Planning a wedding is always stressful, but for one bride-to-be, there is more to worry about than just deciding between cake flavors and making a guest list. Reddit user richbiche asked the advice of the internet after writing about how her older sister, who she describes as "cruel, selfish, and conceited," just offered her $10,000 to make her the maid of honor over her younger sister, who is a person who the bride actually likes. Yeah, the description the bride gave her conniving older sister is pretty spot-on.
My older sister Mary was always daddy's little girl and she grew up cruel, selfish, and conceited just like him. My little sister and I have never been close with her or our father but we've always been there for each other.
When my father passed last year he left Mary the bulk of his estate. Mary is flashing about town with the cash while my sister and I have been struggling to help our ailing mother get by. Mary visits our mom once in awhile and spends her time there making the kind of cruel comments our father made and texting. I really don't like her but she mostly ignored me until now.
My younger sister Anne has always been the great beauty of the three of us and my older sister has always reserved the best of her vitriol for Anne. I know showing up Anne is probably the only reason Mary wants to be my maid of honor.
$10,000 is potentially life-changing money for me but I'm having a hard time thinking about Mary smugly play-acting as though we are closer than Anne and I. I'm sure Anne would understand if I explained in confidence but I don't want to do that to her. I don't want her to understand, she deserves to be my MOH, I want her to be my MOH.
But every financial difficulty I have in the future I'm always going to be haunted by the thought that I should have sold out my wedding day for my future.
Tl;dr: I'm worried letting my older sister have her way is going to mar what should be the happiest, most loving day of my life. I'm not sure that's really worth it but it feels irresponsible to walk away from this much money for the sake of my feelings.
Holy crap, Mary is trying to bribe the bride!
Now, just a few things. In the comment section of the post, OP clarified that her evil older sister said she would her the money in cash with a receipt before the wedding, but after she told everyone she was asked to be maid of honor. Also, OP reiterated that her and her fiancé live paycheck-to-paycheck, and the money would largely go to helping her sick mother who is in the hospital.
Damn, this whole story sounds like it would be a real juicy c-plot in a soap opera. But real or not, the drama in this story really is grade-A.
The comments remain somewhat divided, but most of them are basically telling OP that she should not take that money . What would you do?