Woman may skip brother's child-free wedding if stepson isn't invited; he's pissed.
'AITA for not wanting to go to my brother's wedding because my stepson isn't invited?'
I (m28) have been with my fiancee (f30) for a year an a half. I have a stepson (4) that I adore and treat as my own.
My older brother's wedding is soon. I was intending on going but after I found out that my stepson was not invited, we started having issues. My brother explained that it's the nature of the wedding they chose which is child free but my fiancee was upset that this rule was forced on family as well.
She got into arguments with my brother and his fiancee and ended up deciding to not go to the wedding. As a result I called my brother and told him I no longer want to come after what happened. He began arguing saying my fiancee is the one being unreasonable and now has 'convinced' me to miss his wedding.
I told him that this is just me supporting my family after the way he and his fiancee treated them. His fiancee said they don't owe us anything and that this is a wedding rule that applied to everyone. I said 'fine then I'm not coming'.
My brother is pissed my parents are calling me unreasonable for being willing to miss my only sibling's wedding and basically let a woman I've only known for a year an half drive a wedge between us. They said if I go through with this then I might lose my brother, who's my support and comfort forever, and so much damage and hurt will come out of this.
I stopped responding to them, but members of extended family are saying that me and my fiancee are creating the problem trying to control my brother's wedding.
Here's what people had to say in the comments:
Tricky-Flamingo-7491 writes:
Honestly, it seems quite clear that OP's title is intentionally misleading, because it made it seem like his stepson (he's not even his stepson YET) was being excluded.
WeatherPale6945 writes:
YTA , just one question did ur fiancee asked not to attend the wedding or this is on your own u have decided.. either ur still the AT... Its ur brothers wedding he and his too be wife get to decide wat kind of the wedding they want.. let be childfree..its not like they specifically dont want ur step kid .... Its a rule applied in. General for all
teweddinthr6345 OP responds:
No she did not ask me. But we did talk about it and with her input and reaction I decided to not go.
Human_Review_8273 writes:
YTA. It’s their wedding, they make the rules. They are perfectly entitled for THEIR day to be child free.
teweddinthr6345 OP responds:
Okay, does that make me entitled to my decision then?
six_242 writes:
Yta. Welp I'm sure your brother was going to find out how little you care about him sooner or later. I hope he remembers rhianans acts accordingly.
teweddinthr6345 OP responds:
Quite frankly. I think that he should be expecting that my family comes first my fiancee and my stepson but my parents disagree and think that I have my priorities all wrong because, they said I've only known her for a short time and yet I'm prioritizing her and her son over my only brother. I just don't see how this is the case.
ayoitsjo writes:
Not to mention that a 4 year old wouldn’t even remember the wedding. They're insisting on taking their toddler to a wedding forrrrrrrrrrr checks notes no reason