Don't worry, it's not just you: a study out of the University of Graz in Austria covered by New York Magazine found that people rate narcissists as more attractive and dateable. And yes, those people likely don't learn from their mistakes either.
The scientists at the University of Graz, led by Emanuel Jauk, published a study on speed dating in the European Journal of Psychology that gathered 90 people for 691 dates (hehe).
The Austrian singles filled out a sheet after a three minute chill sesh rating the person by physical attractiveness, and how much they'd like to pursue a short-term relationship (like a one-night stand or most millennial rendezvous) or a good, old fashioned, long-term courtship. In either case, they would acknowledge if they wanted to see that person again, which the psychologists call "actual mate choice."
The study found that subjects demonstrating traits such as narcissism, Machiavellianism (the willingness to manipulate people), and psychopathy (the inability to relate to others’ interior states) were ranked as more alluring, and more likely to be wanted. Only 30% of dudes were rated favorably by dudettes, and many of them had hints of one or three of those traits on the "dark triad."
In the likely imperfect science of dateability, dudes demonstrating traits of narcissism were associated with both short-term relationships and long-term relationships, particularly because of an associated physical attractiveness and extraversion.
More prone to vanity, narcissists display what the study calls a "mating effort," investing more into their appearance. And while it doesn't really take a scientific study to discover, narcissists are almost always charming and self-confident, traits that make for a fascinating date.
The study concluded that narcissism was “was associated with increased speed dating success (in terms of actual choices) and mate appeal in both sexes.”
So, take a tip from science. To find the one, consider becoming a vain asshole.