Woman assumes 6 month anniversary gift is a proposal, 'it was stupid of him;' AITA?
The pressure to plan a perfect proposal with a romantic backdrop can be a lot for people who are planning an engagement, but what happens when you have no intention to start planning a wedding?
Between reality television shows, Instagram brides, and destination bachelorette parties...the modern wedding business can be a lot to handle even for people who don't have an accidental engagement.
So, when a conflicted young woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's gloriously petty 'Am I the As*hole' about a flopped public proposal, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in.
AITA (Am I the As*hole) for thinking the ring my boyfriend got me was an engagement ring?
My bf(25m) and I(25f) went out for our sixth month anniversary this weekend and towards the end of the dinner he said he had a gift for me and handed me a box. It was a gorgeous ring and I guess the title of this reveals that I confused this gift as a proposal.
I teared up and screamed 'yes!' repeatedly and other people clapped and cheered. My bf looked confused and kind of awkward the rest of the night but before I found out this was a mistake I assumed he was just shocked that I said yes.
Fast forward to today I had him over and asked him when we should start telling friends, family and other plans and that's when he finally said 'yeah, about that, I'm not sure how to tell you this but I didn't mean, to propose, my mom and I just thought that would be a perfect first gift.'
I just laughed it off at first and said 'Oh, well that will make a really funny story for our wedding!' and he corrected me that there was no wedding yet. He said this was going too fast and that we shouldn't be getting married for at least another 2 years.
I was really heartbroken and called him an AH, and that it was stupid of him to get me a f*%^ing ring if he wasn't proposing, a necklace or something would have made more sense if he was going to give me jewelry.
He called me an as*hole for being ungrateful and jumping to conclusions and putting him in this position in the first place. This was our first really big fight and I ended up kicking him out.
I called my parents about this today and my dad seems to think that he's the AH but my mom says I was being a complete idiot because it's not like he got on one knee or actually asked me to marry him. AITA?
Six months is a bit early for an engagement if you're not a drunk celebrity in Vegas for 24 hours. Here's what people had to say about this unfortunate yet hilarious misunderstanding:
nappynap314 said:
YTA (You're the As*hole) you've been dating for 6 months. Chill.
rjinchico said:
YTA and your mom is completely right. Did he just hand it to you? Was it wrapped? It’s been 6 months and you’re jumping to this conclusion? I’m so confused and wondering if you’d have preferred he corrected you in front of all the people in the restaurant? That seems way worse.
He definitely coulda made you look foolish in front of a crowd and he didn’t. This is literally all on you for jumping to conclusions, and then acting like he’s an AH for buying you a ring instead of a necklace? Pfffffft get outta here. Do whatever you want but even from your perspective this is a terrible look for you.
tacopizza23 said:
Dying from the second hand embarrassment on this one, big oof.
MaybeAWalrus said:
Kind YTA. You expectation are through the roof. I don't understand why you would expect an engagement ring after only 6 months dating someone. You just jumped to conclusions and yelled at him for not meeting your expectations. So yeah, that's not very healthy in any relationship. You need to learn to communicate and get on the same page.
JoeyintheBunch said:
YTA. You're overreacting. A ring is a nice gift, but instead of being grateful, your being salty because it wasn't used to propose to you. You even kicked him out and called him an as*hole.
So, there you have it!
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this woman is completely in the wrong on this one. Misunderstanding the gift was a totally honest mistake, but doubling down on the guilt and blaming him for getting her a nice gift was a shady choice. Good luck, everyone (maybe we can expect a proposal/a breakup in about 2-3 years?)