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<p> </p><h2>If you&#39;ve ever been curious about what actually goes down at a sex party, maybe it&#39;s time to take the leap...</h2><p>When a recent <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/dztg1k/people_whove_gone_to_an_orgy_party_what_are_some/">Reddit </a>user asked &quot;People who&#39;ve gone to an orgy party, what are some common misconceptions that people have about orgies?&quot; experienced people everywhere were ready to share.</p><p>If you&#39;re thinking that sex parties are unhinged, lawless, sweaty human-piles of humping you&#39;re actually wrong. According to most accounts, consent and respect are key to a safe and fun orgy. Of course, this shouldn&#39;t be a shock as consent and respect are also key to any safe and fun sexual experience, but people tend to think &quot;kinkiness&quot; is synonymous with a free-for-all.</p><p>Is it awkward if you see someone you know? What if you bring your partner and realize you&#39;re actually pretty jealous? Is it a dark, loud, sex dungeon with ecstasy and cocaine everywhere? Sure, there might be a few bumps in the road (hopefully not STD bumps) but if you&#39;re interested in exploring your wilder side, these orgy experts are here to tell the truth...</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><h2>1. Good to know! &quot;itsalltucci.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>There&rsquo;s a buffet</p> </blockquote><h2>2. It&#39;s just a regular party? &quot;Smallgenie549.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>People actually socialize. Lots of talking and drinks are involved. Everyone was a regular, so there was a lot of catching up each month. The sex was more of a byproduct than the main attraction.</p> </blockquote><h2>3. Wow, &quot;Sasha_Fire.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>I got invited to an eyes wide shut party not knowing what it was because I&#39;d never seen the movie, well...it&#39;s exactly what you think it&#39;s gonna be. There was a lady giving blowjobs to three guys in one bedroom and another doing a toys show in the living room and me standing in the kitchen drinking beer having no idea what to do. I eventually left because I wasn&#39;t up for an orgy, also the ratio seemed more like a gang bang with three women (4 including my beer drinking self) and maybe 12-15 guys?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>4. All bodies are beautiful! &quot;AnaestheticAnaesthetic.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Everyone there is hot. Not true. Average people there. You might see someone that you think is hot, sure. But it&#39;s normal everyday people getting it on.</p> </blockquote><h2>5. Safety first! &quot;TickPocket.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Sex and Relationship counselor here. I&rsquo;ve learned about this stuff for my clients sake. It&rsquo;s not my cup of tea but perfectly respectful as a sexual interest. Here&rsquo;s what I&rsquo;ve learned with regards to premeditated group sex:</p> <p>Some people assume that they can just walk into an orgy (or a sex party of any kind) and things will magically just happen to them/for them. They assume that everyone is there to have sex, that they&rsquo;ll have sex with anyone, and that they&rsquo;ll be down for anything.</p> <p>In reality, legitimate sex parties or planned orgies, especially those with experienced organizers, place an INCREDIBLE amount of importance on consent, communication, and courtesy. People aren&rsquo;t just &ldquo;expected&rdquo; to have sex with you, they can withdraw their consent at any time, nobody is obligated to participate in any activity, and nobody is obligated to do things with anyone in particular. There is usually a brief/debrief in the form of an introduction and &ldquo;groundrules&rdquo; that everyone is presented with beforehand (such as through email or the day of).</p> <p>Experienced orgy-holders will also have special rules for non-con activity. Some very thorough parties make you sign contracts for non-con behaviour including outlining your understanding of safewords and limits. It&rsquo;s also not unheard of for STI checks to be made and/or for condoms or other barriers to be made available AND mandatory especially if the party is larger.</p> <p>There are, obviously, exceptions to this where Organization is low. consent isn&rsquo;t emphasized, STIs aren&rsquo;t checked, and safety/respect isn&rsquo;t as much of a concern. Engage at your own risk.</p> <p> </p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>6. Yikes, &quot;larrieuxa.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Hated it when I went to one. It was very socially awkward. Imagine you&#39;re at a bar having to reject men you aren&#39;t interested in who are coming on to you. That already sucks. Now imagine when they approach you instead of talking these men are immediately touching you, stroking your hair or shoulders or butt and you have to find ways to put them off still, and when they finally get a clue they sit there and stroke their dicks watching you have sex with someone else. Never again.</p> </blockquote><h2>7. Consent is critical, &quot;OneAndOnlyJackSchitt.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Every party I&#39;ve ever been to (that wasn&#39;t an impromptu party) had rules listed out ahead of time and people were right quick about enforcing the &#39;no touching without asking&#39; rule.</p> </blockquote><h2>8. Very informative, &quot;ghostingfortacos.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Ah yes, something I can answer. So basically most nights start of normal. There&#39;s snacks and drinks, music, mingling. Just a lot of normal party stuff. At some point people may break off into groups and grab a room or start a pile on the floor or in the pool.</p> <p>People watch. So many people just watch. Which is fine as long as they are quiet and respectful. Tacky comments like &quot;shove it up her ass!&quot; Aren&#39;t generally appreciated.</p> <p>Ask before you join. Very very few people have zero qualms about what&#39;s going on. Everyone has the right to say no. Maybe you look like her dad, or his sister. If you just jump in, they may kick you out of the pile and not ask you back. Always, always ask.</p> <p>Not everyone is 6&#39; tall, 140 lbs of lean muscle. You&#39;ve got moms, dads, fat people, skinny people, old people, youngish people. You might find a group who is all over 50 piled on the floor, humping the night away. Don&#39;t be fucking rude and say shit like &quot;nobody is hot here&quot; or &quot;everyone is old&quot;. It isn&#39;t the world&#39;s job to jerk you off (or flick your bean). They have every right to fuck on my carpet, ok. (As long as they put a towel down first)</p> <p>There isnt a ton of drugs around. Occasionally someone who is rolling might show up but there isn&#39;t a platter with a pound of coke lying around for public consumption. Sometimes alcohol is prohibited entirely. Yeah, sober orgies are a thing.</p> <p>Not everyone is someone you wanna fuck. That rude couple that pissed you off at the fridge is likely to be boning next to you.</p> <p>Rotten crotch is a thing and can really ruin a good time. If you have a fishy odor/std please stay home and recuperate before you give 30 people BV or a yeast infection, or worse. I&#39;d also not recommend an orgy if you have a permanent std, because fucking 30 people in one night is a good way to have the health department pounding down your door.</p> <p>You have to clean up after yourself. Even if there is paid staff to wash sheets you need to clean up after yourself. Good host gifts for an orgy are detergent, cups, paper towels and tp, baby wipes, condoms and lube, puppy pads, sheets and towels (white), gloves, bottled water and sport drink mix, a vinyl bed cover (they get ripped easily), snacks and sodas, trash bags. If someone is hosting the orgy at their house, ask if they need help cleaning up before, during, or after.</p> <p>Lastly, a lot of times, nothing insane goes down, but everyone still has fun. I&#39;d rather someone come out and dip their toes in than feel forced to participate.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>9. Respect boundaries, &quot;iGetHighPlayRS.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p><strong>Misconception:</strong> it&rsquo;s full of super hot model type men and women (10s).</p> <p><strong>Truth:</strong> there&rsquo;s maybe one or two 8s, a good mix of 5-7 and a LOT of 2-3s.</p> <p><strong>Misconception:</strong> everyone is fucking everywhere</p> <p><strong>Truth:</strong> there may be a few people getting it on publicly, a decent amount in the &lsquo;couples only&rsquo; areas &amp; more in private locked rooms.</p> <p><strong>Misconception:</strong> only extreme sexual deviants attend these extremely exclusive parties</p> <p><strong>Truth:</strong> they&rsquo;re not that exclusive, there are quite a few open on weekends to anyone old enough to enter depending on where you live. Make a fetlife account and find out what&rsquo;s around you. There&rsquo;s also a <em>lot</em> of really normal people. There might be one or two extremes but I&rsquo;ve yet to run into any and I&rsquo;ve been to quite a few. Usually, you&rsquo;ll get to know someone a bit and find out what they&rsquo;re into beforehand.</p> <p><strong>Misconception:</strong> it&rsquo;s dangerous and you will be taken advantage of</p> <p><strong>Truth:</strong> i&rsquo;ve seen more respect for one another and clear boundaries/consent discussion in these places than I have anywhere else in life.</p> <p>Feel free to ask anything else :)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>10. &quot;Made me sad lol,&quot; &quot;AMW204.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Don&rsquo;t do it with someone you&rsquo;re trying to date. I went to a foursome with a girl I was crazy about. It wasn&rsquo;t fun for me. But if it was with three people I was comfortable with it probably would have been great. Watching the girl I was nuts about get dicked didn&#39;t really do it for me. Made me sad lol</p> </blockquote><h2>11. It&#39;s a family affair? &quot;OneAndOnlyJackSchitt.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>That you won&#39;t run into someone you know. (This is applicable for swinger parties and less for parties with friends that turn into orgies, obviously.)</p> <p>My wife and I go to swinger parties. We live in a small town (150,000 people. It&#39;s southern California, that&#39;s a small number of people to us). My wife&#39;s mom is a social hub and personally knows like 300 people. A lot of my wife&#39;s mom&#39;s friends are in or periphery to the swinger lifestyle. So we see people we know from outside of the swinger lifestyle randomly at swinger parties.</p> <p>It&#39;s surprisingly not as big of a deal as it seems like it would be. We understand they won&#39;t rat us out, they understand we won&#39;t rat them out. Occasionally people even bring their siblings (not to sleep with, but to carpool). I couldn&#39;t bring myself to do it, but it is kinda hot nailing two different sisters in one night.</p> <h2> </h2> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>12. There&#39;s competition! &quot;Xhira.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>In movies they look like sensual dreamily lit affairs with lots of soft moaning and sighing and slow fucking.</p> <p>In reality many people are damn noisy. Lots of overenthusiastic yelling, moaning, and vigorous flesh smacking, ball-slapping sex. I once lay down with someone i&rsquo;d just met, there was a woman really shouting her head off with apparently orgasmic delight next to us. She was setting some kind of gold standard. There was no way we&rsquo;d be able to bang as good. So we both just shriveled and quietly went away.</p> </blockquote><h2>13. Don&#39;t be the creep! &quot;EricaLeeRomeo.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>Don&#39;t be the creepiest guy at the orgy!</p> <p>There&#39;s always some asshole in a plague mask and a zorro cape, or who won&#39;t take his boots off, or says, &quot;No homo&quot; every time he touches a guy by accident, or who thinks you ask for consent like, &quot;May I penetrate you&quot; like a serial killer.</p> <p>Cut it out. Relax and hang back, or find a thing to do, but if you can&#39;t come correct, FIX YOURSELF. Its not to late to just stop doing the stupid thing, and act normal</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>14. It&#39;s like speed dating! &quot;digmachine.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>I went to a gay orgy pool party. I was surprised at the amount of nonsexual socializing that was happening. You play for a while and then you cum, and then it&#39;s like &quot;so, what kind of video games do you like?&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2> </h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

14 people tell the truth about what happens at sex parties.

 If you&#39;ve ever been curious about what actually goes down at a sex party, maybe it&#39;s time to take the leap...When a recent Reddit user asked &quot;People who&#39;ve gone to an orgy party, what are some common misconceptions that people have about orgies?&quot; experienced people everywhere were ready to share.If you&#39;re thinking that sex parties are unhinged, lawless, sweaty human-piles of humping you&#39;re actually wrong. According to most accounts, consent and respect are key to a safe and fun orgy. Of course, this shouldn&#39;t be a shock as consent and respect are also key to any safe and fun sexual experience, but people tend to think &quot;kinkiness&quot; is synonymous with a free-for-all.Is it awkward if you see someone you know? What if you bring your partner and realize you&#39;re actually pretty jealous? Is it a dark, loud, sex dungeon with ecstasy and cocaine everywhere? Sure, there might be a few bumps in the road (hopefully not STD bumps) but if you&#39;re interested in exploring your wilder side, these orgy experts are here to tell the truth... 1. Good to know! &quot;itsalltucci.&quot; There&rsquo;s a buffet 2. It&#39;s just a regular party? &quot;Smallgenie549.&quot; People actually socialize. Lots of talking and drinks are involved. Everyone was a regular, so there was a lot of catching up each month. The sex was more of a byproduct than the main attraction. 3. Wow, &quot;Sasha_Fire.&quot; I got invited to an eyes wide shut party not knowing what it was because I&#39;d never seen the movie, well...it&#39;s exactly what you think it&#39;s gonna be. There was a lady giving blowjobs to three guys in one bedroom and another doing a toys show in the living room and me standing in the kitchen drinking beer having no idea what to do. I eventually left because I wasn&#39;t up for an orgy, also the ratio seemed more like a gang bang with three women (4 including my beer drinking self) and maybe 12-15 guys? 4. All bodies are beautiful! &quot;AnaestheticAnaesthetic.&quot; Everyone there is hot. Not true. Average people there. You might see someone that you think is hot, sure. But it&#39;s normal everyday people getting it on. 5. Safety first! &quot;TickPocket.&quot; Sex and Relationship counselor here. I&rsquo;ve learned about this stuff for my clients sake. It&rsquo;s not my cup of tea but perfectly respectful as a sexual interest. Here&rsquo;s what I&rsquo;ve learned with regards to premeditated group sex: Some people assume that they can just walk into an orgy (or a sex party of any kind) and things will magically just happen to them/for them. They assume that everyone is there to have sex, that they&rsquo;ll have sex with anyone, and that they&rsquo;ll be down for anything. In reality, legitimate sex parties or planned orgies, especially those with experienced organizers, place an INCREDIBLE amount of importance on consent, communication, and courtesy. People aren&rsquo;t just &ldquo;expected&rdquo; to have sex with you, they can withdraw their consent at any time, nobody is obligated to participate in any activity, and nobody is obligated to do things with anyone in particular. There is usually a brief/debrief in the form of an introduction and &ldquo;groundrules&rdquo; that everyone is presented with beforehand (such as through email or the day of). Experienced orgy-holders will also have special rules for non-con activity. Some very thorough parties make you sign contracts for non-con behaviour including outlining your understanding of safewords and limits. It&rsquo;s also not unheard of for STI checks to be made and/or for condoms or other barriers to be made available AND mandatory especially if the party is larger. There are, obviously, exceptions to this where Organization is low. consent isn&rsquo;t emphasized, STIs aren&rsquo;t checked, and safety/respect isn&rsquo;t as much of a concern. Engage at your own risk.   6. Yikes, &quot;larrieuxa.&quot; Hated it when I went to one. It was very socially awkward. Imagine you&#39;re at a bar having to reject men you aren&#39;t interested in who are coming on to you. That already sucks. Now imagine when they approach you instead of talking these men are immediately touching you, stroking your hair or shoulders or butt and you have to find ways to put them off still, and when they finally get a clue they sit there and stroke their dicks watching you have sex with someone else. Never again. 7. Consent is critical, &quot;OneAndOnlyJackSchitt.&quot; Every party I&#39;ve ever been to (that wasn&#39;t an impromptu party) had rules listed out ahead of time and people were right quick about enforcing the &#39;no touching without asking&#39; rule. 8. Very informative, &quot;ghostingfortacos.&quot; Ah yes, something I can answer. So basically most nights start of normal. There&#39;s snacks and drinks, music, mingling. Just a lot of normal party stuff. At some point people may break off into groups and grab a room or start a pile on the floor or in the pool. People watch. So many people just watch. Which is fine as long as they are quiet and respectful. Tacky comments like &quot;shove it up her ass!&quot; Aren&#39;t generally appreciated. Ask before you join. Very very few people have zero qualms about what&#39;s going on. Everyone has the right to say no. Maybe you look like her dad, or his sister. If you just jump in, they may kick you out of the pile and not ask you back. Always, always ask. Not everyone is 6&#39; tall, 140 lbs of lean muscle. You&#39;ve got moms, dads, fat people, skinny people, old people, youngish people. You might find a group who is all over 50 piled on the floor, humping the night away. Don&#39;t be fucking rude and say shit like &quot;nobody is hot here&quot; or &quot;everyone is old&quot;. It isn&#39;t the world&#39;s job to jerk you off (or flick your bean). They have every right to fuck on my carpet, ok. (As long as they put a towel down first) There isnt a ton of drugs around. Occasionally someone who is rolling might show up but there isn&#39;t a platter with a pound of coke lying around for public consumption. Sometimes alcohol is prohibited entirely. Yeah, sober orgies are a thing. Not everyone is someone you wanna fuck. That rude couple that pissed you off at the fridge is likely to be boning next to you. Rotten crotch is a thing and can really ruin a good time. If you have a fishy odor/std please stay home and recuperate before you give 30 people BV or a yeast infection, or worse. I&#39;d also not recommend an orgy if you have a permanent std, because fucking 30 people in one night is a good way to have the health department pounding down your door. You have to clean up after yourself. Even if there is paid staff to wash sheets you need to clean up after yourself. Good host gifts for an orgy are detergent, cups, paper towels and tp, baby wipes, condoms and lube, puppy pads, sheets and towels (white), gloves, bottled water and sport drink mix, a vinyl bed cover (they get ripped easily), snacks and sodas, trash bags. If someone is hosting the orgy at their house, ask if they need help cleaning up before, during, or after. Lastly, a lot of times, nothing insane goes down, but everyone still has fun. I&#39;d rather someone come out and dip their toes in than feel forced to participate. 9. Respect boundaries, &quot;iGetHighPlayRS.&quot; Misconception: it&rsquo;s full of super hot model type men and women (10s). Truth: there&rsquo;s maybe one or two 8s, a good mix of 5-7 and a LOT of 2-3s. Misconception: everyone is fucking everywhere Truth: there may be a few people getting it on publicly, a decent amount in the &lsquo;couples only&rsquo; areas &amp; more in private locked rooms. Misconception: only extreme sexual deviants attend these extremely exclusive parties Truth: they&rsquo;re not that exclusive, there are quite a few open on weekends to anyone old enough to enter depending on where you live. Make a fetlife account and find out what&rsquo;s around you. There&rsquo;s also a lot of really normal people. There might be one or two extremes but I&rsquo;ve yet to run into any and I&rsquo;ve been to quite a few. Usually, you&rsquo;ll get to know someone a bit and find out what they&rsquo;re into beforehand. Misconception: it&rsquo;s dangerous and you will be taken advantage of Truth: i&rsquo;ve seen more respect for one another and clear boundaries/consent discussion in these places than I have anywhere else in life. Feel free to ask anything else :) 10. &quot;Made me sad lol,&quot; &quot;AMW204.&quot; Don&rsquo;t do it with someone you&rsquo;re trying to date. I went to a foursome with a girl I was crazy about. It wasn&rsquo;t fun for me. But if it was with three people I was comfortable with it probably would have been great. Watching the girl I was nuts about get dicked didn&#39;t really do it for me. Made me sad lol 11. It&#39;s a family affair? &quot;OneAndOnlyJackSchitt.&quot; That you won&#39;t run into someone you know. (This is applicable for swinger parties and less for parties with friends that turn into orgies, obviously.) My wife and I go to swinger parties. We live in a small town (150,000 people. It&#39;s southern California, that&#39;s a small number of people to us). My wife&#39;s mom is a social hub and personally knows like 300 people. A lot of my wife&#39;s mom&#39;s friends are in or periphery to the swinger lifestyle. So we see people we know from outside of the swinger lifestyle randomly at swinger parties. It&#39;s surprisingly not as big of a deal as it seems like it would be. We understand they won&#39;t rat us out, they understand we won&#39;t rat them out. Occasionally people even bring their siblings (not to sleep with, but to carpool). I couldn&#39;t bring myself to do it, but it is kinda hot nailing two different sisters in one night.   12. There&#39;s competition! &quot;Xhira.&quot; In movies they look like sensual dreamily lit affairs with lots of soft moaning and sighing and slow fucking. In reality many people are damn noisy. Lots of overenthusiastic yelling, moaning, and vigorous flesh smacking, ball-slapping sex. I once lay down with someone i&rsquo;d just met, there was a woman really shouting her head off with apparently orgasmic delight next to us. She was setting some kind of gold standard. There was no way we&rsquo;d be able to bang as good. So we both just shriveled and quietly went away. 13. Don&#39;t be the creep! &quot;EricaLeeRomeo.&quot; Don&#39;t be the creepiest guy at the orgy! There&#39;s always some asshole in a plague mask and a zorro cape, or who won&#39;t take his boots off, or says, &quot;No homo&quot; every time he touches a guy by accident, or who thinks you ask for consent like, &quot;May I penetrate you&quot; like a serial killer. Cut it out. Relax and hang back, or find a thing to do, but if you can&#39;t come correct, FIX YOURSELF. Its not to late to just stop doing the stupid thing, and act normal 14. It&#39;s like speed dating! &quot;digmachine.&quot; I went to a gay orgy pool party. I was surprised at the amount of nonsexual socializing that was happening. You play for a while and then you cum, and then it&#39;s like &quot;so, what kind of video games do you like?&quot;  

If you&#39;ve ever been curious about what actually goes down at a sex party, maybe it&#39;s time to take the leap...  When a recent Reddit user asked &quot;People who&#39;ve gone to an orgy party, what are some common misconceptions that...