Raising a kid is hard work, and one of the hardest parts to navigate is finding the balance between giving your kid the world, and disciplining them into a functional and kind adult.
Kids need guidance while their brains and coping mechanisms form, which means they can't always get what they want, even if that means you have to be the "bad guy." This can be especially tricky for parents who crave closeness with their children and want to douse them in love and freedom, but it's a fact of life.
Luckily, it's never too late to start to shift parenting techniques to include more guidance, as hard as it may be.
Having been abused and neglected as a child, I vowed not to make the same mistake with my own kid. I made a bunch of different ones instead!
I didn't discipline her enough, because the only kind of discipline I knew was physical abuse and I refused to do that. In trying to do better I went in the opposite direction, and by the time she was about four years old she was a spoiled, tyrannical brat.