The rules of modern wedding-related etiquette seem to be changing all the time, but one that seems fairly reasonable is that bridesmaids shouldn't be expected to attend an expensive, destination bachelorette party if they brides is no longer planning a wedding. While bachelorette parties are always fun for the bride, asking all of your friends to plan and pay for a vacation when they might not even necessarily all be friends with each other is a pretty big ask even in a normal situation. While it's understandable that someone might want to recover from a broken heart on a fun trip with friends, asking your former bridesmaids to still pay your way is entitled and ridiculous.
So, when a frustrated former bridesmaid decided to consult the courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole?" about whether or not she's obligated to attend a bachelorette party for a bride who recently got divorced, people were quick to offer advice.