Kayden Coleman is a transgender man who had been transitioning for over ten years when he discovered he was pregnant. For five of those years he'd been taking testosterone, so he thought pregnancy was impossible. One night Kayden was feeling some bloat and back pain, and joked with his partner Elijah that maybe he had a bun in the oven. They laughed and then like 20 seconds later were at the drug store getting a pregnancy test. Kayden later had it confirmed with a doctor—he was already 21 weeks along!
How did this happen? Ordinarily, testosterone would prevent pregnancy, but in preparation for a double mastectomy, Kayden had to stop taking it for about 6 weeks. He didn't realize that would be enough time for the effects of the testosterone to wear off. But it was! Soon little Azaelia joined them:
The two were obviously surprised and it put a big wrench in their life. They weren't sure how to explain a newborn without explaining that Kayden is transgender. Not everyone was accepting when they found out. Elijah told The Daily Mirror:
It was tough. Kayden had postnatal depression for about a year. I wasn’t around much and we don’t have family nearby, so it was really hard. People who say it’s a joy are either lying or they have a lot of help from family...It must have been difficult hearing that your son’s boyfriend was pregnant, I don’t deny that. But I felt like there were some unkind comments and I didn’t appreciate that.
Azaelia is now 22 months, and they plan to explain how she came to be when she's around five. For now, she calls Kayden "daddy" and Elijah "poppy," and that's that. Even though it was hard, the couple is really grateful to have Azaelia in their lives and things have calmed down a lot. Kayden says:
She is an awesome kid. Very well-mannered. She’s very sensitive but also very much like both of us. Her favorite word is, ‘No!’ I don’t feel like we should have been parents all along but I feel like we are great parents now.