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Married couples fight, it&#39;s inevitable. Petty squabbles are a dime a dozen, but how far is too far to push your spouse without things getting really ugly. Reddit user <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Dred-Scott-69/">u/Dred-Scott-69</a> is currently in a major battle with his wife for taking away his brand new big-screen TV just days before the Super Bowl. He retaliated by taking away her car, and now he&#39;s turning to the internet to ask if he is justified or just a total jerk.<h1><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/sp9ubc/aita_for_taking_away_my_wifes_car_keys_because/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for taking away my wife&#39;s car keys because she took away my TV?</h1>He writes:<blockquote> I have always spilt my income 50-50 with my wife. She is religious (Baptist) but I am not. </blockquote><blockquote> This has never been a problem for us, until this summer when I got a large raise at my job and I started buying things that she claimed were &#39;greedy&#39; and &#39;consumerist.&#39; I just told her I&#39;m using my share of the income and I can buy what I want. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I thought that it was over but last weekend I finally got a Ps5 and bought a 65&quot; 8K QLED TV, in total it was about 5 grand. </blockquote><blockquote> I was really excited to watch the super bowl with my friends on it (I&#39;m hosting a little party this year) but my wife was furious, she thought it was a terrible decision and she didn&#39;t care I used my own money. </blockquote><blockquote> When I came home from work on Monday (today&#39;s Thursday) my wife said she took away my TV, sure enough, it was gone. I looked everywhere for it but we have a modest 3 bedroom house, so who knows where it is now. </blockquote><blockquote> I have been arguing with her for 4 days and she&#39;s not budging, so this morning I finally snapped. I took away her car keys and also removed her tires. </blockquote><blockquote> I told her I&#39;ll do the grocery shopping and our kids will be fine since they ride the bus, but I am not giving her that car back until she gets me my TV. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> She is obviously furious but the super bowl is in 3 days and I&#39;ll be damned if I&#39;m letting her control what makes me happy. So, AITA? </blockquote>Am I wrong for absolutely loving the drama between these two total nutcases? Dysfunction is always so much more fun when it doesn&#39;t involve you. This relationship is toxic. They are both being petty AF. They probably need to go their separate ways, although it doesn&#39;t sound like she&#39;s going anywhere for a while. I&#39;m rendering my verdict &quot;Everyone Sucks Here,&quot; but to be honest, I would probably snap too if someone took my TV. (Mama needs to watch her stories, ya know what I&#39;m saying.)The comments were divided between &quot;Everyone Sucks Here&quot; and &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; What do you think?<a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Queen_Aurelia/">Queen_Aurelia</a>:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> ESH (Everyone Sucks Here)- you two should not be married to each other </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DandyFox/">DandyFox</a>:<blockquote> Pretty squabbles are fine, but OPs wife straight up stole an entire TV. Did she hide it? Sell it? Give it away? Who fucking knows, certainly not OP, the owner of the TV. </blockquote><blockquote> Not that it&rsquo;s about the TV at this point really, it&rsquo;s about the disrespect and the control issues. As for what OP did, it is proportional retaliation, but it&rsquo;s not the adult way to respond. </blockquote><blockquote> Responding this way only invites escalation, and not for the other person to actually examine their own actions. </blockquote><blockquote> What he should have done is pack his shit and say he&rsquo;ll come back when the TV is back, otherwise he&rsquo;ll just make sure he gets the TV in the divorce. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Then she can decide what&rsquo;s worth more to her: being overly controlling and alone, or letting go a little and having a loving family. That&rsquo;s how adults handle business. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LavingtonWindsor/">LavingtonWindsor</a>:<blockquote> I mean, I would find it exhausting but perhaps this is just how this pair roll, you know? Hiding socks on laundry day and stealing one another&rsquo;s kidneys In the middle of the night. </blockquote> <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Beardman95/">Beardman95</a>:<blockquote> This is well past petty, this is getting into abusive territory on both sides. </blockquote> <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/iMOONiCORN/">iMOONiCORN</a>:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I just feel bad for the kids. This is modeling the shittiest relationship behavior &amp; must feel so toxic to them. </blockquote><blockquote> Don&#39;t get me wrong, I get the urge to retaliate, but being a parent &amp; an adult would come first. </blockquote><blockquote> I am not one that jumps on the divorce bandwagon in these posts, but with this one, I don&#39;t see any other way. They both of them need to grow up </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/babamum/">babamum</a>:<blockquote> NTA she stole and disposed of his property, which was wrong. He hasn&#39;t stolen or disposed of anything of hers, just made the point that it&#39;s not a pleasant experience to have your stuff mucked around with. </blockquote><blockquote> She&#39;s a Baptist and the Bible clearly states &quot;thou shalt not steal&quot;. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/crystallz2000/">crystallz2000</a>:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> At this point, I&#39;d be telling the wife if she doesn&#39;t return the stuff by the end of the day, I&#39;m calling the police. </blockquote><blockquote> His wife STOLE from him. If the item isn&#39;t in the house, I DOUBT the TV is somewhere safe. If he doesn&#39;t get it back soon, that could be 5k just lit on fire. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/crystallz2000/">crystallz2000</a>:<blockquote> &middot;Also, at this point, these two need to be in therapy together. They clearly have different views of how to enjoy life. ESH. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DayAdministrative346/">DayAdministrative346</a>:<blockquote> NTA - Justified AH&hellip;.really. Your wife unilaterally made a decision about what I am assuming is fun money. What you did in retaliation was after asking her about it for four days. It&rsquo;s petty as hell - and I am here for it </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div> <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/HuntMiserable5351/">HuntMiserable5351</a>:<blockquote> Look, I think if you went over this post with a mag light and tweezers, you wouldn&#39;t find people defending the act of taking the TV. </blockquote><blockquote> The point is, tampering with the car is a punishment. Marriages ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THAT. </blockquote> <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Gypsopotamus/">Gypsopotamus</a>:<blockquote> Okay&hellip; so ESH.. but honestly-NTA </blockquote><blockquote> Albeit, I agree that this situation is exposing some dysfunctional dynamics within&rsquo; their relationship, let&rsquo;s get off of our bullshit pedestal. Aside from this post, we don&rsquo;t know anything about them. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> We&rsquo;re not their marriage therapist and I think it&rsquo;s hilarious that some of you are so quick to whine &rdquo;WhAt If ThErE&rsquo;s An EmErGeNcY?!?!&rdquo; </blockquote><blockquote> That&rsquo;s what Uber and Lyft are for. He took her damn car keys and her tires. He didn&rsquo;t take her smartphone. She and the kids will absolutely be fine. </blockquote><blockquote> I think a lot of you are refusing to empathize by imagining how you, yourself would respond in a scenario where someone just made an expensive item you&rsquo;ve worked hard for and invested in&hellip; DISAPPEAR! </blockquote><blockquote> I honestly don&rsquo;t think I&rsquo;d have words for how livid I&rsquo;d be. </blockquote><blockquote> P.S. OP- I&rsquo;m sure you&rsquo;ve already come to this realization, however, I&rsquo;m stating it anyway. You two need therapy. And if one of you isn&rsquo;t willing, then file for divorce. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Your kids will benefit so much by NOT witnessing this kind of bullshit on a regular basis. Situations like this create a possibility of letting them know that actions like these are acceptable in a relationship.. when they&rsquo;re not. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Scrabblement/">Scrabblement</a>:<blockquote> ESH. You two have kids together and you&#39;re acting like this? Get couples counseling or split up, but don&#39;t teach your kids that it&#39;s normal to resolve disputes by stealing from each other </blockquote><h2>Update from the husband:</h2><blockquote> Someone commented &#39;what if there is an emergency, she doesn&#39;t have a car.&#39; You&#39;re right, I&#39;ll put the tires back on so if something happens I can tell her where the keys are. </blockquote><blockquote> It&#39;s also not a good look on our family to have that car up on blocks by our garage. But unless it&#39;s an emergency she&#39;s not getting that car back without returning my TV. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he's wrong for hiding wife's car keys because she took away TV.

Married couples fight, it&#39;s inevitable. Petty squabbles are a dime a dozen, but how far is too far to push your spouse without things getting really ugly. Reddit user u/Dred-Scott-69 is currently in a major battle with his wife for taking away his brand new big-screen TV just days before the Super Bowl. He retaliated by taking away her car, and now he&#39;s turning to the internet to ask if he is justified or just a total jerk.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for taking away my wife&#39;s car keys because she took away my TV?He writes: I have always spilt my income 50-50 with my wife. She is religious (Baptist) but I am not.  This has never been a problem for us, until this summer when I got a large raise at my job and I started buying things that she claimed were &#39;greedy&#39; and &#39;consumerist.&#39; I just told her I&#39;m using my share of the income and I can buy what I want.  I thought that it was over but last weekend I finally got a Ps5 and bought a 65&quot; 8K QLED TV, in total it was about 5 grand.  I was really excited to watch the super bowl with my friends on it (I&#39;m hosting a little party this year) but my wife was furious, she thought it was a terrible decision and she didn&#39;t care I used my own money.  When I came home from work on Monday (today&#39;s Thursday) my wife said she took away my TV, sure enough, it was gone. I looked everywhere for it but we have a modest 3 bedroom house, so who knows where it is now.  I have been arguing with her for 4 days and she&#39;s not budging, so this morning I finally snapped. I took away her car keys and also removed her tires.  I told her I&#39;ll do the grocery shopping and our kids will be fine since they ride the bus, but I am not giving her that car back until she gets me my TV.  She is obviously furious but the super bowl is in 3 days and I&#39;ll be damned if I&#39;m letting her control what makes me happy. So, AITA? Am I wrong for absolutely loving the drama between these two total nutcases? Dysfunction is always so much more fun when it doesn&#39;t involve you. This relationship is toxic. They are both being petty AF. They probably need to go their separate ways, although it doesn&#39;t sound like she&#39;s going anywhere for a while. I&#39;m rendering my verdict &quot;Everyone Sucks Here,&quot; but to be honest, I would probably snap too if someone took my TV. (Mama needs to watch her stories, ya know what I&#39;m saying.)The comments were divided between &quot;Everyone Sucks Here&quot; and &quot;Not The As*hole.&quot; What do you think?Queen_Aurelia: ESH (Everyone Sucks Here)- you two should not be married to each other DandyFox: Pretty squabbles are fine, but OPs wife straight up stole an entire TV. Did she hide it? Sell it? Give it away? Who fucking knows, certainly not OP, the owner of the TV.  Not that it&rsquo;s about the TV at this point really, it&rsquo;s about the disrespect and the control issues. As for what OP did, it is proportional retaliation, but it&rsquo;s not the adult way to respond.  Responding this way only invites escalation, and not for the other person to actually examine their own actions.  What he should have done is pack his shit and say he&rsquo;ll come back when the TV is back, otherwise he&rsquo;ll just make sure he gets the TV in the divorce.  Then she can decide what&rsquo;s worth more to her: being overly controlling and alone, or letting go a little and having a loving family. That&rsquo;s how adults handle business. LavingtonWindsor: I mean, I would find it exhausting but perhaps this is just how this pair roll, you know? Hiding socks on laundry day and stealing one another&rsquo;s kidneys In the middle of the night.  Beardman95: This is well past petty, this is getting into abusive territory on both sides.  iMOONiCORN: I just feel bad for the kids. This is modeling the shittiest relationship behavior &amp; must feel so toxic to them.  Don&#39;t get me wrong, I get the urge to retaliate, but being a parent &amp; an adult would come first.  I am not one that jumps on the divorce bandwagon in these posts, but with this one, I don&#39;t see any other way. They both of them need to grow up babamum: NTA she stole and disposed of his property, which was wrong. He hasn&#39;t stolen or disposed of anything of hers, just made the point that it&#39;s not a pleasant experience to have your stuff mucked around with.  She&#39;s a Baptist and the Bible clearly states &quot;thou shalt not steal&quot;. crystallz2000: At this point, I&#39;d be telling the wife if she doesn&#39;t return the stuff by the end of the day, I&#39;m calling the police.  His wife STOLE from him. If the item isn&#39;t in the house, I DOUBT the TV is somewhere safe. If he doesn&#39;t get it back soon, that could be 5k just lit on fire. crystallz2000: &middot;Also, at this point, these two need to be in therapy together. They clearly have different views of how to enjoy life. ESH. DayAdministrative346: NTA - Justified AH&hellip;.really. Your wife unilaterally made a decision about what I am assuming is fun money. What you did in retaliation was after asking her about it for four days. It&rsquo;s petty as hell - and I am here for it  HuntMiserable5351: Look, I think if you went over this post with a mag light and tweezers, you wouldn&#39;t find people defending the act of taking the TV.  The point is, tampering with the car is a punishment. Marriages ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THAT.  Gypsopotamus: Okay&hellip; so ESH.. but honestly-NTA  Albeit, I agree that this situation is exposing some dysfunctional dynamics within&rsquo; their relationship, let&rsquo;s get off of our bullshit pedestal. Aside from this post, we don&rsquo;t know anything about them.  We&rsquo;re not their marriage therapist and I think it&rsquo;s hilarious that some of you are so quick to whine &rdquo;WhAt If ThErE&rsquo;s An EmErGeNcY?!?!&rdquo;  That&rsquo;s what Uber and Lyft are for. He took her damn car keys and her tires. He didn&rsquo;t take her smartphone. She and the kids will absolutely be fine.  I think a lot of you are refusing to empathize by imagining how you, yourself would respond in a scenario where someone just made an expensive item you&rsquo;ve worked hard for and invested in&hellip; DISAPPEAR!  I honestly don&rsquo;t think I&rsquo;d have words for how livid I&rsquo;d be.  P.S. OP- I&rsquo;m sure you&rsquo;ve already come to this realization, however, I&rsquo;m stating it anyway. You two need therapy. And if one of you isn&rsquo;t willing, then file for divorce.  Your kids will benefit so much by NOT witnessing this kind of bullshit on a regular basis. Situations like this create a possibility of letting them know that actions like these are acceptable in a relationship.. when they&rsquo;re not. Scrabblement: ESH. You two have kids together and you&#39;re acting like this? Get couples counseling or split up, but don&#39;t teach your kids that it&#39;s normal to resolve disputes by stealing from each other Update from the husband: Someone commented &#39;what if there is an emergency, she doesn&#39;t have a car.&#39; You&#39;re right, I&#39;ll put the tires back on so if something happens I can tell her where the keys are.  It&#39;s also not a good look on our family to have that car up on blocks by our garage. But unless it&#39;s an emergency she&#39;s not getting that car back without returning my TV. 

Married couples fight, it&#39;s inevitable. Petty squabbles are a dime a dozen, but how far is too far to push your spouse without things getting really ugly. Reddit user u/Dred-Scott-69 is currently in a major battle with his wife for...