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Religious MOH asks if she's wrong to refuse to take off cross necklace for wedding.

Religious MOH asks if she's wrong to refuse to take off cross necklace for wedding.


There's a big difference between being an overbearingly unhinged bridezilla and a normal person with a clear wedding vision...

Is it really so bad to ask your sister to take off her favorite necklace if it doesn't match your desired wedding theme? So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of wedding controversy otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about her jewelry, people were quick to help deem a verdict.

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for refusing to take off my necklace for my sister's wedding?

Throwaway: My (25F) sister 'Cindy' (29F) is getting married in 3 months and she asked me to be her MOH. Of course, I said yes! Cindy and I have always been fairly close, we definitely have our issues, but nothing too serious.

I have a small cross necklace that my Grandpa gave me when I was 13. I wear it 24/7 unless I'm taking a shower or going swimming. I wear the necklace for sentimental and religious reasons. Needless to say, it's extremely important to me.

A few days ago, Cindy and I were going dress shopping together. Cindy's 5 other bridesmaids were also there. While I was trying on one of the dresses, Cindy made a comment about my necklace. She told me that I'll have to take my necklace off during her wedding because it 'clashes with the dress and the theme.'

I told her that, while I understand it's her wedding, I will have to refuse her request. She knows how important my necklace is to me and that I almost never take it off.

Cindy started to get upset and kept insisting that I could take off my 'stupid necklace' for one day! I was getting frustrated and I told her that my decision was final.

She was pissed! She told me that if some piece of 'gaudy jewelry' was so important, then I'm no longer welcome in her wedding. I started to get emotional, so I quickly changed out of the dress and left the shop.

All of the bridesmaids are on Cindy's side. They said that I'm being uptight and what Cindy wants should be my top priority. AITA?

Of course the wedding-obsessed jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this one...

fightingnflder said:

YTA (You're the As*hole) she’s not asking you to throw it away. It seems like a reasonable request to remove it for a few hours. It sounds like you are just being difficult for the sake of it.

Jorbarip said:

ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). You say you take it off to go swimming, so what was the big deal to take it off for a few hours for the wedding? And of course her behavior yelling and berating you wasn’t acceptable. But really, she wasn’t asking you to cut your hair, or lose weight, she was asking you to change your necklace for less than a day. I think it’s best for everyone if you’re not in the wedding.

nylasachi said:

YTA… you are willing to take it off when you swim and shower but not for a few hours on your sisters wedding day?

debdnow said:

ESH: Your sister went from calm to hurricane in a second. Not necessary. It is her wedding. She's not asking you to cut your hair or cover a tattoo with makeup. She's asking you to not wear a necklace. Find a compromise. You'll tuck it in your purse or bra for the wedding and pictures, but wear it for the reception. You'll wear it like a bracelet so it can be hidden by the flowers during pictures.

telepathicathena said:

YTA, you take it off regularly. You won't get struck by lightning if you wear other jewelry at your sister's wedding for a few hours.

So, there you have it!

While the opinions were divided here, most people agreed that this woman is wrong to refuse to take off her necklace for her sister's wedding even if her sister did get a bit rude. Asking someone to wear different jewelry isn't the same as forcing bridesmaids to dye their hair or cover up their tattoos. Good luck, everyone!

Sources: Reddit
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