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If your significant other was spying on you without your knowledge would you want to know? Reddit user <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/tellornottell3/">u/tellornottell3</a> definitely thought so, that&#39;s why she wants to tell her brother&#39;s soon-to-be-wife he&#39;s spying on her.As if that&#39;s not messy enough, her own boyfriend is the one helping her brother to snoop. They both want her to shut up and mind her own business, so she turned to the internet to ask:<h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ss9od9/aita_for_wanting_to_tell_my_brothers_fianc%C3%A9e/">AITA</a> (Am I The As*hole) for wanting to tell my brother&#39;s fianc&eacute;e about the tracking app he secretly installed in the new phone he bought for her?</h2>She writes:<blockquote> Pretty much the title, My f22 brother m27 is currently engaged to his fianc&egrave;e f25. he bought he a new phone for valentine&#39;s and asked my boyfriend who&#39;s trained in computer and software to install a hidden tracking app on the phone so his fiance&egrave; won&#39;t see it or notice. </blockquote><blockquote> I overheard them talking and when I entered the room they went silent. I waited till my brother left then talked to my boyfriend, he denied having this conversation with my brother first then, admitted to installing the app on the phone. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I told him he and my brother were in the wrong because this is a huge breach of privacy. He said he has nothing to do with it and advised me to stay out of it as well. </blockquote><blockquote> But I said I want to tell my brother&#39;s fianc&egrave;e. My boyfriend argued with me about being nosy and intrusive and told me to stay out of it and let them deal with their own issues. </blockquote><blockquote> But I thought that was unfair to my future sister-in-law since she&#39;s the one working, paying bills and rent and this is how she is treated? </blockquote><blockquote> My boyfriend told me gtfo with this attitude and again, said I should stay out of it because it does not in any way concern me. </blockquote><blockquote> I don&#39;t know I feel horrible after hearing about what my brother did and since I have a good relationship with his fiancee I can&#39;t help but feel guilty and wanting to tell her. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> AITA for wanting to tell her? </blockquote>I could barely read this post because of all of the red flags popping up with her brother and her boyfriend. This girl is obviously &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; for informing her brother&#39;s fianc&eacute;e about his abusive behavior, but the way her boyfriend helped her brother spy and then gaslit her about it when she confronted him should be a major wake-up call for the future of this relationship.She needs to get a new phone, dump his ass, and go on a vacay with her hopefully not future sister-in-law.<a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Accomplished-Cheek59/">Accomplished-Cheek59</a><blockquote> NTA Tell her. But also have your phone checked out, cos your BF is throwing out CRAZY red flags. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/y3s1canr3ad/">y3s1canr3ad</a>:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> NTA. Bf called YOU &ldquo;intrusive&rdquo; when HE was the one who installed a tracking app??? He doesn&rsquo;t want you to tell brother&rsquo;s fianc&eacute;e because he&rsquo;s complicit. </blockquote><blockquote> Both your brother and your bf are AH and shady as hell. I&rsquo;d keep my distance from both. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/remotegrowthtb/">remotegrowthtb</a>:<blockquote> The boyfriend first denied, then aggressively argued in defense of installing the tracking app, called her names, and told her to &#39;GTFO and stay out of it&#39;. </blockquote><blockquote> It&#39;s a little bit past being wary or concerned for me personally, I can already see the update post to this one in a couple months, where OP tells us how she discovered the app she&#39;s had on her phone all along. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Laurelinn/">Laurelinn</a>:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I agree with you. This would be way past that point for me. This would be my hill to die on and I would not care if the relationship died with it. </blockquote><blockquote> The only people who are okay with this are people who percieve women as the man&#39;s property. Disgusting. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/chocolatemilkncoffee/">chocolatemilkncoffee</a>:<blockquote> Even if it turns out there&rsquo;s no spyware on your phone, I would already be questioning this relationship just from the conversation the two of you had. </blockquote><blockquote> Your bf supports stalking and abusive behavior. That&rsquo;s never a good thing, and who&rsquo;s to say he doesn&rsquo;t go down that road in the future? </blockquote><blockquote> Tell your future SIL and make yourself safe from the blowback; from both your brother and bf. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TallLoss2/">TallLoss2</a>:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> It&rsquo;s wildly hypocritical of him to accuse you of being nosy and intrusive when he literally installed nosy and intrusive software on someone else&rsquo;s partner&#39;s phone and I would seriously question the future of your relationship if I were you. NTA. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/theshadowppl9/">theshadowppl9</a>:<blockquote> NTA That is controlling and abusive, she has a right to know. Also, based on your BF&#39;s reaction, I would be concerned about there being a tracking app on your phone. Creepy on both their parts. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LazySwashbuckler/">LazySwashbuckler</a>:<blockquote> NTA - You would be TA if you didn&#39;t tell her about it. Your BF and brother should be ashamed of themselves. </blockquote><blockquote> Oh, and as your bf seems to be ok with your brother&#39;s behavior you might want to consider getting a new phone, just in case. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TheKakaStorm/">TheKakaStorm</a>:<blockquote> <span style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">NTA, if he helped install a tracking app on her phone. He&rsquo;s probably installed one on yours. Who know what else he&rsquo;s done. </blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Jmac_files/">Jmac_files</a>:<blockquote> NTA. your boyfriend told YOU to stay out of it? That&rsquo;s pretty hypocritical. Tell her and dump your bf. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong to expose brother for tracking his fiancé's phone.

If your significant other was spying on you without your knowledge would you want to know? Reddit user u/tellornottell3 definitely thought so, that&#39;s why she wants to tell her brother&#39;s soon-to-be-wife he&#39;s spying on her.As if that&#39;s not messy enough, her own boyfriend is the one helping her brother to snoop. They both want her to shut up and mind her own business, so she turned to the internet to ask:AITA (Am I The As*hole) for wanting to tell my brother&#39;s fianc&eacute;e about the tracking app he secretly installed in the new phone he bought for her?She writes: Pretty much the title, My f22 brother m27 is currently engaged to his fianc&egrave;e f25. he bought he a new phone for valentine&#39;s and asked my boyfriend who&#39;s trained in computer and software to install a hidden tracking app on the phone so his fiance&egrave; won&#39;t see it or notice.  I overheard them talking and when I entered the room they went silent. I waited till my brother left then talked to my boyfriend, he denied having this conversation with my brother first then, admitted to installing the app on the phone.  I told him he and my brother were in the wrong because this is a huge breach of privacy. He said he has nothing to do with it and advised me to stay out of it as well.  But I said I want to tell my brother&#39;s fianc&egrave;e. My boyfriend argued with me about being nosy and intrusive and told me to stay out of it and let them deal with their own issues.  But I thought that was unfair to my future sister-in-law since she&#39;s the one working, paying bills and rent and this is how she is treated?  My boyfriend told me gtfo with this attitude and again, said I should stay out of it because it does not in any way concern me.  I don&#39;t know I feel horrible after hearing about what my brother did and since I have a good relationship with his fiancee I can&#39;t help but feel guilty and wanting to tell her.  AITA for wanting to tell her? I could barely read this post because of all of the red flags popping up with her brother and her boyfriend. This girl is obviously &quot;Not The As*hole&quot; for informing her brother&#39;s fianc&eacute;e about his abusive behavior, but the way her boyfriend helped her brother spy and then gaslit her about it when she confronted him should be a major wake-up call for the future of this relationship.She needs to get a new phone, dump his ass, and go on a vacay with her hopefully not future sister-in-law.Accomplished-Cheek59 NTA Tell her. But also have your phone checked out, cos your BF is throwing out CRAZY red flags. y3s1canr3ad: NTA. Bf called YOU &ldquo;intrusive&rdquo; when HE was the one who installed a tracking app??? He doesn&rsquo;t want you to tell brother&rsquo;s fianc&eacute;e because he&rsquo;s complicit.  Both your brother and your bf are AH and shady as hell. I&rsquo;d keep my distance from both. remotegrowthtb: The boyfriend first denied, then aggressively argued in defense of installing the tracking app, called her names, and told her to &#39;GTFO and stay out of it&#39;.  It&#39;s a little bit past being wary or concerned for me personally, I can already see the update post to this one in a couple months, where OP tells us how she discovered the app she&#39;s had on her phone all along. Laurelinn: I agree with you. This would be way past that point for me. This would be my hill to die on and I would not care if the relationship died with it.  The only people who are okay with this are people who percieve women as the man&#39;s property. Disgusting. chocolatemilkncoffee: Even if it turns out there&rsquo;s no spyware on your phone, I would already be questioning this relationship just from the conversation the two of you had.  Your bf supports stalking and abusive behavior. That&rsquo;s never a good thing, and who&rsquo;s to say he doesn&rsquo;t go down that road in the future?  Tell your future SIL and make yourself safe from the blowback; from both your brother and bf. TallLoss2: It&rsquo;s wildly hypocritical of him to accuse you of being nosy and intrusive when he literally installed nosy and intrusive software on someone else&rsquo;s partner&#39;s phone and I would seriously question the future of your relationship if I were you. NTA. theshadowppl9: NTA That is controlling and abusive, she has a right to know. Also, based on your BF&#39;s reaction, I would be concerned about there being a tracking app on your phone. Creepy on both their parts. LazySwashbuckler: NTA - You would be TA if you didn&#39;t tell her about it. Your BF and brother should be ashamed of themselves.  Oh, and as your bf seems to be ok with your brother&#39;s behavior you might want to consider getting a new phone, just in case. TheKakaStorm: NTA, if he helped install a tracking app on her phone. He&rsquo;s probably installed one on yours. Who know what else he&rsquo;s done. Jmac_files: NTA. your boyfriend told YOU to stay out of it? That&rsquo;s pretty hypocritical. Tell her and dump your bf. 

If your significant other was spying on you without your knowledge would you want to know? Reddit user u/tellornottell3 definitely thought so, that&#39;s why she wants to tell her brother&#39;s soon-to-be-wife he&#39;s spying on her.  As...