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<p>Most men don&#39;t understand the fear many women experience every day and the precautionary measures we take to protect ourselves and our bodies. This ignorance was perfectly highlighted in a<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cqnihj/aita_i_kicked_a_girl_out_of_my_house_party_for/" target="_blank"> recent post</a> on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot; forum by a guy who turned out to absolutely be the a**hole.</p><h2>The guy hosted a party for co-workers at his house, then freaked out and kicked a woman out for &quot;insinuating&quot; that he may have drugged a drink he mixed for her.</h2><p>As many commenters have energetically pointed out, women have many, many reasons to not accept a drink from a man they don&#39;t know. And for him to take this personally instead of understand her reason for being cautious is an a**hole move, to the max.</p><p>He writes:</p><blockquote> <p>This was tonight/this morning (it&#39;s after 5am). Last night was a big work party at a bar. We came back to my place because I have a fully furnished basement, with stocked bar, where I host parties. This was coworkers I know well and some I don&#39;t. I always play bartender when I host because it&#39;s my bar in my house and it&#39;s just what I do.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Already pretty clear this guy is the a**hole because of the way he says &quot;it&#39;s my bar in my house and it&#39;s just what I do,&quot; but I&#39;ll tell the rest of the story anyway.</p><h2>He explains that he mixed martinis for his co-workers, including a woman who &quot;works at a different company&quot; and therefore probably doesn&#39;t know him well, if at all.</h2><p>He also describes her as a &quot;girl,&quot; so this guy is definitely on watch.</p><blockquote> <p>A girl who works for the company at another office is sitting at my packed bar table and I mixed her a martini because I saw her drinking martinis at the bar before. I did the exact same thing for everyone at my bar; Mixed them their cocktail of choice either by noticing what they had earlier, or asking them. She wasn&#39;t first to be served so she saw me doing this.</p> </blockquote><h2>After setting a drink in front of her (which she didn&#39;t ask for), the woman turned to her friend and asked if she had &quot;watched him make it.&quot; The guy overheard this.</h2><blockquote> <p>When I put her drink in front of her, she looked at it, then to her friend beside her and asked &quot;did you watch him make it?&quot; Her friend goes &quot;no, I was talking&quot; or something. She looks at me and starts to try to deny the drink. I heard her ask her friend that question so I said &quot;are you kidding?&quot;. I have a sense of humor so I could have taken it as a joke.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>HAHAHA YEAH YOU SEEM HILARIOUS, PAL.</p><h2>The guy was extremely butthurt by the woman &quot;insinuating&quot; he could&#39;ve drugged her drink. So he kicked her out of his house, and not politely either.</h2><blockquote> <p>Now- if she didn&#39;t want a martini, she was welcome to have anything else. Or- if she didn&#39;t want any alcohol, she could have declined it outright. But she started to talk about drinks made her for that she didn&#39;t see made, so I interrupted her quickly with &quot;do you really think it&#39;s possible I drugged your drink or something?&quot;. She was being serious so I told her to &quot;get the fuck out of my house&quot; and I pointed to the door.</p> </blockquote><h2>Apparently other people were angry because she was their ride, which reflects badly on everyone since she was drinking.</h2><p>But the original poster still comes across as the biggest tool in the shed.</p><blockquote> <p>She was the ride for a few people and one of her friends told me to not be like that but I said no, I don&#39;t care who she drove, you can leave with her if you want to, but she&#39;s leaving now. She had her chance to give <em>any</em> explanation besides me possibly drugging her drink, but didn&#39;t. No one has ever seen me kick someone out before so it really stopped the party for a minute. But she went out and we carried on. I basically explained to whoever wanted to talk about it that I felt disrespected in my own home for no good reason and that is cause for me to kick someone out.</p> <p>What do you think, AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Clearly there was some pushback, because this guy turned to Reddit to ask if he&#39;s the a**hole in this scenario.</p><h2>Commenters did not hold back, almost unanimously agreeing yes, he is in fact, the a**hole. And a big one.</h2><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Lil-Lanata/">Lil-Lanata</a> writes that he &quot;valued his pride above her safety&quot;:</p><blockquote> <p><span style="font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">YTA. [You&#39;re the A**hole]</span></p> <p>You might have been insulted, but this is a literal case of life and death for women.</p> <p>These are precautions we take everywhere.</p> <p>You never know who is capable of this, until they&#39;re caught.</p> <p>She&#39;s looking out for her safety.</p> <p>You valued your pride more than her safety.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SevenLight/">SevenLight</a> pointed out that she was doing what women are constantly told to do, to prevent men from assaulting them:</p><blockquote> <p>Also victims of rape and assault often get criticised for not being &quot;careful&quot; enough. And then this girl does what pretty much everyone recommends women do when drinking with a crowd of people, and is kicked out the house for it. Sucks to be her.</p> <p>YTA OP.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>A few people pointed out she shouldn&#39;t have been drinking martinis if she was designated driver. But he&#39;s still the a**hole.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SarcasticBlackCat/">SarcasticBlackCat</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Look at it from her POV, a guy she doesn&rsquo;t know put an unasked for drink in front of her, then got angry when she said no. That&rsquo;s a major red flag.</p> <p>Also ESH if she was drink driving.</p> </blockquote><h2>And many pointed out that being cautious before accepting a drink from a stranger is &quot;life or death&quot; for women.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/quackerlackin/">quackerlackin</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. She doesn&rsquo;t know you. I don&rsquo;t drink anything I don&rsquo;t see made. It&rsquo;s a common safety practice. It&rsquo;s a life or death thing that you probably have never had to worry about. You should talk to some of your close female friends/family about this and see what they say. Try to learn something.</p> </blockquote><p>There are many more comments in this vein, but you get the gist. Hopefully this guy read them and is able to get down off his high horse for a second to acknowledge what a big a**hole he was and apologize to this woman. And hopefully all of these people find out about Uber so they can stop relying on a woman drinking martinis to drive them home.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Guy asks if he was wrong to kick girl out of party who thought he could have drugged her drink.

Most men don&#39;t understand the fear many women experience every day and the precautionary measures we take to protect ourselves and our bodies. This ignorance was perfectly highlighted in a recent post on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot; forum by a guy who turned out to absolutely be the a**hole.The guy hosted a party for co-workers at his house, then freaked out and kicked a woman out for &quot;insinuating&quot; that he may have drugged a drink he mixed for her.As many commenters have energetically pointed out, women have many, many reasons to not accept a drink from a man they don&#39;t know. And for him to take this personally instead of understand her reason for being cautious is an a**hole move, to the max.He writes: This was tonight/this morning (it&#39;s after 5am). Last night was a big work party at a bar. We came back to my place because I have a fully furnished basement, with stocked bar, where I host parties. This was coworkers I know well and some I don&#39;t. I always play bartender when I host because it&#39;s my bar in my house and it&#39;s just what I do. Already pretty clear this guy is the a**hole because of the way he says &quot;it&#39;s my bar in my house and it&#39;s just what I do,&quot; but I&#39;ll tell the rest of the story anyway.He explains that he mixed martinis for his co-workers, including a woman who &quot;works at a different company&quot; and therefore probably doesn&#39;t know him well, if at all.He also describes her as a &quot;girl,&quot; so this guy is definitely on watch. A girl who works for the company at another office is sitting at my packed bar table and I mixed her a martini because I saw her drinking martinis at the bar before. I did the exact same thing for everyone at my bar; Mixed them their cocktail of choice either by noticing what they had earlier, or asking them. She wasn&#39;t first to be served so she saw me doing this. After setting a drink in front of her (which she didn&#39;t ask for), the woman turned to her friend and asked if she had &quot;watched him make it.&quot; The guy overheard this. When I put her drink in front of her, she looked at it, then to her friend beside her and asked &quot;did you watch him make it?&quot; Her friend goes &quot;no, I was talking&quot; or something. She looks at me and starts to try to deny the drink. I heard her ask her friend that question so I said &quot;are you kidding?&quot;. I have a sense of humor so I could have taken it as a joke. HAHAHA YEAH YOU SEEM HILARIOUS, PAL.The guy was extremely butthurt by the woman &quot;insinuating&quot; he could&#39;ve drugged her drink. So he kicked her out of his house, and not politely either. Now- if she didn&#39;t want a martini, she was welcome to have anything else. Or- if she didn&#39;t want any alcohol, she could have declined it outright. But she started to talk about drinks made her for that she didn&#39;t see made, so I interrupted her quickly with &quot;do you really think it&#39;s possible I drugged your drink or something?&quot;. She was being serious so I told her to &quot;get the fuck out of my house&quot; and I pointed to the door. Apparently other people were angry because she was their ride, which reflects badly on everyone since she was drinking.But the original poster still comes across as the biggest tool in the shed. She was the ride for a few people and one of her friends told me to not be like that but I said no, I don&#39;t care who she drove, you can leave with her if you want to, but she&#39;s leaving now. She had her chance to give any explanation besides me possibly drugging her drink, but didn&#39;t. No one has ever seen me kick someone out before so it really stopped the party for a minute. But she went out and we carried on. I basically explained to whoever wanted to talk about it that I felt disrespected in my own home for no good reason and that is cause for me to kick someone out. What do you think, AITA? Clearly there was some pushback, because this guy turned to Reddit to ask if he&#39;s the a**hole in this scenario.Commenters did not hold back, almost unanimously agreeing yes, he is in fact, the a**hole. And a big one. Lil-Lanata writes that he &quot;valued his pride above her safety&quot;: YTA. [You&#39;re the A**hole] You might have been insulted, but this is a literal case of life and death for women. These are precautions we take everywhere. You never know who is capable of this, until they&#39;re caught. She&#39;s looking out for her safety. You valued your pride more than her safety. SevenLight pointed out that she was doing what women are constantly told to do, to prevent men from assaulting them: Also victims of rape and assault often get criticised for not being &quot;careful&quot; enough. And then this girl does what pretty much everyone recommends women do when drinking with a crowd of people, and is kicked out the house for it. Sucks to be her. YTA OP. A few people pointed out she shouldn&#39;t have been drinking martinis if she was designated driver. But he&#39;s still the a**hole.SarcasticBlackCat writes: YTA. Look at it from her POV, a guy she doesn&rsquo;t know put an unasked for drink in front of her, then got angry when she said no. That&rsquo;s a major red flag. Also ESH if she was drink driving. And many pointed out that being cautious before accepting a drink from a stranger is &quot;life or death&quot; for women.quackerlackin: YTA. She doesn&rsquo;t know you. I don&rsquo;t drink anything I don&rsquo;t see made. It&rsquo;s a common safety practice. It&rsquo;s a life or death thing that you probably have never had to worry about. You should talk to some of your close female friends/family about this and see what they say. Try to learn something. There are many more comments in this vein, but you get the gist. Hopefully this guy read them and is able to get down off his high horse for a second to acknowledge what a big a**hole he was and apologize to this woman. And hopefully all of these people find out about Uber so they can stop relying on a woman drinking martinis to drive them home.

Most men don&#39;t understand the fear many women experience every day and the precautionary measures we take to protect ourselves and our bodies. This ignorance was perfectly highlighted in a recent post on Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I The...