I was driven to online dating by equal parts loneliness and desperation. Working long hours for the first time had finally given me an excuse for why I hadn't met anyone. I chose OkCupid because it was free and I hadn't been employed that long.

After exchanging countless messages and several actual phone calls, we decided to meet. She was able to craft complete sentences and sounded surprisingly normal, so I deemed her a safe enough Internet stranger. The only hitch was that I had to meet her in New Jersey, far away from the comforts of my tiny studio apartment in Manhattan.