, but meat-eaters will survive with a veggie option. Good luck, everyone!