15 people share why they don't talk to 'that family member' anymore.

We all know 'that family member.'

The one who can't come to Christmas anymore, and if they show up it's a thing.

In some cases, they're simply a person who sows discord everywhere they go.

Other times, it's personally pointed at one person.

The holidays are a time when fractured family dynamics come to the forefront, and sometimes it can be comforting to remember you're not alone.

In a popular Reddit thread, people shared why they don't talk to 'that' family member anymore, and it proves one thing: no family is fully okay.

1. From chompytown:

Stole our grandpa's identity (his dad) and ruined him financially. Then when his brother died, tried stealing money from his sister (my mom) and conning his way into things that didn't belong to him.

When my mom passed, he asked for her SSN, told me it was for an old insurance policy their brother (referenced above) worth like 400 bucks.

I told him I wanted more info, looked into it and it was 76k that he was trying to claim entirely for himself instead of me and my sibling getting my mom's share. F**k that guy.

Edit: It's my uncle. His dad didn't want him to go to prison so nothing came of the identity theft.

2. From mblaze111:

Because that family member stole my money and blamed it on me, lol.

3. From One_Has_Lepers:

Accused me of stealing all our dad's money when he died. There was a will and we all got the same amount. I pointed this out and she blocked me. 🤷

4. From Texandria:

When the ex-husband got released from jail for spousal abuse and restraining order violations, she gave him my new home address.

5. From asoftflash:

My sister. She stole approximately $30k from my dad and $10k from my mom. She got credit cards in my dad’s name, too. He eventually had to file bankruptcy.

The money she stole from my mom was all her savings that she desperately needed when she was leaning an abusive relationship. My parents were far from good parents, but they didn’t deserve to have their financial life completely destroyed.

I wish those were her only crimes. She was evil from as long as I can remember. She emotionally abused me and put me down for as long as I can remember. I was a sensitive kid, so I sadly believed everything she said.

She tried to steal my friends and boyfriends. She ruined my clothes. She put me in unsafe and mature situations that took years of therapy to heal from. Her theft, manipulation, selfishness, and narcissism took so much away from me.

There was no money for a first car, college, etc. After she took what she wanted my dad was a shell of a person, so he couldn’t process how hard her actions had been on me, too. I lost all my protectors. I was alone.

There’s so much more I could share. I sometimes can’t believe I experienced what I did because it’s so bleak. I stopped all communication with her about 10 years ago and my life has positively changed as a result.

I know she still tries to get friends and family to not like me because I’ve heard stories. I don’t care what she does and I don’t care what anyone thinks. I know the truth and the trauma and I’m just happy to be free of her!

6. From SpudGun312:

My wife's mom. Among other things, she attempted to burn down my house. Whilst her daughter and grandson were inside. She's a piece of shit who's going to die bitter and alone and that's just fine by all of her kids.

7. From Fencius:

My sister. She’s been a sporadically recovering drug addict for like 15 years. The last straw was when she stole our checkbook out of my wife’s purse. At our father’s wake.

8. From janice-mericson:

Because he was hitting on the nurse in the room where my mother was being compassionately extubated. Oh yeah, he’s my dad.

9. From PocketSand111:

She’s a grandiose narcissist who projects all of her negative qualities on any and everyone. When I tried to have a talk about all the abuse I endured as a child I was swiftly told that everything was my fault.

She’s attempted to pit my brother and I against each other for most of our lives. The memory that sticks with me was when I was 14 she said she’d make sure I never get to see my brother when we’re grown up.

10. From AlienkELL:

He’s a p*dophile, and a crackhead. Tried to have a semi-normal relationship with him where I would visit him infrequently and message him like once a month. Then one day while visiting him I found p*dophilic fan fiction on his computer :)

He spent my whole life trying to convince me the charges were bogus lol. He’s my dad btw.

11. From Accomplished-Bid778:

I'm a white guy from Indiana who fell in love and married a Hispanic woman from Arizona.

Went back to Indiana for my grandmother's funeral when my step brother wanted to tell racist jokes to my wife to 'break the ice' and 'lighten the mood' at the wake. Yeah. I don't talk to him anymore.

12. From crosseyedpanda18:

Uncle punched me in the neck for no reason while drunk. Cut his ass off that same night. On Christmas at that.

13. From Eldhannas:

My aunt bought a Christmas present for my son, not my stepson. I asked politely if we could buy a present for him and say it was from her, she refused. I returned the present unopened. After that, I've barely spoken to her for 20+ years.

14. From GreenOnionCrusader:

Because he was made executor of Grandma's estate and decided he and his sh***y kids got everything. Her house with a couple acres, her newish car, her $1.5k adjustable bed, they got it all.

Mom didn't have the funds to fight it on her own and her brother and sister didn't feel like fighting for their share. F**k you, Uncle Tim, you greedy bastard.

15. From Pink-Reindeer:

I just recently disowned a family member and their kids. They're type that reaches out only when they want something. They will send a Christmas list with hundreds of dollars worth of items on it, and then not give a single thing in return.

They'll tell you they can't afford rent, and then plan a vacation. They'll ask for help with the light bill and then show up with new tattoos.

They can't even be bothered to make the tiniest effort of sending a 'Merry Christmas' text or saying 'Happy Birthday' on Facebook. And his kids soaked all that up and magnified it, and now they're all insufferable.

I made excuses for them, coddled them, defended them to my parents, pushed for them to be included more in family things, and for what? The only thing that will be gone from my life from them not being in it is resentment.