Breakups

&quot;Red flags&quot; are meant to warn us not to enter unsafe territory. In dating, they can remind us to jump ship before committing to a relationship with someone. But sometimes, we don&#39;t notice them until we&#39;ve already committed. Luckily, it&#39;s never to late to end a relationship.In a popular Reddit thread, someone <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/run3ly/what_are_some_red_flags_that_made_you_leave_the/" target="_blank">asked</a>: &quot;What are some red flags that made you leave the relationship?&quot;<h2>These 18 people reveal the red flags displayed by an ex-partner that made them say &quot;enough is enough!&quot;</h2>Someone who is constantly jealous or accuses you of cheating is usually a bad sign, especially if you&#39;re not actually cheating...1.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pineapplewars/">pineapplewars</a>:<blockquote> Constantly accused me of cheating or that I was going to leave her because I was getting serious about my weight loss and health. </blockquote>2.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Its_Marz/">Its_Marz</a>:<blockquote> She asked me if I had a bank account a few days in the relationship and said she wanted to link accounts so we shared the money and I was immediately put off by that and on top of that she had a problem with me not wanting to be in a open relationship </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>3.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PurgatoryMountain/">PurgatoryMountain</a>:<blockquote> She was always checking my phone if I left it laying around. I&rsquo;d wake up from a nap and she would be looking through my phone. I gave her the passcode because I had nothing to hide. When I finally had enough I asked her to show me her phone and she refused and guarded it like Fort Knox </blockquote>4.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/admire816/">admire816</a>:<blockquote> We broke up 2 weeks ago. She used her religion as an excuse to get out of things she didn&rsquo;t like and ignored her religion when it came to things she likes. Told me I couldn&rsquo;t do elf on the shelf with my daughter (Yeah. It&rsquo;s dumb) because it&rsquo;s a satanic ritual but she drinks like a fish, multiple cosmetic surgeries/body modification and monthly Botox, premarital sex, and so on. I don&rsquo;t care if someone is religious, just be consistent. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Money can be the source of many problems in a relationship. How a person handles money can say a lot about their character, and what they&#39;re like as a partner. </blockquote>5.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Eezez/">Eezez</a>:<blockquote> When we were just starting out we ran into some unexpected financial difficulties. We had to borrow money from my parents to make rent one month. I was vocal about how much I hated doing it, and how badly I wanted to pay them back as soon as possible. He took some of the money, bought an expensive bottle of high-quality alcohol and hid it from me. He was not working at the time. </blockquote>6.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/itsaChaoticAries/" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">itsaChaoticAries</a><span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.01em;">:<blockquote> He told me to accept that he is a playboy and that he is always horny because he is a scorpio. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>7.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/farfaleen/">farfaleen</a>:<blockquote> He ruined every big event. He had an attitude that didn&#39;t let you enjoy anything. He would act happy and excited leading up to said event, then just ruin it. </blockquote>Cheating, or attempted cheating, is one of the more obvious red flags. Even redder if the attempted cheating is with one of your close friends!8.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ErebusTotallus/">ErebusTotallus</a>:<blockquote> A friend of mine sat me down one day and told me she&#39;d been smoking pot with him (he was a dealer at the time) and telling him how bad she wanted him, basically begging him for sex. He turned her down every time but admitted he wanted to be with her and didn&#39;t think I deserved to be cheated on. He made it clear he was interested, but also that he wouldn&#39;t come between us, so it was my decision how things went. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> She denied it but I dumped her shortly afterward and she started dating him maybe a week later. He was kind of an ass most of the time but I&#39;ve always appreciated him giving me the heads up instead of just letting her cheat and me be none the wiser. </blockquote>Crossing boundaries, or in this case stalking, is never a good look. If this happens, run! Also maybe move, and change your name.9.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/El_Duende666/">El_Duende666</a>:<blockquote> She showed up at my job, but what&rsquo;s crazier is that I never told her where I worked. </blockquote>10.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/nottoocleverami/">nottoocleverami</a>:<blockquote> Calling my house every five minutes until i picked up. And then there was &quot;don&#39;t blame yourself if anything happens to me.&quot; 🙄 </blockquote>If a partner doesn&#39;t make you happy, or worse, if they make you unhappy, what&#39;s the point of the relationship? YOLO! Choose happiness!<div className="ad-splitter"></div>11.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Duwinayo/">Duwinayo</a>:<blockquote> When I moved for work and felt my mental health returning. I thought I was happier because I moved to a city I wanted to be in, but instead I discovered that each time she visited I wasn&#39;t happy about it. I had a pretty big break down after she broke up with me, but after that... The world seemed brighter, probably due to the lack of gaslighting! </blockquote>12.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/flaflashr/">flaflashr</a>:<blockquote> She f**ked other men and refused to admit it. When I finally confronted her with incontrovertible evidence, she refused to end it. So after 32 years, I filed for divorce </blockquote>13.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/skwirrelnut/">skwirrelnut</a>:<blockquote> During High School, she accused me of getting her pregnant when I picked her up at her house, In front of her family. Note that it was a blind date with someone I had never even met before. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>Sometimes, a partner will directly tell you about their red flags so you don&#39;t even have to go searching for them. Consider this a gift. A sh*tty gift, but a gift nonetheless.14.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/grcnadier/">grcnadier</a>:<blockquote> Probably when I told them I needed them to come to couples therapy with me, because I was tired of having the same arguments and I was miserable because of these issues we were having, and their response was to look me dead in the face and say &quot;I don&#39;t want to go, because they&#39;ll just tell me I&#39;m wrong and I don&#39;t want to have to change. &quot; </blockquote><blockquote> Hit me then that they didn&#39;t actually care if I wasn&#39;t happy. Just that they were. Hard to misinterpret when they literally say it to you. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>We all love animals. But there&#39;s such a thing as loving animals too much. This is a red flag that is covered in fur.15.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WeathermanCan/">WeathermanCan</a>:<blockquote> They couldn&#39;t stop adopting new pets. Like 1 - 2 new animals a week. We lived in a 2 room flat. </blockquote>16.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/alley_cat94/">alley_cat94</a>:<blockquote> I had to bend over backwards to get the smallest amount of effort, like simple &ldquo; goodmorning, good nights, and goodbyes&rdquo; </blockquote>17.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lianaseviltwin/">lianaseviltwin</a>:<blockquote> My ex husband would get moody when my plans would change or when I would come home early from a trip... I ignored it but something wasn&#39;t right... Eventually he just started treating me like I was somehow in his way ..still claiming he had been faithful.. I left him. Many years later he admitted constant infidelity.... It was not a shock. Sometimes you know.. even if you don&#39;t know you know... </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>I stopped reading at &quot;DJ.&quot; *Record scratch* RED FLA-A-A-A-AG.18.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/StayCee35/">StayCee35</a>:<blockquote> He was a little older than me and well known around the city (a DJ) and he loved taking me and my friends and coworkers out and entertaining us. It was a good time and I&#39;m the type of person that likes to include people in things they might not have a chance to do again. It was a blast. </blockquote><blockquote> Then he started taking them out when I wasn&#39;t around and entertaining them at our place. He later referred to me as &quot;the greatest unintentional wingman&quot; he ever met in front of people I knew. Luckily at least one of my coworkers was a decent person and clued me in. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

18 people share the 'red flags' that made them leave a relationship.

&quot;Red flags&quot; are meant to warn us not to enter unsafe territory. In dating, they can remind us to jump ship before committing to a relationship with someone. But sometimes, we don&#39;t notice them until we&#39;ve already committed. Luckily, it&#39;s never to late to end a relationship.In a popular Reddit thread, someone asked: &quot;What are some red flags that made you leave the relationship?&quot;These 18 people reveal the red flags displayed by an ex-partner that made them say &quot;enough is enough!&quot;Someone who is constantly jealous or accuses you of cheating is usually a bad sign, especially if you&#39;re not actually cheating...1.) From pineapplewars: Constantly accused me of cheating or that I was going to leave her because I was getting serious about my weight loss and health. 2.) From Its_Marz: She asked me if I had a bank account a few days in the relationship and said she wanted to link accounts so we shared the money and I was immediately put off by that and on top of that she had a problem with me not wanting to be in a open relationship 3.) From PurgatoryMountain: She was always checking my phone if I left it laying around. I&rsquo;d wake up from a nap and she would be looking through my phone. I gave her the passcode because I had nothing to hide. When I finally had enough I asked her to show me her phone and she refused and guarded it like Fort Knox 4.) From admire816: We broke up 2 weeks ago. She used her religion as an excuse to get out of things she didn&rsquo;t like and ignored her religion when it came to things she likes. Told me I couldn&rsquo;t do elf on the shelf with my daughter (Yeah. It&rsquo;s dumb) because it&rsquo;s a satanic ritual but she drinks like a fish, multiple cosmetic surgeries/body modification and monthly Botox, premarital sex, and so on. I don&rsquo;t care if someone is religious, just be consistent.  Money can be the source of many problems in a relationship. How a person handles money can say a lot about their character, and what they&#39;re like as a partner. 5.) From Eezez: When we were just starting out we ran into some unexpected financial difficulties. We had to borrow money from my parents to make rent one month. I was vocal about how much I hated doing it, and how badly I wanted to pay them back as soon as possible. He took some of the money, bought an expensive bottle of high-quality alcohol and hid it from me. He was not working at the time. 6.) From itsaChaoticAries: He told me to accept that he is a playboy and that he is always horny because he is a scorpio. 7.) From farfaleen: He ruined every big event. He had an attitude that didn&#39;t let you enjoy anything. He would act happy and excited leading up to said event, then just ruin it. Cheating, or attempted cheating, is one of the more obvious red flags. Even redder if the attempted cheating is with one of your close friends!8.) From ErebusTotallus: A friend of mine sat me down one day and told me she&#39;d been smoking pot with him (he was a dealer at the time) and telling him how bad she wanted him, basically begging him for sex. He turned her down every time but admitted he wanted to be with her and didn&#39;t think I deserved to be cheated on. He made it clear he was interested, but also that he wouldn&#39;t come between us, so it was my decision how things went.  She denied it but I dumped her shortly afterward and she started dating him maybe a week later. He was kind of an ass most of the time but I&#39;ve always appreciated him giving me the heads up instead of just letting her cheat and me be none the wiser. Crossing boundaries, or in this case stalking, is never a good look. If this happens, run! Also maybe move, and change your name.9.) From El_Duende666: She showed up at my job, but what&rsquo;s crazier is that I never told her where I worked. 10.) From nottoocleverami: Calling my house every five minutes until i picked up. And then there was &quot;don&#39;t blame yourself if anything happens to me.&quot; 🙄 If a partner doesn&#39;t make you happy, or worse, if they make you unhappy, what&#39;s the point of the relationship? YOLO! Choose happiness!11.) From Duwinayo: When I moved for work and felt my mental health returning. I thought I was happier because I moved to a city I wanted to be in, but instead I discovered that each time she visited I wasn&#39;t happy about it. I had a pretty big break down after she broke up with me, but after that... The world seemed brighter, probably due to the lack of gaslighting! 12.) From flaflashr: She f**ked other men and refused to admit it. When I finally confronted her with incontrovertible evidence, she refused to end it. So after 32 years, I filed for divorce 13.) From skwirrelnut: During High School, she accused me of getting her pregnant when I picked her up at her house, In front of her family. Note that it was a blind date with someone I had never even met before. Sometimes, a partner will directly tell you about their red flags so you don&#39;t even have to go searching for them. Consider this a gift. A sh*tty gift, but a gift nonetheless.14.) From grcnadier: Probably when I told them I needed them to come to couples therapy with me, because I was tired of having the same arguments and I was miserable because of these issues we were having, and their response was to look me dead in the face and say &quot;I don&#39;t want to go, because they&#39;ll just tell me I&#39;m wrong and I don&#39;t want to have to change. &quot;  Hit me then that they didn&#39;t actually care if I wasn&#39;t happy. Just that they were. Hard to misinterpret when they literally say it to you. We all love animals. But there&#39;s such a thing as loving animals too much. This is a red flag that is covered in fur.15.) From WeathermanCan: They couldn&#39;t stop adopting new pets. Like 1 - 2 new animals a week. We lived in a 2 room flat. 16.) From alley_cat94: I had to bend over backwards to get the smallest amount of effort, like simple &ldquo; goodmorning, good nights, and goodbyes&rdquo; 17.) From lianaseviltwin: My ex husband would get moody when my plans would change or when I would come home early from a trip... I ignored it but something wasn&#39;t right... Eventually he just started treating me like I was somehow in his way ..still claiming he had been faithful.. I left him. Many years later he admitted constant infidelity.... It was not a shock. Sometimes you know.. even if you don&#39;t know you know... I stopped reading at &quot;DJ.&quot; *Record scratch* RED FLA-A-A-A-AG.18.) From StayCee35: He was a little older than me and well known around the city (a DJ) and he loved taking me and my friends and coworkers out and entertaining us. It was a good time and I&#39;m the type of person that likes to include people in things they might not have a chance to do again. It was a blast.  Then he started taking them out when I wasn&#39;t around and entertaining them at our place. He later referred to me as &quot;the greatest unintentional wingman&quot; he ever met in front of people I knew. Luckily at least one of my coworkers was a decent person and clued me in. 

&quot;Red flags&quot; are meant to warn us not to enter unsafe territory. In dating, they can remind us to jump ship before committing to a relationship with someone. But sometimes, we don&#39;t notice them until we&#39;ve already...