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<h2>There are few events more torturous for parents than the dreaded kid&#39;s birthday party...</h2><p>So, when a conflicted dad decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether not he was wrong to strictly enforce a birthday candle rule at his son&#39;s party, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/t73baz/aita_for_covering_my_nephews_mouth_when_he_tried/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for covering my nephew&#39;s mouth when he tried to blow out my kiddo&#39;s candles?</h2><blockquote> <p>My (21M) son just turned 4 last Sunday, as usual we had a small party at my mother&#39;s house and we invited my brother&#39;s (30M) kids (8M, 6M and 5M) and my sisters (27) daughter (4) as well as some neighbors.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Usually when it is one of the kids birthday&#39;s all of them blows the candles because that&#39;s how my mom used to do with us. Yet ever since my kiddo turned 2, he has refused to do so.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Last year when his cousins had to blow theirs, he didn&#39;t participate and when his birthday came, he didn&#39;t want anyone to do it with him. But all of the kids ended up throwing themselves at the cake and did it anyway.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I kid you not, my son cried for the rest of the evening and refused to eat his cake. My sister talked to her daughter about how that wasn&#39;t right, but my brother said that my son was a &quot;little pr*ck&quot; and he had to learn how to share. We stopped talking for a monthly after that until my mother forced us to make amends.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>A week ago, I told them that their kids weren&#39;t allowed to blow the candles with my son, my brother didn&#39;t like it of course, but my SIL said that she was gonna explain it to her kids and that it was okay.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Fast forward to the party and my gf comes with our kiddo&#39;s cake. We gather around the table and we sing happy birthday to my boy. When he&#39;s about to blow his goddamn candles, I notice that my nephew (6) is about to do it too and I cover his mouth with my hand. My kid doesn&#39;t notice, blows them and jumps straight to his momma&#39;s arms all happy.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My nephew starts to cry and tells to my brother that &quot;I didn&#39;t let him do it and it&#39;s not fair.&quot; My SIL tries to explain him something but my brother comes right at me for &quot;not letting his kid have fun.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I remind him that I told them my son was gonna do it alone, but he says &quot;that&#39;s not how we do it&quot; and I told him &quot;Well that&#39;s how I do it now, if you don&#39;t like it you can leave.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My mom is telling him that I&#39;m joking, but my brother takes his kids and leaves. My son is obviously confused, but ends up playing with some other kids and forgetting about it.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>My mom says that I&#39;m an as*hole for doing it and that my son has to understand that this is our way and is forcing me to apologize. My gf and sister say that I&#39;m right because is my son&#39;s birthday after all and I don&#39;t know what to do.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>All of the kids gathering around the birthday cake to blow the candles out is a cute idea in theory, but even if this little boy was okay with it, it&#39;s a bit of a germ-filled nightmare of spit-covered frosting and potential burns...</h2><p>If this dad had physically enforced this rule so heavily without warning, his siblings would&#39;ve had more of an argument. However, his child clearly needed this moment to make his birthday special and at 4-years-old, he has a whole lot of time to get over it and embrace the family tradition.</p><p>Covering your nephew&#39;s mouth to avoid a birthday party temper tantrum wasn&#39;t the worst move, and his brother needs to seriously think about how he goes through life if he, a grown man, is starting drama with a 4-year-old.</p><h2>Of course, people were quick to weigh in on this parenting drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the As*hole). Good job covering for your son. Your brother and sister-in-law are clearly in the wrong for not teaching their kids basic manners. - oaktreegardener</p> </blockquote><p> </p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA It&#39;s your kid&#39;s birthday, not your nephew&#39;s. There&#39;s no reason for him to blow out the candles. This is a terrible habit and whatever tradition this is really needs to stop. - Quadruplicate</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>That&rsquo;s a gross habit, especially given the pandemic we&rsquo;ve faced. NTA for making your son&rsquo;s birthday about him. The fact your brother thinks his kids enjoyment is more important than your son on his birthday is shocking - Urbanyeti0</p> </blockquote><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA who forces a child to let other kids blow out their candle? Is this man so resistant to change that he&rsquo;ll fracture the family over birthday candles? - whateverisnttaken22</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>How can your mother be the matriarch of the family and stir the pot at the same time? She should be leading and guiding, &amp; diffusing problems. Not forcing apologies from the innocent.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>She should be offering leadership to the family, firstly by no longer recognizing her oldest son as the &ldquo;head&rdquo; of the family, he&rsquo;s not equipped for that role, and he&rsquo;s behavior is family busting. Secondly, she needs to celebrate YOUR new traditions and offer her full support. NTA - PerkyLurkey</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this dad wasn&#39;t wrong to cover his nephew&#39;s mouth to prevent him from upsetting his son on his birthday, but this family probably needs to have a bigger discussion. This conflict is clearly about more than a group exhale all over a birthday cake. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Dad asks if he's wrong to cover nephew's mouth when he tried to blow out son's bday cake.

There are few events more torturous for parents than the dreaded kid&#39;s birthday party...So, when a conflicted dad decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about whether not he was wrong to strictly enforce a birthday candle rule at his son&#39;s party, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for covering my nephew&#39;s mouth when he tried to blow out my kiddo&#39;s candles? My (21M) son just turned 4 last Sunday, as usual we had a small party at my mother&#39;s house and we invited my brother&#39;s (30M) kids (8M, 6M and 5M) and my sisters (27) daughter (4) as well as some neighbors.   Usually when it is one of the kids birthday&#39;s all of them blows the candles because that&#39;s how my mom used to do with us. Yet ever since my kiddo turned 2, he has refused to do so.   Last year when his cousins had to blow theirs, he didn&#39;t participate and when his birthday came, he didn&#39;t want anyone to do it with him. But all of the kids ended up throwing themselves at the cake and did it anyway.   I kid you not, my son cried for the rest of the evening and refused to eat his cake. My sister talked to her daughter about how that wasn&#39;t right, but my brother said that my son was a &quot;little pr*ck&quot; and he had to learn how to share. We stopped talking for a monthly after that until my mother forced us to make amends.   A week ago, I told them that their kids weren&#39;t allowed to blow the candles with my son, my brother didn&#39;t like it of course, but my SIL said that she was gonna explain it to her kids and that it was okay.   Fast forward to the party and my gf comes with our kiddo&#39;s cake. We gather around the table and we sing happy birthday to my boy. When he&#39;s about to blow his goddamn candles, I notice that my nephew (6) is about to do it too and I cover his mouth with my hand. My kid doesn&#39;t notice, blows them and jumps straight to his momma&#39;s arms all happy.   My nephew starts to cry and tells to my brother that &quot;I didn&#39;t let him do it and it&#39;s not fair.&quot; My SIL tries to explain him something but my brother comes right at me for &quot;not letting his kid have fun.&quot;   I remind him that I told them my son was gonna do it alone, but he says &quot;that&#39;s not how we do it&quot; and I told him &quot;Well that&#39;s how I do it now, if you don&#39;t like it you can leave.&quot;   My mom is telling him that I&#39;m joking, but my brother takes his kids and leaves. My son is obviously confused, but ends up playing with some other kids and forgetting about it.   My mom says that I&#39;m an as*hole for doing it and that my son has to understand that this is our way and is forcing me to apologize. My gf and sister say that I&#39;m right because is my son&#39;s birthday after all and I don&#39;t know what to do. All of the kids gathering around the birthday cake to blow the candles out is a cute idea in theory, but even if this little boy was okay with it, it&#39;s a bit of a germ-filled nightmare of spit-covered frosting and potential burns...If this dad had physically enforced this rule so heavily without warning, his siblings would&#39;ve had more of an argument. However, his child clearly needed this moment to make his birthday special and at 4-years-old, he has a whole lot of time to get over it and embrace the family tradition.Covering your nephew&#39;s mouth to avoid a birthday party temper tantrum wasn&#39;t the worst move, and his brother needs to seriously think about how he goes through life if he, a grown man, is starting drama with a 4-year-old.Of course, people were quick to weigh in on this parenting drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the As*hole). Good job covering for your son. Your brother and sister-in-law are clearly in the wrong for not teaching their kids basic manners. - oaktreegardener    NTA It&#39;s your kid&#39;s birthday, not your nephew&#39;s. There&#39;s no reason for him to blow out the candles. This is a terrible habit and whatever tradition this is really needs to stop. - Quadruplicate    That&rsquo;s a gross habit, especially given the pandemic we&rsquo;ve faced. NTA for making your son&rsquo;s birthday about him. The fact your brother thinks his kids enjoyment is more important than your son on his birthday is shocking - Urbanyeti0    NTA who forces a child to let other kids blow out their candle? Is this man so resistant to change that he&rsquo;ll fracture the family over birthday candles? - whateverisnttaken22    How can your mother be the matriarch of the family and stir the pot at the same time? She should be leading and guiding, &amp; diffusing problems. Not forcing apologies from the innocent.   She should be offering leadership to the family, firstly by no longer recognizing her oldest son as the &ldquo;head&rdquo; of the family, he&rsquo;s not equipped for that role, and he&rsquo;s behavior is family busting. Secondly, she needs to celebrate YOUR new traditions and offer her full support. NTA - PerkyLurkey So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this dad wasn&#39;t wrong to cover his nephew&#39;s mouth to prevent him from upsetting his son on his birthday, but this family probably needs to have a bigger discussion. This conflict is clearly about more than a group exhale all over a birthday cake. Good luck, everyone!

There are few events more torturous for parents than the dreaded kid&#39;s birthday party...  So, when a conflicted dad decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about...

Dad asks if he's wrong to cover nephew's mouth when he tried to blow out son's bday cake.

There are few events more torturous for parents than the dreaded kid's birthday party...

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for covering my nephew's mouth when he tried to blow out my kiddo's candles?