Man asks if he's wrong to threaten to fire his much younger pregnant fiancée.

Working sucks. But it can make the day go by faster if you work with your signficant other! Or, it can make time stand still in the worst way imaginable. Either way, when your personal life gets too intertwined with your work life... things get messy.When a supervisor at a bar had troubles with his employee, it was especially complicated because... she is also his fiancée that is pregnant with his child. You know - the typical work relationship! At the end of his rope, he reached out to the famous Am I the A*shole forum on Reddit to see if he was out of line or totally justified."AITA (Am I the as*hole) for threatening to fire my fiancé?" I (35M) and my fiancé (25F) work at the same bar together. That’s actually how we met was when she started working there 4 years ago. I asked her on a date not long after and we’ve been together ever since. So, a 31yo man asked out a 21yo woman at work...? Great start. Currently, my fiancé is 33 weeks pregnant. While I understand working and being on her feet is very hard for her, she just has really dropped the ball at work. Ever since she found out that she’s pregnant she’s been sleeping in, showing up late, missing shifts, trying to leave early, giving away shifts last minute, and just having a bad attitude towards work in general. You mean the woman carrying your child? Okay, just making sure. Yes it’s difficult for her to work now and she gets tired easily, but I really don’t think it excuses her behavior. She’s been named in multiple negative reviews and it’s been brought up by the owners more than once. As a rude bartender myself, I consider bad reviews to be badges of honor. (I was fired) Over the weekend, she was working during brunch and she decided to leave early without being approved to do so. I had to come in to cover her because no one else was available. By time I got there, multiple tables had walked out from waiting for so long since we were understaffed to begin with. I didn’t get home until late since I was scheduled to close anyways, and I was furious. I slept on the couch and when she tried to get me to come to bed I sat her down and told her how she couldn’t pull something like that again, or she would be fired. Talk about bringing work home... She obviously didn’t like this and threw a fit, calling me names and crying about how she needs this job. She ended up going to her friends house for the night. I know she’s going through a lot, but I’m just tired of picking up the slack for her at work. So, AITA (Am I as*hole)? As you can imagine, Redditors were eager to leave comments with their rulings. At some point, OP went back to clarify his original post: Edit: I was not her boss when we were first dating. We were both bartenders and I didn’t get promoted until 2 years ago. Her hours have been cut back significantly to the bare minimum and I do most of the housework at home to try to help out. I even told her that we would be fine if she just quit or took leave early but she doesn’t want to do that Okay, so there's the full story. His version, at least. But what did the all-knowing internet have to say? He was 31 years old and HER BOSS, asked out a 21 year old and eventually got her pregnant. At BEST this is horrible decision making on his part. At worst... EDIT: To the 35 people who have messaged me and commented so far saying that he was not her boss when they started dating, I can't imagine why you would think this would change my mind about anything here. He obviously had seniority over her when she started, which is how he was promoted to boss. She couldn't possibly have been even working there long because she was 21 and barely allowed in bars at all. - solarisink Besides the obvious, she’s also carrying OP’s child. Since when is pregnancy supposed to be a walk in the park? Men can’t even stand a cold without being wusses about it. Imagine growing a watermelon in your tummy, that sucks half the life out of you, until you ultimately have to squeeze it out between your legs. - jakeofheart You really downplayed that she's 33 week pregnant. A job like that where she's on her feet is probably pushing her to her limits and she's barely coping. You really need to be more compassionate toward her. She should be at home, kicking her feet up, not worrying about losing her job. - JHawk444 She apparently started crying and said she "needs this job" so perhaps she is scared to lose her financial independence to this man. We are only hearing his side of things here. - nisharfa YTA (You're the as*hole) Don’t sleep with your subordinates, especially ones 10 years younger than you then bitch about her being immature and irresponsible. - Worth_Raspberry_11 And this comment was my personal fave: INFO: Why can't she not go on Maternity leave? EDIT: I've just looked up US statutory maternity leave, Jesus, what does America have against woman? EDIT 2: Turns out it's the Christians and I am SHOCKED! - Checkoutmawheeeeepit There you have it, everyone. Let a gal rest in her third trimester, and maybe don't get much younger employees at your workplace pregnant?And my personal moral is that sometimes it's okay to just... be bad at your job. Especially if you work in a bar. Cheers!