Eschewing online dating and attempting to make a real-life connection (!) that would not raise eyebrows as the plot of a feature film, Redditor Oversightovermind, 25, took to the Internet to ask advice. There was a hot guy at work who sat one floor up from her, in a building directly across from her window. So there he was in clear view, yet completely unreachable with anything but a friendly wave.
I work in a building right next to another one. I have a window seat, and from my desk I can see into the other tower that's right next to me. There's this guy who is incredibly attractive who sits one floor up. We wave to each other in the morning and evenings and smile when we catch each other's eyes but we've never actually talked. He put up a "Merry Christmas" which I think was directed at me but I don't know. This has been going on for over a year.
Obviously, as the year went on, this lovelorn Redditor couldn't get the guy out her head. Probably because she kept staring right at him in between sips of coffee and clicks of her mouse. And he at her. Her post continues:
It's so stupid but I've got it in my head that he could be this amazing guy but I know nothing about him. I really want to meet him in person but I have no idea how to do that. The buildings are super secure and there are a ton of entrances so it's not like I could wait by one of them and hope to run into him. I could theoretically put up a sign asking to meet for coffee or something but I just think that's so awkward and tacky, plus so many people would see it both in his building and mine and I don't want to attract that kind of attention.
That's one very secure building. And quite a conundrum. That's where Reddit makes its introduction, right in act two of her budding rom-com.
She asked for advice:
There's also always the chance that he's married, gay, not interested, not someone I would be into, he's not into me etc so I don't want to waste his time. And if we met and it didn't go well I'll have ruined a fun thing. What should I do?!
As you might expect, people got extremely excited.
One commenter suggested she use the mailroom to her advantage:
But that wouldn't work, Oversightovermind explained, because the mail people "don't even deliver mail to individual employees, just to the smaller mailroom on the floor."
Others just gave her encouragement, like Redditor mrsaxonhall:
Should you? probably...
If the worst that could happen is you ruin a fun thing, then consider how unfun wondering what could have been will be.
In fact, a lot of people said similar things.
Such as another Redditor, tryingtotumblr:
And thanks to a handful of endearing comments like that one, our glorious, love-struck OP went with her original idea. And, of course, she shared an update.
So we met! Thank you all for your comments, you talked me into doing it and I’m so glad I did. I made a little "coffee?” sign as a few of you suggested and held it up after our morning wave yesterday. I didn’t put anything else on the paper because I didn’t want to look like a keener but we managed to set something up pretty easily.
See how amazing a little encouragement can be for a person? Plus, thanks to her use of the word "keener," we know she's probably a Canadian.
Anyways it went really well. There were just a couple things that I'm not sure about. He's suuuuuper good looking in person, he's really tall and fit and he looks so good in his uniform. We hit it off pretty well. We had coffee and lunch yesterday and we are going for lunch again today, and we've been texting a lot too. When we were walking back after lunch we walked past one of his coworkers who was like “hey its you!” and I guess they were also telling him to contact me. He told me his Christmas sign was meant for me and when I didn’t make a sign back he just figured I wasn’t interested in talking to him but I only didn’t make one back since I didn’t know for sure it was for me.
Good thing he's still just as attractive as he looked from afar. As with any first date, there were a couple things that could put this romance in jeopardy.
One of the things I wasn't sure about is his age, he's 8 years older than me. I don't think it's necessarily a deal breaker but I've never dated someone that much older because they usually want to get married and settle down right away. That brings me to the second thing, he's technically married and is in the process of divorcing and it will be finalized in a few months. Not sure how to feel about that one… he said he is very happy about it but I have to wonder what the cause for the divorce is, but that’s not something I should just come out and ask though right? Also this is stupid but he’s one of those guys who sits with his legs waaaaay apart and I’ve always thought people who do that are assholes but maybe he is an exception to that rule! He offered to come get me when my car broke down yesterday so I know he's a good guy.
Don't worry, the Reddit commenters were sure to point out the various reasons why a man sitting "with his legs waaaaay" apart isn't a deal breaker. Tall guys do it all the time. And it seems like Oversightovermind can get over it if anyone can:
Either way he seems like a lot of fun and I’m glad I finally had the courage to reach out. Thanks reddit!
tl;dr: we met up and he seems like a really cool guy.
Bravo, Reddit. Once again, you have used your crowd sourcing powers for good instead of evil, shepherding this lady towards a successful rom-com. What will act three hold? All you can do is hope for more updates.