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<h2>Weddings can sometimes bring out years of unspoken family tension, passive aggression, and drama disguised by floral arrangements, layered cake and elaborate centerpieces...</h2><p>While some couples stray from the traditional big white wedding with an open bar, flower-arch, sentimental vows and raunchy speeches, there are some codes of wedding etiquette that apply whether you have a 200-guest luxury soiree or a quiet backyard dinner celebration. Never wear white as a wedding guest, don&#39;t give an impromptu speech, don&#39;t bring kids to a child-free event and never do anything that takes attention away from the couple getting married.</p><p>Proposing or announcing a pregnancy at a wedding is never a good idea unless you&#39;ve cleared the information with the newlyweds first. It might be tempting to want to take advantage of the whole family being together to share some personal news, but making someone else&#39;s wedding day about you is usually considered tacky and selfish. Remember that, Aunt Linda! </p><p>So, when a frustrated bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her mother-in-law&#39;s choice to make a spotlight-stealing announcement at her wedding, people were there to help deem a verdict.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/n0qdh1/aita_for_ignoring_my_motherinlaw_after_she_made/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for ignoring my mother-in-law after she made an announcement at my wedding?</h2><blockquote> <p>I (F24) was married recently to my childhood sweetheart (M24). Pretty small due to Covid, but it was planned well in advance so we didn&rsquo;t cancel, just kept it to family, and we plan to have a party with everyone else at a later date. For some background on my husband, his parents had him pretty young (18 and 19 respectively), and he has a very close family.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Our wedding reception was quite intimate, but we had the traditional speeches planned: father-of-the-bride, best man (husband&rsquo;s brother), groom. It was only the day before that my mother-in-law asked if she could have the mic to say a few words when we sat down to eat, and we said that would be great, but that she would need to go before my husband. Stupidly we figured she would talk about us at our wedding so we never asked what she planned to say. Big mistake :)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She announced that she&rsquo;s expecting a baby. She&rsquo;s still pretty young and very healthy but it was a huge shock that just completely took over all night. What&rsquo;s even worse for me is that I am also pregnant and we planned to announce it at the wedding, but I told my husband to just leave it out of his speech. Everything felt a bit sour for me after that, so.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>After the wedding I didn&rsquo;t speak to my mother-in-law for a few days and I got a call from her sister (a guest) to ask what was up. I explained that I felt like the attention was taken away from us without our permission (I would have said no, but still) and it was so unfair to spring that on us. Apparently I ruined my own wedding because I was obviously pissed off about the good news and that I was being &lsquo;totally selfish&rsquo;. Maybe I was, but it was my wedding day that was already ruined by a pandemic!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Husband is on my side though clearly feels a bit uncomfortable telling his mum that, which I get as I don&rsquo;t want to have this argument directly with a pregnant woman either. The rest of the family is split down the middle (my side and his) because it was such a close family event anyway and &lsquo;we all need some happiness&rsquo;. Now I&rsquo;m starting to wonder if I overreacted and spoiled everything.</p> <p>Am I the as*hole?</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). You NEVER make a personal announcement at a wedding without the couple&rsquo;s knowledge and permission. - SolitaryTeaParty</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Just because your MIL is pregnant doesn&rsquo;t mean she isn&rsquo;t an as*hole. Everyone knows that announcing pregnancy/engagement or anything else significant is totally taboo at a wedding. This was not an oversight. You should have continued to announce your own baby news anyway (that would have diluted her news). Congratulations on your wedding and your baby news - Maximoose-777</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Nta. There are a few unspoken rules about weddings: don&rsquo;t wear white, don&rsquo;t get engaged and don&rsquo;t announce a pregnancy. I wouldn&rsquo;t bother to tell her about your own pregnancy, let her find out from social media or from family gossip. If she makes a stink just remind her how she clearly needs to focus on her own pregnancy as she just had to announce it at your wedding. - ibetammi</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Tacky tacky tacky. - queenoreo</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Everyone knows you don&rsquo;t share your own big news at someone else&rsquo;s event. She made your wedding day about her and it sounds like she knew what she was doing. - 4broccoli</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA a wedding should be about the people getting married. She never should have dropped this bomb without discussing it with you guys first. No matter how close you are it was selfish to do this on a day that was about you and your husband! I would have been mad as well. I&#39;m sorry that happened. - behindblood</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. I&rsquo;m concerned that your husband is uncomfortable telling his mother what an ass she is. He should be telling her how grossly inappropriate MIL was. He also needs to tell his aunt that called you the same thing. He should be angry! - lilyofthevalley2659</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone was in full agreement that this bride isn&#39;t at all wrong to be upset with her mother-in-law for stealing the spotlight at her wedding, especially since she and her husband had their own pregnancy announcement to share. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride asks if she’s wrong to cut off MIL for announcing pregnancy at her wedding.

Weddings can sometimes bring out years of unspoken family tension, passive aggression, and drama disguised by floral arrangements, layered cake and elaborate centerpieces...While some couples stray from the traditional big white wedding with an open bar, flower-arch, sentimental vows and raunchy speeches, there are some codes of wedding etiquette that apply whether you have a 200-guest luxury soiree or a quiet backyard dinner celebration. Never wear white as a wedding guest, don&#39;t give an impromptu speech, don&#39;t bring kids to a child-free event and never do anything that takes attention away from the couple getting married.Proposing or announcing a pregnancy at a wedding is never a good idea unless you&#39;ve cleared the information with the newlyweds first. It might be tempting to want to take advantage of the whole family being together to share some personal news, but making someone else&#39;s wedding day about you is usually considered tacky and selfish. Remember that, Aunt Linda! So, when a frustrated bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about her mother-in-law&#39;s choice to make a spotlight-stealing announcement at her wedding, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for ignoring my mother-in-law after she made an announcement at my wedding? I (F24) was married recently to my childhood sweetheart (M24). Pretty small due to Covid, but it was planned well in advance so we didn&rsquo;t cancel, just kept it to family, and we plan to have a party with everyone else at a later date. For some background on my husband, his parents had him pretty young (18 and 19 respectively), and he has a very close family.   Our wedding reception was quite intimate, but we had the traditional speeches planned: father-of-the-bride, best man (husband&rsquo;s brother), groom. It was only the day before that my mother-in-law asked if she could have the mic to say a few words when we sat down to eat, and we said that would be great, but that she would need to go before my husband. Stupidly we figured she would talk about us at our wedding so we never asked what she planned to say. Big mistake :)   She announced that she&rsquo;s expecting a baby. She&rsquo;s still pretty young and very healthy but it was a huge shock that just completely took over all night. What&rsquo;s even worse for me is that I am also pregnant and we planned to announce it at the wedding, but I told my husband to just leave it out of his speech. Everything felt a bit sour for me after that, so.   After the wedding I didn&rsquo;t speak to my mother-in-law for a few days and I got a call from her sister (a guest) to ask what was up. I explained that I felt like the attention was taken away from us without our permission (I would have said no, but still) and it was so unfair to spring that on us. Apparently I ruined my own wedding because I was obviously pissed off about the good news and that I was being &lsquo;totally selfish&rsquo;. Maybe I was, but it was my wedding day that was already ruined by a pandemic!   Husband is on my side though clearly feels a bit uncomfortable telling his mum that, which I get as I don&rsquo;t want to have this argument directly with a pregnant woman either. The rest of the family is split down the middle (my side and his) because it was such a close family event anyway and &lsquo;we all need some happiness&rsquo;. Now I&rsquo;m starting to wonder if I overreacted and spoiled everything. Am I the as*hole?  Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). You NEVER make a personal announcement at a wedding without the couple&rsquo;s knowledge and permission. - SolitaryTeaParty  NTA. Just because your MIL is pregnant doesn&rsquo;t mean she isn&rsquo;t an as*hole. Everyone knows that announcing pregnancy/engagement or anything else significant is totally taboo at a wedding. This was not an oversight. You should have continued to announce your own baby news anyway (that would have diluted her news). Congratulations on your wedding and your baby news - Maximoose-777  Nta. There are a few unspoken rules about weddings: don&rsquo;t wear white, don&rsquo;t get engaged and don&rsquo;t announce a pregnancy. I wouldn&rsquo;t bother to tell her about your own pregnancy, let her find out from social media or from family gossip. If she makes a stink just remind her how she clearly needs to focus on her own pregnancy as she just had to announce it at your wedding. - ibetammi  NTA. Tacky tacky tacky. - queenoreo  NTA. Everyone knows you don&rsquo;t share your own big news at someone else&rsquo;s event. She made your wedding day about her and it sounds like she knew what she was doing. - 4broccoli  NTA a wedding should be about the people getting married. She never should have dropped this bomb without discussing it with you guys first. No matter how close you are it was selfish to do this on a day that was about you and your husband! I would have been mad as well. I&#39;m sorry that happened. - behindblood  NTA. I&rsquo;m concerned that your husband is uncomfortable telling his mother what an ass she is. He should be telling her how grossly inappropriate MIL was. He also needs to tell his aunt that called you the same thing. He should be angry! - lilyofthevalley2659 So, there you have it!Everyone was in full agreement that this bride isn&#39;t at all wrong to be upset with her mother-in-law for stealing the spotlight at her wedding, especially since she and her husband had their own pregnancy announcement to share. Good luck, everyone!

Weddings can sometimes bring out years of unspoken family tension, passive aggression, and drama disguised by floral arrangements, layered cake and elaborate centerpieces...  While some couples stray from the traditional big white wedding...