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<h2>While many of us wish we could set all evidence of our awkward phases on fire, family photos will always reveal the truth...</h2><p>So, when a conflicted married couple decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not they&#39;re wrong to keep displaying a family photo that makes their niece cringe into a puddle of fashion-related despair, people were there to help.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/t98oqd/aita_for_not_taking_down_a_family_wedding_photo/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for not taking down a family wedding photo that my niece hates?</h2><blockquote> <p>I got married in early 2020 and at the time my niece (then 22 now 24) was a bottle girl and went through a phase where it was her entire personality. As in, she couldn&rsquo;t switch off the customer voice, said inappropriate things at inappropriate times to inappropriate people, wore outfits not suited to the event (a baptism, 2 weddings and a funeral), only talked about work.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>It was annoying but for the most part the family didn&rsquo;t comment hoping she&rsquo;d grow of it. One of the weddings she went to was mine. Family had talked to her about dressing appropriately for events, I reminded her about our family tradition.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>At all weddings, an extended family photo is taken and displayed in the home, and another will be in the family wedding photo album (just a cool way to look back and see how kids have grown and family expanded, and remember those who are no longer with us).</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My niece chose to wear a club dress with underboob cutouts, something that was trending. My sister was deeply apologetic, I was unsurprised, &amp; my SO has a &ldquo;let them embarrass themselves&rdquo; mentality and just shrugged. The day went on.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>True to word, there was a big family photo and we have it displayed on our mantle (next to a much larger wedding photo of just my SO and I, pretty much the only photo that gets commented on).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My niece came by recently and got really upset with us. She started crying about us only displaying that photo to humiliate her and she can&rsquo;t believe that we&rsquo;d still rub her face in her past mistakes and even grandma (current owner of family wedding album) won&rsquo;t find another photo or let her forget it.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I tried to comfort her, saying we all wore a terrible wedding outfit at least once, the book is full of fashion disaster trends, but no one cares about what the guests wear (sorry but kinda true) and that&rsquo;s not the point of it all. Eventually it&rsquo;ll just be another page in the book.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She wasn&rsquo;t happy with our photo so we said we&rsquo;d move it somewhere private but she wants it gone gone. My SO got impatient: &ldquo;look, the family talked to you about this, you KNEW about the tradition, and you still chose that outfit. there&rsquo;s no do-over wedding photo, and there&rsquo;s no family photo without you in it, so deal.&rdquo;</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I tried to soothe things a bit by reminding my niece 3 people in that photo passed from COVID later, it&rsquo;s the last family photo we have of them. So much has happened since, her outfit isn&rsquo;t something we talk about. it&rsquo;s been there nearly 2 years, and she never took notice.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She seemed better, but I later got a call from my sister asking me to please &ldquo;get rid,&quot; the photo is an embarrassment if only for how it reflects on her as a mother. That made no sense to me, I repeated that no one cares, but my sister said the fact that my niece and her do should be enough to remove it.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My sister and I are now at a standstill and my SO says being embarrassed by your clothes is part of growing up. But it&rsquo;s been messy 2 years. If she&rsquo;s so upset maybe it&rsquo;s worth hiding it until more time has passed?</p> </blockquote><h2>While a family wedding isn&#39;t the ideal setting for a nightclub uniform, being 22-years-old is famously a sloppy nightmare of lessons learned the hard way...</h2><p>We all have to gaze at a family artifact from the ghosts of &quot;too much eyeliner&quot; or &quot;studded seatbelt belt&quot; past, but if the niece&#39;s outfit choice is effecting her this much, it could be worth at least a discussion.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Taking the photo down shouldn&#39;t be necessary as it&#39;s an important memory for the family, but considering their niece is very sensitive about this tumultuous phase of her life, there could be a better compromise here. &quot;Why is there a house plant covering the corner of your wedding photo?&quot; &quot;Did you photoshop a different dress onto your niece?&quot; &quot;Is that a fruit sticker on your niece&#39;s chest?&quot; YES! DON&#39;T ASK!</p><h2>Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this family drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. She is a grown woman who doesn&rsquo;t like to be confronted with her past mistakes and missteps. She clearly hasn&rsquo;t learned that she can&rsquo;t always get what she wants. - Friendly-Company-250</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Literally everything about your post, and your reaction to your niece, makes you NTA. Your niece wore a totally inappropriate outfit to your wedding, you didn&#39;t let that bother you in the least, and now you&#39;re giving her the perspective that literally <em>no one cares</em> what she is wearing in a large family photo. You&#39;re not being judgmental or mean or petty. You&#39;re just... hanging up a family photo. Keep the picture. Tell your sister to get over it. - MindDeep2823</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>&quot;Dear niece and sister: OUR WEDDING PHOTOS AREN&#39;T ABOUT YOU. You were given the opportunity to avoid this at the time, you declined, end of story. It doesn&#39;t mean that I don&#39;t care about you any more than I thought your underboob dress meant that you didn&#39;t care about us.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Enjoy your life, and understand that it&#39;s going to contain regrets. Think about this before you tweeze your eyebrows off like we did in the 90&#39;s.&quot; NTA. Offer to have the photos edited so that the underboob isn&#39;t obvious. That&#39;s the furthest I would go. - Forsaken_Woodpecker1</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. If it&rsquo;s framed behind glass you should slap a sticker on the glass over her outfit. Maybe a Hawaiian shirt or sports team jersey. She was warned about her outfit and didn&rsquo;t listen, she can deal with the consequences of her decision. - k2aries</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. It is your wedding picture in your house. The niece was not a child nor was the photo taken without her permission. It would not be fair to you &mdash; or the rest of your family to hide it away. - OrcEight</p> </blockquote><h2>Later, the post was edited to include:</h2><blockquote> <p><strong>EDIT:</strong> the most seamless solution I think is just going to contact my photog and see if they still have the photo and ask them how much it will cost to photoshop and reprint/reframe. Ill be sending my sister and niece the bill to be paid before the photog starts work.</p> <p><strong>EDIT2:</strong> only the dress would change, were not removing my niece entirely.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this photo doesn&#39;t need to be taken down, but it&#39;s kind of this married couple to come up with some alternatives to make their niece feel more comfortable with it being a permanent fixture in the family. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Couple asks if they're wrong to display family photo with niece's 'inappropriate' dress.

While many of us wish we could set all evidence of our awkward phases on fire, family photos will always reveal the truth...So, when a conflicted married couple decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether or not they&#39;re wrong to keep displaying a family photo that makes their niece cringe into a puddle of fashion-related despair, people were there to help.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not taking down a family wedding photo that my niece hates? I got married in early 2020 and at the time my niece (then 22 now 24) was a bottle girl and went through a phase where it was her entire personality. As in, she couldn&rsquo;t switch off the customer voice, said inappropriate things at inappropriate times to inappropriate people, wore outfits not suited to the event (a baptism, 2 weddings and a funeral), only talked about work.   It was annoying but for the most part the family didn&rsquo;t comment hoping she&rsquo;d grow of it. One of the weddings she went to was mine. Family had talked to her about dressing appropriately for events, I reminded her about our family tradition.   At all weddings, an extended family photo is taken and displayed in the home, and another will be in the family wedding photo album (just a cool way to look back and see how kids have grown and family expanded, and remember those who are no longer with us).   My niece chose to wear a club dress with underboob cutouts, something that was trending. My sister was deeply apologetic, I was unsurprised, &amp; my SO has a &ldquo;let them embarrass themselves&rdquo; mentality and just shrugged. The day went on.   True to word, there was a big family photo and we have it displayed on our mantle (next to a much larger wedding photo of just my SO and I, pretty much the only photo that gets commented on).   My niece came by recently and got really upset with us. She started crying about us only displaying that photo to humiliate her and she can&rsquo;t believe that we&rsquo;d still rub her face in her past mistakes and even grandma (current owner of family wedding album) won&rsquo;t find another photo or let her forget it.   I tried to comfort her, saying we all wore a terrible wedding outfit at least once, the book is full of fashion disaster trends, but no one cares about what the guests wear (sorry but kinda true) and that&rsquo;s not the point of it all. Eventually it&rsquo;ll just be another page in the book.   She wasn&rsquo;t happy with our photo so we said we&rsquo;d move it somewhere private but she wants it gone gone. My SO got impatient: &ldquo;look, the family talked to you about this, you KNEW about the tradition, and you still chose that outfit. there&rsquo;s no do-over wedding photo, and there&rsquo;s no family photo without you in it, so deal.&rdquo;   I tried to soothe things a bit by reminding my niece 3 people in that photo passed from COVID later, it&rsquo;s the last family photo we have of them. So much has happened since, her outfit isn&rsquo;t something we talk about. it&rsquo;s been there nearly 2 years, and she never took notice.   She seemed better, but I later got a call from my sister asking me to please &ldquo;get rid,&quot; the photo is an embarrassment if only for how it reflects on her as a mother. That made no sense to me, I repeated that no one cares, but my sister said the fact that my niece and her do should be enough to remove it.   My sister and I are now at a standstill and my SO says being embarrassed by your clothes is part of growing up. But it&rsquo;s been messy 2 years. If she&rsquo;s so upset maybe it&rsquo;s worth hiding it until more time has passed? While a family wedding isn&#39;t the ideal setting for a nightclub uniform, being 22-years-old is famously a sloppy nightmare of lessons learned the hard way...We all have to gaze at a family artifact from the ghosts of &quot;too much eyeliner&quot; or &quot;studded seatbelt belt&quot; past, but if the niece&#39;s outfit choice is effecting her this much, it could be worth at least a discussion.Taking the photo down shouldn&#39;t be necessary as it&#39;s an important memory for the family, but considering their niece is very sensitive about this tumultuous phase of her life, there could be a better compromise here. &quot;Why is there a house plant covering the corner of your wedding photo?&quot; &quot;Did you photoshop a different dress onto your niece?&quot; &quot;Is that a fruit sticker on your niece&#39;s chest?&quot; YES! DON&#39;T ASK!Of course, people were eager to weigh in on this family drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA. She is a grown woman who doesn&rsquo;t like to be confronted with her past mistakes and missteps. She clearly hasn&rsquo;t learned that she can&rsquo;t always get what she wants. - Friendly-Company-250   Literally everything about your post, and your reaction to your niece, makes you NTA. Your niece wore a totally inappropriate outfit to your wedding, you didn&#39;t let that bother you in the least, and now you&#39;re giving her the perspective that literally no one cares what she is wearing in a large family photo. You&#39;re not being judgmental or mean or petty. You&#39;re just... hanging up a family photo. Keep the picture. Tell your sister to get over it. - MindDeep2823   &quot;Dear niece and sister: OUR WEDDING PHOTOS AREN&#39;T ABOUT YOU. You were given the opportunity to avoid this at the time, you declined, end of story. It doesn&#39;t mean that I don&#39;t care about you any more than I thought your underboob dress meant that you didn&#39;t care about us.   Enjoy your life, and understand that it&#39;s going to contain regrets. Think about this before you tweeze your eyebrows off like we did in the 90&#39;s.&quot; NTA. Offer to have the photos edited so that the underboob isn&#39;t obvious. That&#39;s the furthest I would go. - Forsaken_Woodpecker1   NTA. If it&rsquo;s framed behind glass you should slap a sticker on the glass over her outfit. Maybe a Hawaiian shirt or sports team jersey. She was warned about her outfit and didn&rsquo;t listen, she can deal with the consequences of her decision. - k2aries   NTA. It is your wedding picture in your house. The niece was not a child nor was the photo taken without her permission. It would not be fair to you &mdash; or the rest of your family to hide it away. - OrcEight Later, the post was edited to include: EDIT: the most seamless solution I think is just going to contact my photog and see if they still have the photo and ask them how much it will cost to photoshop and reprint/reframe. Ill be sending my sister and niece the bill to be paid before the photog starts work. EDIT2: only the dress would change, were not removing my niece entirely. So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this photo doesn&#39;t need to be taken down, but it&#39;s kind of this married couple to come up with some alternatives to make their niece feel more comfortable with it being a permanent fixture in the family. Good luck, everyone!

While many of us wish we could set all evidence of our awkward phases on fire, family photos will always reveal the truth...  So, when a conflicted married couple decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as...