Brian O'Reilly, a journalist and advice columnist for The Irish Independent, was recently horrified by an unbelievably smug letter he received from an anonymous man who couldn't decide whether he should propose to his girlfriend of three years. Although their relationship was going great in all the important respects (sex), he worried that she wasn't "intellectual" enough for him to make a full commitment. If that sounds obnoxious, wait until you read the way he described it.
I'm at a crossroads. I have been dating my girlfriend for the past three years and she is a cracker. Very personable, beautiful and without going into too much detail - it's the best sex I've ever had. (She very open minded & adventurous).
Recently she's been dropping a lot of heavy hints that she's ready for me to do the good thing and propose. A lot of her friends are hitched so I guess it makes sense.
We're a great match in almost every regard but recently I've become more and more concerned about the disparity in our intellect.
Like I said she's a great girl but not the smartest girl. She once asked me if Peru was in Europe, and she has no interest in or understanding of current affairs. The only thing she seems to read are inspirational Instagram posts and the Mail Online.
At first this wasn't an issue - like I said the physical aspect of our relationship overshadowed things and we are a great match in most ways- but it's becoming a cause for concern when we're with other people. Sometimes when we're out with my colleagues and people start having intellectual conversations I feel awkward because I know she's out of her depth.
I don't know what to do - on one hand I know she's a kind and beautiful person, but on the other hand do I really want to marry a woman whose mastermind subjects would be Made in Chelsea and the Kardashians?