Dating is hard and exhausting, but it can also be exciting and hope inspiring.
There are billions of people in the world, which means there are billions of personalities you can come across, both of the compatible and non-compatible varieties.
Since it can sometimes feel like there are more red flags to sift through than potential matches, it can be refreshing to hear stories of green flags and successful dates.
We talked about everything and the conversation never dulled, everyone at the party left and we were the only two people there and didn’t realize it for a while. 25 years later and were still running our mouths!
When my girlfriend and I had our first date her mom sent her with 50 bucks (just in case I made her pay I guess) and since I paid, she made the waiter cry by tipping him the whole 50 bucks, apparently, he was having a bad day.
On our third date, we watched a movie at his place. He remembered that on our first date I ordered a Dr Pepper with my meal and a chocolate chip cookie for dessert. He had Dr Peppers for me in the fridge and made me homemade chocolate chip cookies. He burned them but I married him two years later anyways.
We had been dating about 6 months and she showed up at my apartment with a homemade cake on my birthday. It might sound like no big deal to some people but I had never dated a girl who cared about my birthday. I almost dropped to my knees and cried when I opened the door.
She came to my door and my puppy got excited. Without skipping a beat, she scooped up the dog & asked where the 3 of us were going. That was 19 years ago. Puppy is gone but we've stuck together through hell and back.
The moment I knew I was gonna marry this man. We went grocery shopping. It was about 9pm, we had both just been paid. The young lady in line in front of us had a very young baby, and was paying with WIC coupons and a food stamp EBT card.
Her total came to about $22, and she was holding a $20. She looked dejected, and put back the one and only thing that was probably her splurge, a candy bar and an energy drink.
Other than that, she had baby food, diapers, chicken, rice, bananas, formula, wipes, the bare minimum. I turned around to tell my now-husband to hand me my wallet. I didn't have to.
He already had his out, took out a $50 bill, handed it to her and told her to keep the change. He changed her week, he changed my life. That was THE moment I knew he was it for me.
I realized I spent most of the date talking about myself (hear me out) and I’ve never once had that happen. I’m a very reserved and private person when I first meet someone which has honestly made dating difficult for years.
But he had such a way of asking questions, and keeping the conversation going, and encouraging me to share my thoughts, opinions, and he also shared his to everything I said.
When our date was done, I realized I spent almost the entire date talking. That is so unlike me for first dates! I wasn’t afraid of him judging me or not liking my response to something.
All of his questions were sincere and he seemed to genuinely care about whatever the hell was about to come out of my mouth. I didn’t have to think about what to say, it just came out of me and he met me wherever I was at. Maybe it sounds silly, but it was pretty magical. we still see each other!
First date, she was driving us to a spot to go hiking, about an hour’s drive. We’re talking and talking, but every once in awhile we wouldn’t be talking, and it just felt so comfortable and not awkward being silent together.
Pretty cool story. First date with my now wife. Had plans to go to a fancy Italian restaurant. I show up a bit early, dressed as nice as my wardrobe allows, a couple drinks before she gets there. But anyway she arrives and we enjoy dinner, drinks, appetizers, dessert. The works.
Anyway when it’s time for the check the waitress comes over and says “a person who prefers to remain anonymous picked up yall's tab and told me to tell y’all to continue to enjoy the night.”
We were shocked. I wasn’t keeping tabs but this was an expensive meal had. I tipped well of course and I thought the only reason anyway would do that is they say an obvious first date unfolding and thought we were cute/happy or something.
We both felt pretty special. Been married for 3 years. Together for 8. We eventually paid it forward to another young couple years later. Total boss move btw. Definitely feel good about yourself.
He took me out for coffee in a place that he made me choose. When I got there, he was already waiting, and the way his eyes shined when he saw me was really adorable. We ordered and played chess, his hand was shaking. its been a year and counting.
We stayed at the wine bar much longer than planned, and we were trying to race to a restaurant for food before places closed. So, I offered her a piggyback ride to run it, due to her wearing heels.
She jumped on, threw her arm forward, and yelled 'Onward!' We didn't make it to the restaurant in time, but did end up at the nearby diner for a few more hours. Been married just passed 3 years now, and leaving for our honeymoon (FINALLY, thanks COVID), in 10 hours.
He made it clear it was a date and that he was interested without it ever feeling creepy or like he was pressuring me for anything.
We talked for hours, went from restaurant to walking up and down the river to my place for a beer, then I offered for him to stay over but on a mattress on the floor (I was in a studio with no couch), not in my bed.
He wasn’t pushy about anything happening. The first few weeks he was always sweet and respectful but made it so clear that he was interested in a relationship, no back and forth or second guessing. And now we’re married!
Our first real date was someone else’s wedding. We got tired of the reception and walked onto the pier to look at the stars. Now we’re married ourselves.
A two-hour date that felt like five minutes. At the end of it she made some silly bet with me that she said if she lost, she’d go out with me again. And of course, she lost. It was about eight green flags.
We met in a nightclub, I took him home for some fun and games. When we woke up and had breakfast, he said 'what would you like to do today?' instead of just leaving his number and doing the dash.
We’ve been together for 27 years and married for 15 of them, and we’ve almost never spent a night apart.