Rejection

<p>Rejection, to put it poetically, sucks. There&#39;s really no way to reject someone who&#39;s romantically interested in you that won&#39;t hurt their feelings. But there are ways to minimize the damage, even if it involves small white lies, like &quot;I&#39;m just not ready for a relationship right now,&quot; or &quot;an evil sorcerer put a spell on me rendering me incapable of human intimacy&quot; (potentially true), or &quot;I&#39;m moving to Iceland.&quot; Or, if you&#39;re really committed to not hurting the person, you could <em>actually</em> move to Iceland and start a new life. But not everyone is that considerate.</p><h2>Someone <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/j6rz0/whats_the_worst_way_you_found_out_someone_you/" target="_blank">asked</a> Reddit: &quot;What&#39;s the worst way you found out someone you thought was interested in you isn&#39;t?&quot; These 17 people share stories of the worst ways someone rejected their romantic interest and, <em>ouch:</em></h2><p>1.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/nellfromthemovienell/">nellfromthemovienell</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I am openly gay, and everyone in my office knows. A new guy started several months ago. His desk is located directly beside mine. We quickly became close friends. One day at work, he e-mails me and asks me if I was busy Saturday. I say no, and he tells me to come over and bring rollerblades.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>So Saturday arrives. I show up, we go rollerblading. He buys me ice cream at the park. We go see Bridesmaids. He invites me upstairs. I lean in for a kiss. He backs away.</p> <p>&quot;You&#39;re gay???&quot; He asks.</p> <p>&quot;Uhh.... yeah.....&quot;</p> <p>&quot;Well, I&#39;m not.&quot;</p> <p>I awkwardly left and we barely talk at work anymore. Seriously, this was THE gayest date I&#39;ve ever been on. And that includes dates that involve gay sex.</p> </blockquote><p>2.) From [deleted]:</p><blockquote> <p>She invited me to a party at her house. I was nervous, so I brought my best friend with me for support. She hooked up with him in front of me.</p> </blockquote><p>3.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/vildhjarta/">vildhjarta</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m at her house right now. In Poland. Almost 6000 miles from home.</p> <p>She was a foreign exchange student at my high school, but we never actually met. We&#39;d been talking all day every day for months, when I had decided I was going to spend my summer traveling around Europe (DIDN&#39;T COME TO SEE HER).</p> <p>She decided she wanted to travel with me, so met me when I got to Vienna. Things didn&#39;t work out so well. Now back to her house in Warsaw, sleeping in her bed while she sleeps with her mom.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>4.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sparksd/">sparksd</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I&#39;ve hung out with this girl a few times. I met her through my friend when we took a few girls on motorcycle rides, her being one of them. I got lucky enough to have her ride with me and we had a great time. She wasn&#39;t afraid to wrap around me and break that touch barrier. She was also quite flirty when I talked with and looked at her. I hung out with her a few times after that and had good and fun conversation.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I decided that it was time to ask her on an official first date, just her and I. I was planning to do something she would be interested in. She&#39;s the out doors type and so I wanted to go for a hike or something. As I was doing my research I decided to pop into facebook for a second. My stomach twisted when I saw the front page. There was a new picture of her with a guy wrapping his arms around her. Come to find out she was pursuing this guy while I was trying to pursue her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>5.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TheDancingDynamo/">TheDancingDynamo</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Was trying to find a girl I liked at a party to ask her on a date for the following day. I told her friend It was important that I find her, her friend said she was upstairs and didn&#39;t mention what she was doing, probably assuming that what I had to say was some sort of emergency. I then proceeded to walk in on her banging one of my co-workers.</p> </blockquote><p>6.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/d150/">d150</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Asked her if she wanted to renew our vows. She didn&#39;t.</p> </blockquote><p>7.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/InferiousX/">InferiousX</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Invited a girl to play pool one night.</p> <p>During the whole game, we&#39;re teasing each other, playful touching and even some light hand holding afterwards.</p> <p>I go to kiss her outside and she recoils with a look on her face like someone just took a sh*t in her Cheerios.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>8.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/7fb2adfb45bafcc01c80/">7fb2adfb45bafcc01c80</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>After college I dated a woman for three years. At the end she told me that she didn&#39;t really love me, but didn&#39;t want to be alone for the rest of her life so would I please marry her and we could be friends. That&#39;s when I broke up with her.</p> </blockquote><p>9.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Birthmark/">Birthmark</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I actually asked out this girl I was interested in, and we were dating for a couple weeks. She finally told me she thought we were going too fast, and wanted to take a break because she &quot;didn&#39;t really want a boyfriend right now&quot; due to the fact that she had just gotten out of a six year relationship (I waited a long time to ask this girl out). A week later her Facebook status had changed to &quot;in a relationship.&quot; We haven&#39;t spoken since.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>10.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Hubris2/">Hubris2</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I was spending a lot of time with a friend in university and thought she was interested in me. We went to a concert and she introduced me to a bunch of her friends I didn&#39;t know. Next time I saw her she mentioned that one of them had later asked about me, assuming I was her boyfriend. She laughed, recalling to me about how she&#39;d told her friend that no, we totally weren&#39;t interested in each other and were just friends.</p> </blockquote><p>11.) From [deleted]:</p><blockquote> <p>There was a new girl that started where I work and we flirted to the point where one of the managers joked that it&#39;s not a good idea to date co-workers but I didn&#39;t care. So one night when we&#39;re closing she invited me over to her place but when I called to let her know I was on my way she asked if I was hungry, stating her boyfriend is always hungry and she likes to cook for him. I ended up going any way to see if I had a chance but it went nowhere.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>12.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Yakra/">Yakra</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Girl I meet in High School, two years my junior. We hit it off (same afterschool activities). I end up also driving her home on occasion (with some near miss kisses), and work up to coming over to tutor her in math. I&#39;m 99% positive she has feelings for me.</p> <p>A few years down the road, we&#39;ve been Facebook &quot;friends&quot; for a while. I happen to be visiting a friend out by where she&#39;s going to college, so I get in touch and we make plans to catch up over coffee.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I bring up how we use to hang out in her bedroom, drive around together, flirt... and she doesn&#39;t remember. Anything. See, I was tutoring her in math because <em>she has epilepsy</em>, and tends to forget things when she has seizures. Over the course of the last few years, <em>she&#39;d lost any memories of the time we were together.</em> I can now never confirm whatever it was we had.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>13.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/black-tie/">black-tie</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>During my first job right out of college, I had an intern over during the summer. She was just gorgeous, articulate, and intelligent. Did I mention she was gorgeous? Anyway, summer was really slow at the office. Desks were empty, everything was quiet during the day, and we were basically the only ones there. It was just me and her. We&#39;d sit around all day laughing, chatting, playing games. My productivity was basically 0. I still don&#39;t know what the hell I did all day.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>The touch barrier was <em>definitely</em> broken. There was constant touching, resting her head on my shoulder, she was leaning against me, touching my hands. She was constantly looking at me, too. All the time. Texting me after work.</p> <p>Since she hadn&#39;t even dropped the slightest hint of a boyfriend, I thought, what the hell, maybe I should try something.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>So I wait until the last day of her internship. There&#39;s a great mood, we&#39;re all goofy, I&#39;d brought her a little gift for her last day. So, I&#39;m all ready to ask her out when we get off work in an hour or so, when my HR manager calls to check up on things with the intern. Being a cool guy, we talk about the hot intern and he&#39;s saying &quot;Yeah, I knew you&#39;d like her. Total babe.&quot; We both chuckle, and just as I&#39;m about to hang up the phone, he goes: &quot;Too bad she&#39;s dating [major celebrity].&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>11.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Edrondol/">Edrondol</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;I&#39;m sorry. I&#39;m used to going out with better looking guys.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>12.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/k80k80k80/">k80k80k80</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>In bed right after sex: &quot;I should probably tell you that I&#39;m engaged.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>13.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Xtapher23/">Xtapher23</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I worked at McD&#39;s in my senior year. There was a boy I was crushing on that worked there. We joked back and forth for a bit.</p> <p>He asked me for a ride home one night, and I thought it&#39;s now or never! I asked him to my senior prom.</p> <p>response &quot;Oh I&#39;m pretty busy that day.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>14.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SlanskyRex/">SlanskyRex</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I met a guy at some student function my first month of law school. He walked me home and we exchanged numbers. I invited him to a party with some of my friends. At the party, we hung out in the kitchen for several hours talking and flirting and teasing. We kissed in a drinking game and he gave me 3 or 4 lingering hugs when he left.</p> <p>Then he stopped returning my texts and my friends ran into him at Cost Plus with his girlfriend.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>15.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/silentphotos/">silentphotos</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>It was a very critical time for me in the 3rd of the grades. I was trying to get with this fellow and we start making fishy faces. When I tried to do the fishy face though, it made a <em>kiss</em> sound. Immediately he becomes appauled by the near attempt at his life, he yells out Ew<sup>www</sup> you are gross, then ran away. Forever a fish.</p> </blockquote><p>16.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/juliekthx/">juliekthx</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>Freshman year of college, 5 in the morning. I was just browsing the internet when suddenly this guy who lives on the floor below me starts messaging me. We start to chat daily and often have eye opening conversations. I feel like he knows me. If I&#39;m not online at my usual time, he&#39;ll often send me messages asking me where I am. Soon after, we started hanging out routinely with just the two of us.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>We enjoyed each other&#39;s company. I was perfectly content just watching him play games on his computer. He&#39;d offer to lend me his jacket when I was cold and when my contacts were dry, he helped me put in eyedrops. We spent a day together at a museum. He told me that I was important to him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Even though we never held hands, I was hopeful that it would develop into something more. I poured all my feelings out to a close friend and she told me that it would happen. Fast forward to my birthday and he messages me online, saying, &quot;I don&#39;t think we can be friends anymore.&quot; A few days later, he starts dating my close friend. I found out that he had was never interested in me.</p> </blockquote><p>17.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Wisconsinboi/">Wisconsinboi</a>:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Through a hand written note delivered by her friend after asking her to a dance. &quot;I hate you, you like me, why don&#39;t you just leave me be.&quot; I still have the letter in a box of highschool memories</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

17 people share stories of the worst way they were rejected by a crush.

Rejection, to put it poetically, sucks. There&#39;s really no way to reject someone who&#39;s romantically interested in you that won&#39;t hurt their feelings. But there are ways to minimize the damage, even if it involves small white lies, like &quot;I&#39;m just not ready for a relationship right now,&quot; or &quot;an evil sorcerer put a spell on me rendering me incapable of human intimacy&quot; (potentially true), or &quot;I&#39;m moving to Iceland.&quot; Or, if you&#39;re really committed to not hurting the person, you could actually move to Iceland and start a new life. But not everyone is that considerate.Someone asked Reddit: &quot;What&#39;s the worst way you found out someone you thought was interested in you isn&#39;t?&quot; These 17 people share stories of the worst ways someone rejected their romantic interest and, ouch:1.) From nellfromthemovienell: I am openly gay, and everyone in my office knows. A new guy started several months ago. His desk is located directly beside mine. We quickly became close friends. One day at work, he e-mails me and asks me if I was busy Saturday. I say no, and he tells me to come over and bring rollerblades.  So Saturday arrives. I show up, we go rollerblading. He buys me ice cream at the park. We go see Bridesmaids. He invites me upstairs. I lean in for a kiss. He backs away. &quot;You&#39;re gay???&quot; He asks. &quot;Uhh.... yeah.....&quot; &quot;Well, I&#39;m not.&quot; I awkwardly left and we barely talk at work anymore. Seriously, this was THE gayest date I&#39;ve ever been on. And that includes dates that involve gay sex. 2.) From [deleted]: She invited me to a party at her house. I was nervous, so I brought my best friend with me for support. She hooked up with him in front of me. 3.) From vildhjarta: I&#39;m at her house right now. In Poland. Almost 6000 miles from home. She was a foreign exchange student at my high school, but we never actually met. We&#39;d been talking all day every day for months, when I had decided I was going to spend my summer traveling around Europe (DIDN&#39;T COME TO SEE HER). She decided she wanted to travel with me, so met me when I got to Vienna. Things didn&#39;t work out so well. Now back to her house in Warsaw, sleeping in her bed while she sleeps with her mom. 4.) From sparksd: I&#39;ve hung out with this girl a few times. I met her through my friend when we took a few girls on motorcycle rides, her being one of them. I got lucky enough to have her ride with me and we had a great time. She wasn&#39;t afraid to wrap around me and break that touch barrier. She was also quite flirty when I talked with and looked at her. I hung out with her a few times after that and had good and fun conversation.  I decided that it was time to ask her on an official first date, just her and I. I was planning to do something she would be interested in. She&#39;s the out doors type and so I wanted to go for a hike or something. As I was doing my research I decided to pop into facebook for a second. My stomach twisted when I saw the front page. There was a new picture of her with a guy wrapping his arms around her. Come to find out she was pursuing this guy while I was trying to pursue her. 5.) From TheDancingDynamo: Was trying to find a girl I liked at a party to ask her on a date for the following day. I told her friend It was important that I find her, her friend said she was upstairs and didn&#39;t mention what she was doing, probably assuming that what I had to say was some sort of emergency. I then proceeded to walk in on her banging one of my co-workers. 6.) From d150: Asked her if she wanted to renew our vows. She didn&#39;t. 7.) From InferiousX: Invited a girl to play pool one night. During the whole game, we&#39;re teasing each other, playful touching and even some light hand holding afterwards. I go to kiss her outside and she recoils with a look on her face like someone just took a sh*t in her Cheerios. 8.) From 7fb2adfb45bafcc01c80: After college I dated a woman for three years. At the end she told me that she didn&#39;t really love me, but didn&#39;t want to be alone for the rest of her life so would I please marry her and we could be friends. That&#39;s when I broke up with her. 9.) From Birthmark: I actually asked out this girl I was interested in, and we were dating for a couple weeks. She finally told me she thought we were going too fast, and wanted to take a break because she &quot;didn&#39;t really want a boyfriend right now&quot; due to the fact that she had just gotten out of a six year relationship (I waited a long time to ask this girl out). A week later her Facebook status had changed to &quot;in a relationship.&quot; We haven&#39;t spoken since. 10.) From Hubris2: I was spending a lot of time with a friend in university and thought she was interested in me. We went to a concert and she introduced me to a bunch of her friends I didn&#39;t know. Next time I saw her she mentioned that one of them had later asked about me, assuming I was her boyfriend. She laughed, recalling to me about how she&#39;d told her friend that no, we totally weren&#39;t interested in each other and were just friends. 11.) From [deleted]: There was a new girl that started where I work and we flirted to the point where one of the managers joked that it&#39;s not a good idea to date co-workers but I didn&#39;t care. So one night when we&#39;re closing she invited me over to her place but when I called to let her know I was on my way she asked if I was hungry, stating her boyfriend is always hungry and she likes to cook for him. I ended up going any way to see if I had a chance but it went nowhere. 12.) From Yakra: Girl I meet in High School, two years my junior. We hit it off (same afterschool activities). I end up also driving her home on occasion (with some near miss kisses), and work up to coming over to tutor her in math. I&#39;m 99% positive she has feelings for me. A few years down the road, we&#39;ve been Facebook &quot;friends&quot; for a while. I happen to be visiting a friend out by where she&#39;s going to college, so I get in touch and we make plans to catch up over coffee.  I bring up how we use to hang out in her bedroom, drive around together, flirt... and she doesn&#39;t remember. Anything. See, I was tutoring her in math because she has epilepsy, and tends to forget things when she has seizures. Over the course of the last few years, she&#39;d lost any memories of the time we were together. I can now never confirm whatever it was we had. 13.) From black-tie: During my first job right out of college, I had an intern over during the summer. She was just gorgeous, articulate, and intelligent. Did I mention she was gorgeous? Anyway, summer was really slow at the office. Desks were empty, everything was quiet during the day, and we were basically the only ones there. It was just me and her. We&#39;d sit around all day laughing, chatting, playing games. My productivity was basically 0. I still don&#39;t know what the hell I did all day.  The touch barrier was definitely broken. There was constant touching, resting her head on my shoulder, she was leaning against me, touching my hands. She was constantly looking at me, too. All the time. Texting me after work. Since she hadn&#39;t even dropped the slightest hint of a boyfriend, I thought, what the hell, maybe I should try something.  So I wait until the last day of her internship. There&#39;s a great mood, we&#39;re all goofy, I&#39;d brought her a little gift for her last day. So, I&#39;m all ready to ask her out when we get off work in an hour or so, when my HR manager calls to check up on things with the intern. Being a cool guy, we talk about the hot intern and he&#39;s saying &quot;Yeah, I knew you&#39;d like her. Total babe.&quot; We both chuckle, and just as I&#39;m about to hang up the phone, he goes: &quot;Too bad she&#39;s dating [major celebrity].&quot; 11.) From Edrondol: &quot;I&#39;m sorry. I&#39;m used to going out with better looking guys.&quot; 12.) From k80k80k80: In bed right after sex: &quot;I should probably tell you that I&#39;m engaged.&quot; 13.) From Xtapher23: I worked at McD&#39;s in my senior year. There was a boy I was crushing on that worked there. We joked back and forth for a bit. He asked me for a ride home one night, and I thought it&#39;s now or never! I asked him to my senior prom. response &quot;Oh I&#39;m pretty busy that day.&quot; 14.) From SlanskyRex: I met a guy at some student function my first month of law school. He walked me home and we exchanged numbers. I invited him to a party with some of my friends. At the party, we hung out in the kitchen for several hours talking and flirting and teasing. We kissed in a drinking game and he gave me 3 or 4 lingering hugs when he left. Then he stopped returning my texts and my friends ran into him at Cost Plus with his girlfriend. 15.) From silentphotos: It was a very critical time for me in the 3rd of the grades. I was trying to get with this fellow and we start making fishy faces. When I tried to do the fishy face though, it made a kiss sound. Immediately he becomes appauled by the near attempt at his life, he yells out Ewwww you are gross, then ran away. Forever a fish. 16.) From juliekthx: Freshman year of college, 5 in the morning. I was just browsing the internet when suddenly this guy who lives on the floor below me starts messaging me. We start to chat daily and often have eye opening conversations. I feel like he knows me. If I&#39;m not online at my usual time, he&#39;ll often send me messages asking me where I am. Soon after, we started hanging out routinely with just the two of us.  We enjoyed each other&#39;s company. I was perfectly content just watching him play games on his computer. He&#39;d offer to lend me his jacket when I was cold and when my contacts were dry, he helped me put in eyedrops. We spent a day together at a museum. He told me that I was important to him.  Even though we never held hands, I was hopeful that it would develop into something more. I poured all my feelings out to a close friend and she told me that it would happen. Fast forward to my birthday and he messages me online, saying, &quot;I don&#39;t think we can be friends anymore.&quot; A few days later, he starts dating my close friend. I found out that he had was never interested in me. 17.) From Wisconsinboi: Through a hand written note delivered by her friend after asking her to a dance. &quot;I hate you, you like me, why don&#39;t you just leave me be.&quot; I still have the letter in a box of highschool memories 

Rejection, to put it poetically, sucks. There&#39;s really no way to reject someone who&#39;s romantically interested in you that won&#39;t hurt their feelings. But there are ways to minimize the damage, even if it involves small white...