Here's yet another in a long list of "dating trends" (which includes fun practices like ghosting, love bombing, and cushioning) — this one is called sidebarring and it's almost one hundred percent definite that you've had it done to you and done it yourself.
You know when you're out with someone, having a good time, maybe on a date or just hanging out with a crush, and they look at their phone, you know, just to "check something"? But then they're responding to emails and totally absorbed in their phone and oh my god, are they looking at FACEBOOK right now? Uh-oh, you've just been sidebarred, baby.
And sidebarring doesn't just happen on dates — according to the Sun, friends can be guilty of doing it to each other, too. A study conducted by Facebook found that seventy-one percent of us have committed the social sin of sidebarring. It sucks, but you've got the entire internet to compete with, so don't take it personally.
Sometimes people who are looking at their phones say that they're also listening to you, but that doesn't feel true, because you can say things like "Your hair is on fire," and it elicits nothing more than an "okay." And it turns out it's not true, because according to the Journal of Neuroscience , it's actually not possible to pay attention to a conversation while texting.
The study found that when we're focused on doing something visual (i.e. typing on a phone), we become deaf to the sounds around us. Experts are calling this "inattentional deafness." We're still just calling it RUDE.