Breakups

<p>Deciding to end a relationship can be a taxing, confusing process. It often involves weighing pros and cons, and agonizing over whether or not you&#39;d truly better off without this person. And then, once in a while, you find yourself dating a person who makes the decision to break up with them VERY easy. Thanks a lot to toxic and crazy exes out there for saving us all a lot of time on pros and cons lists!</p><h2>Someone <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/njrvgm/what_made_you_straight_up_nope_out_of_a/" target="_blank">asked</a> Reddit: &quot;What made you straight up &#39;nope&#39; out of a relationship?&quot;</h2><h2>These 25 people share stories of what an ex did to make them realize they needed to immediately end things without looking back:</h2><p>1.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Timidhobgoblin/">Timidhobgoblin</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>It was already on the rocks from roughly around the time the millionth drunken argument happened, however the moment that sealed it was when she said something to me along the lines of &quot;if your dad wanted to be alive he would still be here&quot;</p> <p>My dad died in a car accident 3 years before that. Immediately went from loving her enough to make it work to thinking she was the most vile person on Earth.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>2.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lotus_flower2419/">lotus_flower2419</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>We went to the mall and stopped by this little kiosk selling cookies. I decided that I would get one cookie. The lady working there said if I buy 2 I get one free. I decided to buy two and get the third one free. My date WENT OFF on this lady saying she&#39;s trying to scam me ect ect. He was legit yelling so loud that it was echoing through the mall. It was so embarrassing. If you&#39;re rude to people in customer service, you&#39;re not for me.</p> </blockquote><p>3.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SomeDudeFromOnline/">SomeDudeFromOnline</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>She kept waking me up over and over all night trying to have an argument with me.</p> <p>The argument was about me going to sleep.</p> </blockquote><p>4.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/blackmobius/">blackmobius</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She picked me because I had the same first name, general appearance, and lived in the same area of the state as her ex fiance, of two years, that she had just been dumped by a month before we met. I felt even more offended about all of that than just being straight up rejected.</p> </blockquote><p>5.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ghettoccult_nerd/">ghettoccult_nerd</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>im a black person. my bestest buddy in the whole wide world is a white person. we were roomies at one point. he brought a date over, i met her, nothing weird. but as it turned out, she a had problem with my bromeo living with a black person (me). he immediately broke it off with her. i dont have many friends, but id like to think i got quality over quantity.</p> </blockquote><p>6.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pdAVEUS/">pdAVEUS</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>When she game home drunk one night, asking me if my brother had told me.</p> <p>&quot;Told me what?&quot;</p> <p>Her: that I cheated on you with him.</p> </blockquote><p>7.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ChewwyStick/">ChewwyStick</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>She came to stay for the first time. It was the night before new years eve and we were planning to go out drinking for new years eve. I had just worked a 12 hour shift, carpet fitter so manual labor so I was exhausted. She had a few drinks and started to get aggressive because I wanted to just relax that night but she wanted to go out drinking.</p> <p>We broke up 3 days later. My father was an aggressive drunk when I was a kid so I could see how it would go... If you know you&#39;re an aggressive drunk, get off the drink man.</p> </blockquote><p>8.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/vtoken6/">vtoken6</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My brother came to visit me. After I spend whole day with my gf, it was time to see my brother because we did not see each other for a long time. We prepared some snacks and about to start lotr because both of us love lotr. She called me and started a long conversation on phone. I said my brother is waiting for me and she said that I cannot spend my time with anyone because my time belongs to her. It was the last talk between the two of us.</p> </blockquote><p>9.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SharMarali/">SharMarali</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I had a very long and toxic relationship with an ex. I had wanted to leave for years, but he would threaten to kill himself and I would end up staying.</p> <p>I finally got the courage to walk away when I was diagnosed with several benign liver tumors and was told by the doctor that it was very important with this type of tumor to immediately and permanently stop taking hormonal birth control. I researched it on my own and confirmed the single most important thing I could do to avoid further complications was to stop taking hormonal birth control for good.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told my (then husband) about the appointment and he said, so calmly &quot;Well that&#39;s going to be a problem.&quot;</p> <p>I was like, what do you mean? I&#39;ll go to the gyno as soon as I can get an appointment and we can just use condoms until then.</p> <p>Nope. Condoms were unacceptable because we were married. And not having sex until I got to the gyno was also unacceptable.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>What really made my blood run cold though, was when he suggested that I should continue to take birth control as normal and just not tell the doctor. &quot;He&#39;ll never know,&quot; he said. Then he went on to suggest maybe I could go on and off birth control so I&#39;d be off of it before any follow up appointments with this doctor, to ensure that he&#39;d never know.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was totally stunned and I just looked at him and said &quot;You understand this could kill me? This isn&#39;t about placating a doctor, this is about my life.&quot; He just shrugged and said he wasn&#39;t using condoms and I needed to &quot;figure it out.&quot;</p> <p>I did figure it out. I left him more than a decade ago and have never been happier.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>10.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Traditional_Staff318/">Traditional_Staff318</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>She told me she was on birth control, turns out she thought drinking a lot of mountain dew would make it so she couldn&#39;t get pregnant.</p> </blockquote><p>11.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Smooth-Revolution958/">Smooth-Revolution958</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>She wanted our relationship to be exclusive but secret.</p> </blockquote><p>12.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/No-Umpire4788/">No-Umpire4788</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Told everybody she knew about any little disagreement. Anytime I could be perceived unreasonable it was everyone&rsquo;s business. But somehow the surprises, special dates, lending her cousin rent money, all of that wasn&rsquo;t brought up. Just 0 negative stuff was public knowledge.<button aria-label="upvote" aria-pressed="false" data-click-id="upvote"></button></p> </blockquote><p>13. From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/whatsername235/">whatsername235</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Followed me to a night out, got on his knees stopping traffic in the middle of a city centre street to declare his love. We had been on two dates. He also told me that same night he could see into the future and already knew he was going to die defending my honour while I was carrying our twins.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>14.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Riccardotensi/">Riccardotensi</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I dated this girl who was jealous, and I mean SUPER jealous. I couldn&#39;t hang out with my friends without her constantly calling me (obviously I couldn&#39;t do the same, because how could I be jealous, that would&#39;ve meant I didn&#39;t trust her).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>That&#39;s annoying enough to end a relationship, but it was just the tip of the iceberg. After 9 months, I found out from one of my friends (who also happened to be a close friend of hers) that she had been hiding her sexuality to me (she was actually bi). At first I really didn&#39;t get why she did that, because I absolutely have no problem with these things.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Mutual friend then told me that she was going around having sex with other women. So basically she was hiding her bisexuality so that she could have sex with any girl she wanted to, without me even suspecting anything.</p> <p>When I told her I knew everything, she started telling me that se didn&#39;t want me to know because &quot;those other people didn&#39;t really matter for her and she didn&#39;t love them&quot;.</p> <p>Needless to say, I noped the f**k outta there</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>15.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Cannotakema/">Cannotakema</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Lady stayed the night for first time then started taking pictures of my house the next morning and posting them on social media. She put my bedroom, living room, and master bath on and I was like...what are you doing.</p> <p>She said &quot;I want everyone to see your place&quot;.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I said &quot;Uhh, let me take you home&quot;.</p> <p>Told her I didn&#39;t like that she did that. Then she complained on social media how I was so petty for not liking her posting my house. Then called me up to go out again. I was just astonished she thought I would be like post my house, speak ill of me, and come on back. That was one night... NOPE</p> </blockquote><p>16.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/zerobeat/">zerobeat</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Showed up late at my place one night because she couldn&#39;t sleep at her place alone. I was fine with that until she started talking about the reason why: when she was alone, the demons in the corners and edges of the room would fill the dark spots and watch with their glowing eyes. Urged her continuously to get help, to go to the doctor but she wouldn&#39;t do it -- what she was seeing was <em>real</em>. I felt terrible leaving her for that but I wasn&#39;t equipped to deal with someone who needed professional help and refused it.</p> </blockquote><p>17.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/elmsa517/">elmsa517</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>He didn&#39;t have a car so I&#39;d help him with rides to work. He worked 3rd shift at toys r us stocking shelves. I picked him up one night and he was so drunk he could barely stand. I made some comment about how he isn&#39;t going to be able to work. He started throwing sh*t at me in the parking lot, I threw his sh*t on the ground and left him there. (I&#39;ve dealt with one too many alcoholics and I wasn&#39;t wasting anymore of my time)</p> <p>Cut to 5 years later he is now sober and getting married this year! So good for him!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>18.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mental_Vacation/">Mental_Vacation</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Two week after my mother died he asked &quot;is that still bothering you?&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>19.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TotallyWorrie/">TotallyWorrie</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>After our first date she sent me a Google maps pin of my address with just &ldquo;Haha&rdquo; as the only context. I hadn&rsquo;t told her my address then followed it up with asking how my boss was doing by using his first name. I hadn&rsquo;t mentioned the name of anyone from my work.</p> <p>That level of stalker made me pull the eject handle real quick.</p> </blockquote><p>20.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/fakefelines/">fakefelines</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>He told me I was stupid for &ldquo;believing in dinosaurs&rdquo; 🤯</p> </blockquote><p>21.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Blabernathy/">Blabernathy</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I had a huge crush on her for a while but never had the opportunity to talk to her given our weird work schedules. Then a friend from work sets us up; I was elated. First date goes really really well and we hit it off. We start spending as much time as we can aroind each other, talking on the phone every night, all the special things you do when you&#39;re starting a new relationship.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Then she starts coming over more often unannounced. She would say for a couple nights, then a week, then two weeks. I would come home from work and she would be in my house, sometimes drunk. Thing was she had almost been fired for an incident involving alcohol before and was lying to them about her sobriety. She would have a few too many then go off about her family or how i was wasn&#39;t taking our two-month relationship &quot;serious enough.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Final straw dropped on Valentine&#39;s Day this year. She gets annihilated to the point of not being able to walk on her own. After I refuse her drunk advances she flips out. What followed was a couple hours of her threatening to drive home drunk, sitting outside so the cold weather would freeze her to death, laying in my bed and wailing my name till horse, and alternating between manic laughter and crying. Two days later, once she was sobered up, I told her to kick rocks. We dated for just around 3 months. Quickest turnaround ever for me in a relationship.</p> </blockquote><p>22.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/schroedingersnewcat/">schroedingersnewcat</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;Not like you&#39;re not pretty, but you would be so much more attractive if you looked like [insert my baby sister&#39;s name].&quot;</p> <p>To which I said, &quot;you mean 15 years younger (and a minor), 6&#39;, blonde, and a size 2?&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>He said it in front of his friends, and everything went dead silent. His best friend punched his arm and told him he was being a dick. I got up and walked out. His sister called later to apologize for him being an asshole, and told me his entire family was pissed at him.</p> <p>Worst part? He genuinely didn&#39;t think he did anything wrong.</p> </blockquote><p>23.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/blergflergflurgen/">blergflergflurgen</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I was dating a really cool guy and everything was going great&hellip; and then about a month in he started talking baby talk to me and it did not stop.</p> </blockquote><p>24.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RodneyLaGroneII/">RodneyLaGroneII</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Got mad when I wouldn&#39;t come see her..... during a hurricane. Bye Felicia her real quick.</p> </blockquote><p>25.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/eggpantemoji/">eggpantemoji</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>After maybe 2 years of him constantly trying to make me jealous, we temporarily had a 16hr time difference as I was traveling home to see my grandparents. When I was ASLEEP for maybe 7 hours (because well... it was night time...) and I had not responded to his 50 texts, he finally said he was going to spend time with other girls for 7 hours that day bc that&rsquo;s how long I &ldquo;was probably going around spreading legs.&rdquo; Lol idk why but at that moment it was like a moment of clarity, and I just replied ok. Blocked him, his family, and all his friends and just moved on.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

25 people share the red flags that made them run from a relationship.

Deciding to end a relationship can be a taxing, confusing process. It often involves weighing pros and cons, and agonizing over whether or not you&#39;d truly better off without this person. And then, once in a while, you find yourself dating a person who makes the decision to break up with them VERY easy. Thanks a lot to toxic and crazy exes out there for saving us all a lot of time on pros and cons lists!Someone asked Reddit: &quot;What made you straight up &#39;nope&#39; out of a relationship?&quot;These 25 people share stories of what an ex did to make them realize they needed to immediately end things without looking back:1.) From Timidhobgoblin: It was already on the rocks from roughly around the time the millionth drunken argument happened, however the moment that sealed it was when she said something to me along the lines of &quot;if your dad wanted to be alive he would still be here&quot; My dad died in a car accident 3 years before that. Immediately went from loving her enough to make it work to thinking she was the most vile person on Earth. 2.) From lotus_flower2419: We went to the mall and stopped by this little kiosk selling cookies. I decided that I would get one cookie. The lady working there said if I buy 2 I get one free. I decided to buy two and get the third one free. My date WENT OFF on this lady saying she&#39;s trying to scam me ect ect. He was legit yelling so loud that it was echoing through the mall. It was so embarrassing. If you&#39;re rude to people in customer service, you&#39;re not for me. 3.) From SomeDudeFromOnline: She kept waking me up over and over all night trying to have an argument with me. The argument was about me going to sleep. 4.) From blackmobius: She picked me because I had the same first name, general appearance, and lived in the same area of the state as her ex fiance, of two years, that she had just been dumped by a month before we met. I felt even more offended about all of that than just being straight up rejected. 5.) From ghettoccult_nerd: im a black person. my bestest buddy in the whole wide world is a white person. we were roomies at one point. he brought a date over, i met her, nothing weird. but as it turned out, she a had problem with my bromeo living with a black person (me). he immediately broke it off with her. i dont have many friends, but id like to think i got quality over quantity. 6.) From pdAVEUS: When she game home drunk one night, asking me if my brother had told me. &quot;Told me what?&quot; Her: that I cheated on you with him. 7.) From ChewwyStick: She came to stay for the first time. It was the night before new years eve and we were planning to go out drinking for new years eve. I had just worked a 12 hour shift, carpet fitter so manual labor so I was exhausted. She had a few drinks and started to get aggressive because I wanted to just relax that night but she wanted to go out drinking. We broke up 3 days later. My father was an aggressive drunk when I was a kid so I could see how it would go... If you know you&#39;re an aggressive drunk, get off the drink man. 8.) From vtoken6: My brother came to visit me. After I spend whole day with my gf, it was time to see my brother because we did not see each other for a long time. We prepared some snacks and about to start lotr because both of us love lotr. She called me and started a long conversation on phone. I said my brother is waiting for me and she said that I cannot spend my time with anyone because my time belongs to her. It was the last talk between the two of us. 9.) From SharMarali: I had a very long and toxic relationship with an ex. I had wanted to leave for years, but he would threaten to kill himself and I would end up staying. I finally got the courage to walk away when I was diagnosed with several benign liver tumors and was told by the doctor that it was very important with this type of tumor to immediately and permanently stop taking hormonal birth control. I researched it on my own and confirmed the single most important thing I could do to avoid further complications was to stop taking hormonal birth control for good.  I told my (then husband) about the appointment and he said, so calmly &quot;Well that&#39;s going to be a problem.&quot; I was like, what do you mean? I&#39;ll go to the gyno as soon as I can get an appointment and we can just use condoms until then. Nope. Condoms were unacceptable because we were married. And not having sex until I got to the gyno was also unacceptable.  What really made my blood run cold though, was when he suggested that I should continue to take birth control as normal and just not tell the doctor. &quot;He&#39;ll never know,&quot; he said. Then he went on to suggest maybe I could go on and off birth control so I&#39;d be off of it before any follow up appointments with this doctor, to ensure that he&#39;d never know.  I was totally stunned and I just looked at him and said &quot;You understand this could kill me? This isn&#39;t about placating a doctor, this is about my life.&quot; He just shrugged and said he wasn&#39;t using condoms and I needed to &quot;figure it out.&quot; I did figure it out. I left him more than a decade ago and have never been happier. 10.) From Traditional_Staff318: She told me she was on birth control, turns out she thought drinking a lot of mountain dew would make it so she couldn&#39;t get pregnant. 11.) From Smooth-Revolution958: She wanted our relationship to be exclusive but secret. 12.) From No-Umpire4788: Told everybody she knew about any little disagreement. Anytime I could be perceived unreasonable it was everyone&rsquo;s business. But somehow the surprises, special dates, lending her cousin rent money, all of that wasn&rsquo;t brought up. Just 0 negative stuff was public knowledge. 13. From whatsername235: Followed me to a night out, got on his knees stopping traffic in the middle of a city centre street to declare his love. We had been on two dates. He also told me that same night he could see into the future and already knew he was going to die defending my honour while I was carrying our twins. 14.) From Riccardotensi: I dated this girl who was jealous, and I mean SUPER jealous. I couldn&#39;t hang out with my friends without her constantly calling me (obviously I couldn&#39;t do the same, because how could I be jealous, that would&#39;ve meant I didn&#39;t trust her).  That&#39;s annoying enough to end a relationship, but it was just the tip of the iceberg. After 9 months, I found out from one of my friends (who also happened to be a close friend of hers) that she had been hiding her sexuality to me (she was actually bi). At first I really didn&#39;t get why she did that, because I absolutely have no problem with these things.  Mutual friend then told me that she was going around having sex with other women. So basically she was hiding her bisexuality so that she could have sex with any girl she wanted to, without me even suspecting anything. When I told her I knew everything, she started telling me that se didn&#39;t want me to know because &quot;those other people didn&#39;t really matter for her and she didn&#39;t love them&quot;. Needless to say, I noped the f**k outta there 15.) From Cannotakema: Lady stayed the night for first time then started taking pictures of my house the next morning and posting them on social media. She put my bedroom, living room, and master bath on and I was like...what are you doing. She said &quot;I want everyone to see your place&quot;.  I said &quot;Uhh, let me take you home&quot;. Told her I didn&#39;t like that she did that. Then she complained on social media how I was so petty for not liking her posting my house. Then called me up to go out again. I was just astonished she thought I would be like post my house, speak ill of me, and come on back. That was one night... NOPE 16.) From zerobeat: Showed up late at my place one night because she couldn&#39;t sleep at her place alone. I was fine with that until she started talking about the reason why: when she was alone, the demons in the corners and edges of the room would fill the dark spots and watch with their glowing eyes. Urged her continuously to get help, to go to the doctor but she wouldn&#39;t do it -- what she was seeing was real. I felt terrible leaving her for that but I wasn&#39;t equipped to deal with someone who needed professional help and refused it. 17.) From elmsa517: He didn&#39;t have a car so I&#39;d help him with rides to work. He worked 3rd shift at toys r us stocking shelves. I picked him up one night and he was so drunk he could barely stand. I made some comment about how he isn&#39;t going to be able to work. He started throwing sh*t at me in the parking lot, I threw his sh*t on the ground and left him there. (I&#39;ve dealt with one too many alcoholics and I wasn&#39;t wasting anymore of my time) Cut to 5 years later he is now sober and getting married this year! So good for him! 18.) From Mental_Vacation: Two week after my mother died he asked &quot;is that still bothering you?&quot; 19.) From TotallyWorrie: After our first date she sent me a Google maps pin of my address with just &ldquo;Haha&rdquo; as the only context. I hadn&rsquo;t told her my address then followed it up with asking how my boss was doing by using his first name. I hadn&rsquo;t mentioned the name of anyone from my work. That level of stalker made me pull the eject handle real quick. 20.) From fakefelines: He told me I was stupid for &ldquo;believing in dinosaurs&rdquo; 🤯 21.) From Blabernathy: I had a huge crush on her for a while but never had the opportunity to talk to her given our weird work schedules. Then a friend from work sets us up; I was elated. First date goes really really well and we hit it off. We start spending as much time as we can aroind each other, talking on the phone every night, all the special things you do when you&#39;re starting a new relationship.  Then she starts coming over more often unannounced. She would say for a couple nights, then a week, then two weeks. I would come home from work and she would be in my house, sometimes drunk. Thing was she had almost been fired for an incident involving alcohol before and was lying to them about her sobriety. She would have a few too many then go off about her family or how i was wasn&#39;t taking our two-month relationship &quot;serious enough.&quot;  Final straw dropped on Valentine&#39;s Day this year. She gets annihilated to the point of not being able to walk on her own. After I refuse her drunk advances she flips out. What followed was a couple hours of her threatening to drive home drunk, sitting outside so the cold weather would freeze her to death, laying in my bed and wailing my name till horse, and alternating between manic laughter and crying. Two days later, once she was sobered up, I told her to kick rocks. We dated for just around 3 months. Quickest turnaround ever for me in a relationship. 22.) From schroedingersnewcat: &quot;Not like you&#39;re not pretty, but you would be so much more attractive if you looked like [insert my baby sister&#39;s name].&quot; To which I said, &quot;you mean 15 years younger (and a minor), 6&#39;, blonde, and a size 2?&quot;  He said it in front of his friends, and everything went dead silent. His best friend punched his arm and told him he was being a dick. I got up and walked out. His sister called later to apologize for him being an asshole, and told me his entire family was pissed at him. Worst part? He genuinely didn&#39;t think he did anything wrong. 23.) From blergflergflurgen: I was dating a really cool guy and everything was going great&hellip; and then about a month in he started talking baby talk to me and it did not stop. 24.) From RodneyLaGroneII: Got mad when I wouldn&#39;t come see her..... during a hurricane. Bye Felicia her real quick. 25.) From eggpantemoji: After maybe 2 years of him constantly trying to make me jealous, we temporarily had a 16hr time difference as I was traveling home to see my grandparents. When I was ASLEEP for maybe 7 hours (because well... it was night time...) and I had not responded to his 50 texts, he finally said he was going to spend time with other girls for 7 hours that day bc that&rsquo;s how long I &ldquo;was probably going around spreading legs.&rdquo; Lol idk why but at that moment it was like a moment of clarity, and I just replied ok. Blocked him, his family, and all his friends and just moved on. 

Deciding to end a relationship can be a taxing, confusing process. It often involves weighing pros and cons, and agonizing over whether or not you&#39;d truly better off without this person. And then, once in a while, you find yourself...