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As long as there have been marriages, men have been complaining about women taking too long shopping. Reddit user <a data-click-id="user" data-testid="post_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Striking_Still_3721/">u/Striking_Still_3721</a> reached his breaking point with his chronically late wife was taking too long at the mall. He abandoned her, turned off his phone, and went and saw a movie alone.Now he&#39;s asking the Internet if he overreacted.<h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tjceif/aita_for_ditching_my_wife_at_the_mall_because_she/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA</a> (Am I The As*hole) for ditching my wife at the mall because she was taking too long?</h2>He writes:<blockquote> I&#39;m a 34-year-old man, and my wife is 29. We have been married for five years. </blockquote><blockquote> Since we started dating, she has always taken her sweet time doing everything. Getting dressed, doing her makeup, eating, whatever it is, she takes forever. </blockquote><blockquote> I&#39;m generally a patient person, but I get extremely anxious when I&#39;m late for something with a scheduled starting time. Alone, I have never been late for anything. With her in tow, I&#39;m late for everything. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> The most frustrating thing about this is that she seemingly has no ability to comprehend that she&#39;s making people wait. If I even suggest that she move a little faster, she gets really defensive. </blockquote><blockquote> A few years ago one of her best friends dumped her because she was tired of her chronic lateness. </blockquote><blockquote> Last night, we went out to see a movie. Getting to the mall before the movie started was a battle itself, but miraculously with the prospect of doing some shopping before it, she was able to gather her necessary belongings and get there with time to spare. </blockquote><blockquote> She started shopping while I more or less followed her until it was about time to get to the theater. When I told her this, she was talking to a sales clerk about the clothes that she wanted to buy, and she told me to &quot;hang on&quot; for a second. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> As usual, &quot;hang on&quot; meant &quot;I have absolutely no concern about your needs because I&#39;m doing my own thing right now and anything other than what I want to do is out of the question.&quot; </blockquote><blockquote> I waited around for a couple more minutes until she started taking jeans off the shelves to try on new combinations. The previews had already started. I told her again, and she said we can just skip the previews. </blockquote><blockquote> At this point, I just walked away, which she naturally didn&#39;t notice, turned off my phone, and enjoyed the movie myself. </blockquote><blockquote> As a side note, I missed the first few minutes of it waiting for her, standing in line, and making my way to the theater. </blockquote><blockquote> On my way out of the theater, I saw her on a bench in the lobby beside herself because I ditched her. </blockquote><blockquote> I honestly didn&#39;t feel bad at all and told her that I&#39;d do it again. This made her more upset, and finally, we had an awkward quiet drive home. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Apparently, she was actually looking forward to the movie too. </blockquote><blockquote> Was I the asshole in this situation? I felt it was supposed to be tough love, but she seems really hurt. </blockquote>As a chronically late person myself, I have an obvious bias in favor of late people, but in this situation, I&#39;m going to say &quot;Everyone Sucks Here.&quot; The husband isn&#39;t the a-hole for leaving and seeing the movie as planned, but he is for not letting her know he was leaving.He should have texted is wife that he was at the theater with his phone turned off for two hours. She is an a-hole for trying on more jeans when he told her the previews were starting, knowing it was going to piss him off.This couple is such a mismatch. Kids, before you get married make sure you are compatible. Actually, don&#39;t because then we would run out of these AITA stories to tell.<div className="ad-splitter"></div>Redditors were divided, most said he was NTA, but a few agreed with my assessment.<a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/overseas-mango/">overseas-mango</a><blockquote> NTA. This is what you have to do moving forward. Tell her that you&rsquo;re leaving in 15 minutes and follow through. One warning, then go. Stop discussing and explaining. Start showing. </blockquote><blockquote> Though, in the future, send a text: &ldquo;I&rsquo;m at the movie and I&rsquo;m sitting center right. Turning phone off now.&rdquo; </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/newbeginingshey/">newbeginingshey</a><blockquote> Ehh, I think you could have texted her while you were in line, something to the effect of: &ldquo;I&rsquo;ll leave your ticket for you at will call and text you the row number I&rsquo;m able to get. I hope you&rsquo;re able to join&rdquo; </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Totally switching your phone off without telling her how to meet up with you later wasn&rsquo;t very nice. ESH </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/vengi15/">vengi15</a><blockquote> NTA. This seems like an ongoing problem. I love the way you handled it. I did the same thing with an ex. But we are no longer together BC his time was more precious than mine. </blockquote><blockquote> He would take like an hour and a half to get ready. I would still be waiting for him. I just didn&#39;t want to end up waiting for someone who doesn&#39;t care about my time and only about themselves. The funny thing is he only lived 10 mins from me. </blockquote><blockquote> You didn&#39;t get mad you left. You told her what you were doing and she decided to keep shopping. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RhythmSectionJunky/">RhythmSectionJunky</a><div className="ad-splitter"></div> <blockquote> I&#39;ll go a different route and say ESH, specifically for turning off your phone so that she couldn&#39;t even find you after she showed up late. </blockquote><blockquote> Just text her saying you&#39;re going without her and then inform her where you&#39;re sitting. You&#39;re in the right but took it further than needed. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/redditor191389/">redditor191389</a><blockquote> NTA initially I was sympathetic to your wife, as someone who is also chronically late. </blockquote><blockquote> However, when you describe that her response to you informing her the previews are starting was to go try on more jeans I lost all sympathy. </blockquote><blockquote> That&rsquo;s not chronic lateness, that&rsquo;s chronic disrespect for other people&rsquo;s time. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ApprehensiveDegree25/">ApprehensiveDegree25</a><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> NTA but you need to discuss this with your spouse and decide if this is something you can live with. It seems she values her time over yours and you need to decide if that&rsquo;s a dealbreaker. </blockquote> <a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Apprehensive-Desk134/">Apprehensive-Desk134</a><blockquote> I&#39;m going with ESH. If you had told her what you were doing then I would say NTA, but she didn&#39;t know if you went to the movie or left her at the mall and gone home. </blockquote><blockquote> She is way more TA for not respecting everyone&#39;s time, especially STARTING to try on clothes when you should be leaving for the movie. But all you had to do was say &quot;I&#39;ll meet you inside&quot; </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/toweringpine/">toweringpine</a><blockquote> NTA, but I&#39;d have sent a message saying where I was and that my phone would be off until the show is over. </blockquote><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DogTrainer24-7-365/">DogTrainer24-7-365</a><blockquote> ESH </blockquote><blockquote> Had it been me, I would have gotten her attention, said, &quot;I&#39;m heading to the theater. I&#39;ll save you a seat. Join me when you&#39;re finished here.&quot; Wait a moment for a response, and head out. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he was wrong to leave 'chronically late' wife at mall for taking too long.

As long as there have been marriages, men have been complaining about women taking too long shopping. Reddit user u/Striking_Still_3721 reached his breaking point with his chronically late wife was taking too long at the mall. He abandoned her, turned off his phone, and went and saw a movie alone.Now he&#39;s asking the Internet if he overreacted.AITA (Am I The As*hole) for ditching my wife at the mall because she was taking too long?He writes: I&#39;m a 34-year-old man, and my wife is 29. We have been married for five years.  Since we started dating, she has always taken her sweet time doing everything. Getting dressed, doing her makeup, eating, whatever it is, she takes forever.  I&#39;m generally a patient person, but I get extremely anxious when I&#39;m late for something with a scheduled starting time. Alone, I have never been late for anything. With her in tow, I&#39;m late for everything.  The most frustrating thing about this is that she seemingly has no ability to comprehend that she&#39;s making people wait. If I even suggest that she move a little faster, she gets really defensive.  A few years ago one of her best friends dumped her because she was tired of her chronic lateness.  Last night, we went out to see a movie. Getting to the mall before the movie started was a battle itself, but miraculously with the prospect of doing some shopping before it, she was able to gather her necessary belongings and get there with time to spare.  She started shopping while I more or less followed her until it was about time to get to the theater. When I told her this, she was talking to a sales clerk about the clothes that she wanted to buy, and she told me to &quot;hang on&quot; for a second.  As usual, &quot;hang on&quot; meant &quot;I have absolutely no concern about your needs because I&#39;m doing my own thing right now and anything other than what I want to do is out of the question.&quot;  I waited around for a couple more minutes until she started taking jeans off the shelves to try on new combinations. The previews had already started. I told her again, and she said we can just skip the previews.  At this point, I just walked away, which she naturally didn&#39;t notice, turned off my phone, and enjoyed the movie myself.  As a side note, I missed the first few minutes of it waiting for her, standing in line, and making my way to the theater.  On my way out of the theater, I saw her on a bench in the lobby beside herself because I ditched her.  I honestly didn&#39;t feel bad at all and told her that I&#39;d do it again. This made her more upset, and finally, we had an awkward quiet drive home.  Apparently, she was actually looking forward to the movie too.  Was I the asshole in this situation? I felt it was supposed to be tough love, but she seems really hurt. As a chronically late person myself, I have an obvious bias in favor of late people, but in this situation, I&#39;m going to say &quot;Everyone Sucks Here.&quot; The husband isn&#39;t the a-hole for leaving and seeing the movie as planned, but he is for not letting her know he was leaving.He should have texted is wife that he was at the theater with his phone turned off for two hours. She is an a-hole for trying on more jeans when he told her the previews were starting, knowing it was going to piss him off.This couple is such a mismatch. Kids, before you get married make sure you are compatible. Actually, don&#39;t because then we would run out of these AITA stories to tell.Redditors were divided, most said he was NTA, but a few agreed with my assessment.overseas-mango NTA. This is what you have to do moving forward. Tell her that you&rsquo;re leaving in 15 minutes and follow through. One warning, then go. Stop discussing and explaining. Start showing.  Though, in the future, send a text: &ldquo;I&rsquo;m at the movie and I&rsquo;m sitting center right. Turning phone off now.&rdquo; newbeginingshey Ehh, I think you could have texted her while you were in line, something to the effect of: &ldquo;I&rsquo;ll leave your ticket for you at will call and text you the row number I&rsquo;m able to get. I hope you&rsquo;re able to join&rdquo;  Totally switching your phone off without telling her how to meet up with you later wasn&rsquo;t very nice. ESH vengi15 NTA. This seems like an ongoing problem. I love the way you handled it. I did the same thing with an ex. But we are no longer together BC his time was more precious than mine.  He would take like an hour and a half to get ready. I would still be waiting for him. I just didn&#39;t want to end up waiting for someone who doesn&#39;t care about my time and only about themselves. The funny thing is he only lived 10 mins from me.  You didn&#39;t get mad you left. You told her what you were doing and she decided to keep shopping. RhythmSectionJunky  I&#39;ll go a different route and say ESH, specifically for turning off your phone so that she couldn&#39;t even find you after she showed up late.  Just text her saying you&#39;re going without her and then inform her where you&#39;re sitting. You&#39;re in the right but took it further than needed. redditor191389 NTA initially I was sympathetic to your wife, as someone who is also chronically late.  However, when you describe that her response to you informing her the previews are starting was to go try on more jeans I lost all sympathy.  That&rsquo;s not chronic lateness, that&rsquo;s chronic disrespect for other people&rsquo;s time. ApprehensiveDegree25 NTA but you need to discuss this with your spouse and decide if this is something you can live with. It seems she values her time over yours and you need to decide if that&rsquo;s a dealbreaker.   Apprehensive-Desk134 I&#39;m going with ESH. If you had told her what you were doing then I would say NTA, but she didn&#39;t know if you went to the movie or left her at the mall and gone home.  She is way more TA for not respecting everyone&#39;s time, especially STARTING to try on clothes when you should be leaving for the movie. But all you had to do was say &quot;I&#39;ll meet you inside&quot; toweringpine NTA, but I&#39;d have sent a message saying where I was and that my phone would be off until the show is over. DogTrainer24-7-365 ESH  Had it been me, I would have gotten her attention, said, &quot;I&#39;m heading to the theater. I&#39;ll save you a seat. Join me when you&#39;re finished here.&quot; Wait a moment for a response, and head out. 

As long as there have been marriages, men have been complaining about women taking too long shopping. Reddit user u/Striking_Still_3721 reached his breaking point with his chronically late wife was taking too long at the mall. He abandoned...