Dating & Relationships

<p>I don&#39;t know who needs to hear this right now, but dating is not a free AirBnB service. I repeat, dating is not a free AirBnB service. Most of us know this already. But a woman named Jackie Cameron from Bakersfield, California, recently shared screenshots of a conversation with a guy who did not get the memo.</p><p>This is Jackie.</p><oembed>https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211230955329328&amp;set=ecnf.1822143845&amp;type=3&amp;theater</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Recently, she met a guy on a fishing trip and and they had been messaging back-and-forth for a while when he tried to take things to the next level by inviting himself to meet up with her in Bakersfield where she lives.</h2><p>She wrote on Facebook:</p><blockquote> <p>&ldquo;Gimmie Gimmie&rdquo; 🙄</p> <p>I met this dude while fishing and he&rsquo;s been texting me trying to come to Bakersfield (he lives in Paso). He wanted to head out today but I was going to be pretty busy so turned it down. And then....</p> <p><a data-ft="{&quot;type&quot;:104,&quot;tn&quot;:&quot;*N&quot;}" href="https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/singlelife?source=feed_text&amp;epa=HASHTAG">#singlelife</a></p> <p>*edit* last text added for posterity.<br /> *sidenote* I don&rsquo;t have any children for him to &ldquo;stay home&rdquo; with 😂😂😂</p> </blockquote><h2>Then she shared screenshots of their exchange, in which he revealed that the real reason he needed a place to crash.</h2><oembed>https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374554469&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theater</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>It wasn&#39;t too long before he said that he lives with his parents &quot;3 or 4 days a week&quot; when he is with his daughter.</h2><oembed>https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374194460&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theater</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Respectfully, Jackie asked where he sleeps the other nights. He revealed he&#39;s a &quot;couch-surfer.&quot; Essentially, he&#39;s homeless but with generous friends.</h2><oembed>https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374194460&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theater</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>For the record, I have no judgment for people who are homeless and/or couch-surfing. We don&#39;t know this man&#39;s background, and falling on hard times doesn&#39;t make someone a bad person or undateable.</p><p>But being an a**hole does!</p><h2>Jackie tried to be respectful to his situation, acknowledging that housing is expensive.</h2><oembed>https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374674472&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theater</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Then she gently turned him down by saying she&#39;s looking for a long-term relationship and felt he lacks the stability that she needs.</h2><oembed>https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374434466&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theater</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Honestly, this was very well-handled on her part. Not everyone would be so respectful of a man trying to mooch free housing off them under the guise of dating.</p><h2>Unfortunately, he didn&#39;t take the rejection so well. The man became defensive and called <em>her</em> selfish, then called ALL women selfish.</h2><oembed>https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374234461&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theater</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>She gave him the benefit of the doubt and wow, he wildly blew it by being a huge jerk.</p><p>You can&#39;t really blame Cameron for putting the guy on blast, though she did do him the service of not revealing his name, photo, or any other identifying information. Her post went viral, leading commenters to drag this guy for having the nerve to imply that <em>she</em> is selfish.</p><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" height="87" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/screen-shot-2019-07-24-at-112030-am-Nmgp0S.png" width="510" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> </figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><figure class="image"><div class="image-container"><img alt="" height="271" src="//cdn.someecards.com/posts/screen-shot-2019-07-24-at-112044-am-nhI0yk.png" width="509" /></div> <figcaption></figcaption> </figure><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>To be fair, at the end of the day, we&#39;re all just dating to find someone to live with us so we can get a better deal on rent, right? But you have to find a place to live in the interim period. You can&#39;t just skip to living together after one date. That&#39;s not how dating works! And also don&#39;t be a jerk. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman called 'selfish' for rejecting man who tried to date her so he'd have a place to crash.

I don&#39;t know who needs to hear this right now, but dating is not a free AirBnB service. I repeat, dating is not a free AirBnB service. Most of us know this already. But a woman named Jackie Cameron from Bakersfield, California, recently shared screenshots of a conversation with a guy who did not get the memo.This is Jackie.https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211230955329328&amp;set=ecnf.1822143845&amp;type=3&amp;theaterRecently, she met a guy on a fishing trip and and they had been messaging back-and-forth for a while when he tried to take things to the next level by inviting himself to meet up with her in Bakersfield where she lives.She wrote on Facebook: &ldquo;Gimmie Gimmie&rdquo; 🙄 I met this dude while fishing and he&rsquo;s been texting me trying to come to Bakersfield (he lives in Paso). He wanted to head out today but I was going to be pretty busy so turned it down. And then.... #singlelife *edit* last text added for posterity. *sidenote* I don&rsquo;t have any children for him to &ldquo;stay home&rdquo; with 😂😂😂 Then she shared screenshots of their exchange, in which he revealed that the real reason he needed a place to crash.https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374554469&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theaterIt wasn&#39;t too long before he said that he lives with his parents &quot;3 or 4 days a week&quot; when he is with his daughter.https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374194460&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theaterRespectfully, Jackie asked where he sleeps the other nights. He revealed he&#39;s a &quot;couch-surfer.&quot; Essentially, he&#39;s homeless but with generous friends.https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374194460&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theaterFor the record, I have no judgment for people who are homeless and/or couch-surfing. We don&#39;t know this man&#39;s background, and falling on hard times doesn&#39;t make someone a bad person or undateable.But being an a**hole does!Jackie tried to be respectful to his situation, acknowledging that housing is expensive.https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374674472&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theaterThen she gently turned him down by saying she&#39;s looking for a long-term relationship and felt he lacks the stability that she needs.https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374434466&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theaterHonestly, this was very well-handled on her part. Not everyone would be so respectful of a man trying to mooch free housing off them under the guise of dating.Unfortunately, he didn&#39;t take the rejection so well. The man became defensive and called her selfish, then called ALL women selfish.https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211774374234461&amp;set=pcb.10211774379794600&amp;type=3&amp;theaterShe gave him the benefit of the doubt and wow, he wildly blew it by being a huge jerk.You can&#39;t really blame Cameron for putting the guy on blast, though she did do him the service of not revealing his name, photo, or any other identifying information. Her post went viral, leading commenters to drag this guy for having the nerve to imply that she is selfish.    To be fair, at the end of the day, we&#39;re all just dating to find someone to live with us so we can get a better deal on rent, right? But you have to find a place to live in the interim period. You can&#39;t just skip to living together after one date. That&#39;s not how dating works! And also don&#39;t be a jerk. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

Woman calls out 'hobosexual' guy who tried to date her so he would have a place to crash.