Couple with 30-year age gap are pretty sure people judge them cause they're 'geeks.'

Couple with 30-year age gap are pretty sure people judge them cause they're 'geeks.'
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According to the New York Post, 62-year-old Jane Beckman married 31-year-old Andrew No Last Name, making them basically a real-life Harold and Maude (The Post calls her a "geek"* bride, although the story makes no mention of her biting the heads off live animals or really any sideshow work at all). They were actually wed in 2010, so this relationship is not a flash in the pan. Why are they talking to the Post now? No idea. Possibly for age-difference positivity.

The couple met in some self-improvement courses, which just goes to show you: that stuff works. Beckman told​ the Post that she and Andrew started out as friends, but that friendship eventually developed into something more. Beckman says she found Andrew attractive, but didn't seriously consider him in a romantic sense until her ex suggested it.

I was shocked and thought he was too young for me at first, I’m more than twice his age—but one night I proposed kissing him. When I told him I’d really like to kiss him he just froze, at that moment I was terrified and thought I’d really blown it between us. Eventually we got closer and closer, then after a brief interruption from my housemate we kissed for the first time.

Couple with 30-year age gap are pretty sure people judge them cause they're 'geeks.'
Please don't make me write a caption for this picture.
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Andrew said he knew he and (the undeniably youthful looking) Jane would be "together forever" after she made the first move.

I’d never considered dating anyone more than ten years my senior, so I never considered dating Jane before she asked if she could kiss me. From the first time we were together it felt like we were in freefall or flying, there was a thrill of doing something so outside of what’s expected.

Andrew's parents weren't happy about the age difference but came around when they saw how happy their son was, and according to Beckman, "how similar we are in our outlooks and interests."

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According to Andrew:

There is an age gap but emotionally and intellectually we are perfect. We even have similar libidos, everything is lined up I couldn’t have asked for a better partner.

Because Jane and I are geeks I think this incenses people a lot more. We joke now that I’m her "trophy husband" so we try to make fun of the comments where we can

As Andrew says, their relationship does have a tendency to "incense" other people Beckman attributes this general ire to their age difference, although honestly it could have something to do with their proclivity for Civil War re-enactments. She explains:

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It was terrifying for us initially, some people told us we were sick or thought we were mother and son all the time. Some people have made some fickle comments about us, but I feel like they are more bothered by the fact that we’re happy geeks than the age difference.

But I think we’re perfect for one another, we have an amazing intellectual connection on all sorts of topics, we debate most mornings and are completely besotted with one another.

Couple with 30-year age gap are pretty sure people judge them cause they're 'geeks.'
The couple "decked" out in holiday garb (that's a Christmas pun).
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Although Beckman made the first move initially, when she "proposed" they kiss, Andrew NLM was the one who actually proposed marriage, while the couple were on a vacation in Hawaii. According to Beckman:

It was the most romantic location, I was utterly clueless, and he just started to tell me how compatible we were and how he wanted to do things with me forever. Next thing I knew he was on one knee holding a ring, I was so taken aback, I couldn’t believe it.

Ah, such romantic talk, all the compatibility and so forth. Possibly also a lot of other flowery words, like "reasonable" and "why not?"

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Couple with 30-year age gap are pretty sure people judge them cause they're 'geeks.'
They seem like a very happy couple.

They're planning to start a family at some point, via either adoption or surrogacy but for now they're still enjoying the honeymoon phase of the marriage (wow, seven years, God love 'em) before having kids. After all, as the Post points out, "[a]ge ain't nothing but a number." A number that indicates how close one is, on average, to death, but just sure, still a number, nonetheless.

*RIP Katherine Dunn, author of Geek Love.

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