When a marriage ends, couples are typically left with a whole lot of questions about who gets the keep the dog and the dishes, plus a wedding album that everyone just wants to pretend doesn't exist. In 2017, there's one more piece of marital business: The divorce selfie.
Couples are posing in front of courthouses, in lawyers' offices, and over "final" cups of coffee to celebrate their divorces. The photos can also do double duty as a divorce announcement for couples who have been putting off sharing the news with friends. It may seem like a morbid way to spend your last day as a married couple, but the photos also show that people like their former spouse at least enough to take one final selfie.
"More excited than on our wedding day," one couple captioned their photo.
"Divorce is final. Think we get along better now then when we where married," says another.
Monica Silva spoke to Today about her reasons for posting (not to mention taking) a divorce selfie. "I'll be honest, he thought I was crazy for wanting to take a picture,'' said Silva. "We had been through so much. We were separated for quite a while, so we were finally at the point where we could make fun of it." The photo also helped their family to understand that the couple had buried the hatchet. "The kids thought the picture was funny, and they know we are on good terms,” she said.
We went to court and got divorced today, and then went out for a beer and a selfie. Totally normal, right? Seems appropriate because nothing we've ever done is normal. I'm grateful to this guy for 25 sometimes good, sometimes not-so-good, years together. We raised each other from adolescence to adulthood and then made two beautiful children we love like crazycakes. Instead of being disappointed that our choice to be together didn't last forever, we choose to accept that sometimes good things fall irreparably apart, to be thankful for the adventures we had, to look forward to the new and exciting ways we will grow as individuals and in other relationships, and to commit to a lifelong friendship and coparenting partnership-- not just because it's good for our little ones, but because it's also good for us. KB, thanks for making this day, and so many other days, easier. You will always be my family. "Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends." (Rumi) #divorceselfie
Sara Olsen laughed off her divorce selfie as "totally normal," then went into a more heartfelt memoriam of her marriage. "I'm grateful to this guy for 25 sometimes good, sometimes not-so-good, years together," she wrote.
If your spouse isn't quite willing to pose with you, you can always take an approach that will forever remind her why you're getting divorced in the first place. Brock Collins shares those three little words so many spouses want to hear: "FREE AT LAST."