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Because it's their special day, brides can be a little demanding when it comes to planning weddings, but this chick takes the tiered cake. Ella, as Redditor bridehairthrowaway calls her, has a very specific dress code for her bridesmaids that does not include red hair

Does this wedding also not include fun?
Does this wedding also not include fun?

She writes: 

So I've known my friend, who I'll refer to as Ella, since I was a child as she's the daughter of family friends but we've only become close in the past 2 or 3 years. She recently became engaged, and I readily accepted her offer to be part of her bridal party.

Yesterday morning I received an email from Ella. It seemed pretty standard but then when she got into the look she wants for her bridesmaids she wrote "Bridehairthrowaway, you'll need to dye your hair for the day, I'll take you to my hairdresser and cover the cost :)". This had never been mentioned to me. I'm a natural ginger, so it's not like I have an outrageous hair colour, although Ella and her other bridesmaids are all brunettes.

I texted Ella about it, she told me my hair would clash with the wedding colours and that brides get a veto over pretty much every aspect of her bridesmaids' appearances. She also mentioned my hair is quite "attention-grabbing" and I'd take away from the cohesiveness of the group. I told her I wasn't comfortable dying my hair. She said she'd get back to me but hoped I'd reconsider.