Hindsight is 20/20, and this rule of thumb applies sevenfold when it comes to toxic relationships. When you're inside your love bubble it's hard to see what's really going on emotionally, whether it's toxic or not.
While processing the emotional gymnastics we performed in past relationships can be incredibly painful, it also lends clarity for spotting future red flags. Sadly, a lot of the cultural norms around relationships are convoluted, we're bombarded with romantic comedies that promote obsession, isolation, and co-dependence in the name of "love," but in the real world relationships require a lot more emotional nuance.
The Twitter user Halima kicked off an online dialogue about toxic relationships when she asked her followers to share the red flags they didn't recognize in past relationships.