Finding out how your family really feels about your style, taste, or your relationship with your partner can be difficult when you've already mailed out your "will you be my bridesmaid" care packages or put a deposit on a destination bachelorette party Airbnb.
So, when a bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole?" about her decision to have her wedding ceremony in ASL, people were there to help parse out a verdict.
I'm (24F) deaf and growing up my parents got me bilateral cochlear implants and forced me into mainstream school, never taught me sign language and never immersed me into my culture as a deaf person. They were actually pretty against me using ASL at all. Well I took ASL in high school against my parents wishes and then got into a deaf university.