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<h2>Newly-engaged women planning their weddings often get a bad reputation for turning into flower-frenzied, detail-obsessed monsters...</h2><p>While not every woman with a specific vision for her wedding is a &quot;bridezilla,&quot; people who think that everyone&#39;s entire lives must revolve around their wedding day for a year leading up to &quot;the big day&quot; can sometimes get out of hand. Demanding that bridesmaids cover their tattoos, wear unflattering dresses so everyone looks exactly the same in photos, change their hairstyle or spend an exorbitant amount of money on bachelorette parties or gifts is ridiculous. Weddings are about two people celebrating their love for one another with their family and friends, and sometimes the entire reason for getting married to begin with can get lost in the fanfare of handmade centerpieces and specialty cocktail menus.</p><p>So, when a frustrated bridesmaid decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philsophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about her sister&#39;s questionable and rude &quot;Bridezilla&quot; behavior, people were eager to help.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mk86sh/aita_for_not_growing_my_hair_out_for_my_sisters/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for not growing my hair out for my sisters wedding?</h2><blockquote> <p>A little context- sister got engaged a month ago on her birthday. I&rsquo;m genuinely happy for her. But lately? Holy hell has she become a bridezilla. Her wedding is not even till April 2022.</p> <p>Anyways, I&rsquo;m pretty short haired and love it this way. Had it this way since I was 16, so I&rsquo;ve had it this way for years. I don&rsquo;t like being feminine (I only wear dresses for my girlfriend since I feel comfortable doing so for her. And never really in public.) It makes me uncomfortable.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She wants me to wear a bright pink long dress. I asked if I could wear a tux since I would be more comfortable. She got upset and firmly said no. I sighed and agreed to the dress. Even though I&rsquo;ve <em>never</em> worn a dress around my other/extended family. She then said that she wanted her bridesmaids to have a flower in their hair. I promptly told her that my hair is not long enough for that. Five minutes of arguing and I relent; after all, it&rsquo;s her &ldquo;big day&rdquo;. But then came the part I blew up. She sent a pic of how she wanted the bridesmaids&rsquo; hair to be done.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I apologized and said, again, my hair&#39;s not long enough for that and that I&rsquo;ll make sure it&rsquo;s combed and neat anyway. She had a meltdown, saying &ldquo;NO! I want my bridesmaids to look a certain way. That means you too!&rdquo; Angrily, I told her &ldquo; I don&rsquo;t care. You can&rsquo;t force people to do something with their body that they don&rsquo;t want to do.&rdquo; She proceeded to try to guilt me, play the sad sister card and compare me to her damn friends. &ldquo; Mira is a lesbian. But she&rsquo;s still doing this.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I told her &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t give a f*ck what Mira is or isn&rsquo;t doing. This is my body. You can&rsquo;t force me to grow my hair out just because you want a &lsquo;certain look&rsquo;. You&rsquo;re being a b*tch and completely overly controlling about everything. I already agreed to many things I&rsquo;m not comfortable with, but I draw the line here. And if you&rsquo;re not going to respect that, then I don&rsquo;t even want to be in the wedding. I will just attend.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She cried and said &ldquo;fine. Then don&rsquo;t be in it.&rdquo; But clearly that means that she&rsquo;s trying to guilt me into it. My dad and mother firmly stood by my side and said that she had no right to do this. But they do need to give her something, since it is her special day and she&rsquo;s all excited and everything. She called my mom crying and said &ldquo;she&rsquo;s being selfish and only cares about herself. It&#39;s my day.&rdquo; She later called my dad and insulted me saying that I dress like a bum. Am I being selfish? Should I just grow my hair out and then cut it the day after?</p> <p>Am I the as*hole for refusing to be in my sister&#39;s wedding because she turned into a bridezilla and won&rsquo;t let me be?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). Your body, your choice. If she cares so much, maybe she can buy you a wig? Because this is not about a dress code for one day, it would impact you every day until the wedding. And that is assuming your hair grows fast enough for her liking. - AlmostChristmasNow</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA you have agency over your entire body - Bostonguy50</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA - she knew what you looked like when she asked you to be in the bridal party. While picking out dresses, shoes, etc. may be normal, you relented to all of that (not that you would&rsquo;ve been an as*hole if you hadn&rsquo;t). This is not only too far, but f*cking weird. F*ck that noise. Don&rsquo;t ever give in, on principle. She needs this lesson. - Portie_lover</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Bride gets to design the wedding, not the people. You&#39;re conceding a lot for the day, but she&#39;s asking you to commit over a year of your life and your personal style/preferences for HER day. That&#39;s too much. - cyfermax</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. She has no right to do that to you. I wouldn&#39;t show up to the wedding at all if that&#39;s how she&#39;s going to act. - Reefer_Madness_95</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this bridesmaid is not at all wrong to refuse to change her entire appearance and style for one important day of her sister&#39;s life. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bridesmaid asks if she's wrong to drop out of sister's bridal party over her hairstyle.

Newly-engaged women planning their weddings often get a bad reputation for turning into flower-frenzied, detail-obsessed monsters...While not every woman with a specific vision for her wedding is a &quot;bridezilla,&quot; people who think that everyone&#39;s entire lives must revolve around their wedding day for a year leading up to &quot;the big day&quot; can sometimes get out of hand. Demanding that bridesmaids cover their tattoos, wear unflattering dresses so everyone looks exactly the same in photos, change their hairstyle or spend an exorbitant amount of money on bachelorette parties or gifts is ridiculous. Weddings are about two people celebrating their love for one another with their family and friends, and sometimes the entire reason for getting married to begin with can get lost in the fanfare of handmade centerpieces and specialty cocktail menus.So, when a frustrated bridesmaid decided to consult the online courtroom of moral philsophy otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about her sister&#39;s questionable and rude &quot;Bridezilla&quot; behavior, people were eager to help.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not growing my hair out for my sisters wedding? A little context- sister got engaged a month ago on her birthday. I&rsquo;m genuinely happy for her. But lately? Holy hell has she become a bridezilla. Her wedding is not even till April 2022. Anyways, I&rsquo;m pretty short haired and love it this way. Had it this way since I was 16, so I&rsquo;ve had it this way for years. I don&rsquo;t like being feminine (I only wear dresses for my girlfriend since I feel comfortable doing so for her. And never really in public.) It makes me uncomfortable.   She wants me to wear a bright pink long dress. I asked if I could wear a tux since I would be more comfortable. She got upset and firmly said no. I sighed and agreed to the dress. Even though I&rsquo;ve never worn a dress around my other/extended family. She then said that she wanted her bridesmaids to have a flower in their hair. I promptly told her that my hair is not long enough for that. Five minutes of arguing and I relent; after all, it&rsquo;s her &ldquo;big day&rdquo;. But then came the part I blew up. She sent a pic of how she wanted the bridesmaids&rsquo; hair to be done.   I apologized and said, again, my hair&#39;s not long enough for that and that I&rsquo;ll make sure it&rsquo;s combed and neat anyway. She had a meltdown, saying &ldquo;NO! I want my bridesmaids to look a certain way. That means you too!&rdquo; Angrily, I told her &ldquo; I don&rsquo;t care. You can&rsquo;t force people to do something with their body that they don&rsquo;t want to do.&rdquo; She proceeded to try to guilt me, play the sad sister card and compare me to her damn friends. &ldquo; Mira is a lesbian. But she&rsquo;s still doing this.&rdquo;   I told her &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t give a f*ck what Mira is or isn&rsquo;t doing. This is my body. You can&rsquo;t force me to grow my hair out just because you want a &lsquo;certain look&rsquo;. You&rsquo;re being a b*tch and completely overly controlling about everything. I already agreed to many things I&rsquo;m not comfortable with, but I draw the line here. And if you&rsquo;re not going to respect that, then I don&rsquo;t even want to be in the wedding. I will just attend.&rdquo;   She cried and said &ldquo;fine. Then don&rsquo;t be in it.&rdquo; But clearly that means that she&rsquo;s trying to guilt me into it. My dad and mother firmly stood by my side and said that she had no right to do this. But they do need to give her something, since it is her special day and she&rsquo;s all excited and everything. She called my mom crying and said &ldquo;she&rsquo;s being selfish and only cares about herself. It&#39;s my day.&rdquo; She later called my dad and insulted me saying that I dress like a bum. Am I being selfish? Should I just grow my hair out and then cut it the day after? Am I the as*hole for refusing to be in my sister&#39;s wedding because she turned into a bridezilla and won&rsquo;t let me be? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). Your body, your choice. If she cares so much, maybe she can buy you a wig? Because this is not about a dress code for one day, it would impact you every day until the wedding. And that is assuming your hair grows fast enough for her liking. - AlmostChristmasNow  NTA you have agency over your entire body - Bostonguy50  NTA - she knew what you looked like when she asked you to be in the bridal party. While picking out dresses, shoes, etc. may be normal, you relented to all of that (not that you would&rsquo;ve been an as*hole if you hadn&rsquo;t). This is not only too far, but f*cking weird. F*ck that noise. Don&rsquo;t ever give in, on principle. She needs this lesson. - Portie_lover  NTA. Bride gets to design the wedding, not the people. You&#39;re conceding a lot for the day, but she&#39;s asking you to commit over a year of your life and your personal style/preferences for HER day. That&#39;s too much. - cyfermax  NTA. She has no right to do that to you. I wouldn&#39;t show up to the wedding at all if that&#39;s how she&#39;s going to act. - Reefer_Madness_95 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this bridesmaid is not at all wrong to refuse to change her entire appearance and style for one important day of her sister&#39;s life. Good luck, everyone!

Newly-engaged women planning their weddings often get a bad reputation for turning into flower-frenzied, detail-obsessed monsters...  While not every woman with a specific vision for her wedding is a &quot;bridezilla,&quot; people who...