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<h2>Being a new parent is a reality show competition in how little sleep a human being can get before they lose all grasp on reality and try to open the fridge with the car keys, but it&#39;s important to remember you&#39;re not the only one who needs rest...</h2><p>So, when a frustrated dad decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about his wife&#39;s pumping routine, people were quick to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/t009pn/aita_for_asking_my_wife_to_do_chores_while_pumping/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for asking my wife to do chores while pumping?</h2><blockquote> <p>My wife is a stay-at-home mom and I work long hours. When I get home, I just want to take a break for a little bit before helping out. Everyday I get back, she immediately throws our baby at me and tells me to watch him while she goes to breast pump and watch Korean drama for like an hour.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I got her one of those portable pumps (willow, no tubing, fits in the bra) so she&rsquo;s not stuck to one position while pumping. She says she can&rsquo;t do chores or baby care because pumping is painful and she needs to do something she enjoys to get her mind off the pain or else she can&rsquo;t get enough milk during that session.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I told her I didn&rsquo;t believe it and she was using pumping and milk production as an excuse to take a break and get away for an hour. I do not mind giving her a break but I feel like she&rsquo;s making it up to justify a break. She accused me of calling her liar.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>(Btw, when I say long hours, I&rsquo;m talking like 14-18 hours a day, 6 days a week. There are days I only have 6 hours off between shifts but instead of sleeping, I have to watch our baby for an hour and it results in me only getting 5 hours of sleep for several nights. And I do help out a little during the 6 days and we split the rest of the work on my off day.)</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If she said &ldquo;I need a break and go watch Kdrama, you watch him for an hour&rdquo;, I would not have questioned it. She&rsquo;s always worried about my health as well.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Half the nights, she gets up before I wake up to do my night feeding/diaper shift so I get more sleep. I was just wondering, did she say that because she felt guilty she&rsquo;s asking me to give up an hour of sleep to take a break so she made an excuse or is this a real thing&hellip;? &ldquo;My milk letdown is low if I&rsquo;m not fully relaxed and distracted from the pain.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>Juggling work schedules and family time can be an extreme sport, but clearly these new parents need to amp up their communication skills...</h2><p>Needing a break after a long day of work is completely understandable, but it seems that this dad doesn&#39;t get that his wife also needs a break. Pumping (a painful, frustrating process) isn&#39;t exactly the relaxing binge-watching session he&#39;s framing it as, especially when his wife also put in a full shift that day.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Breast pumping : the worst 25 minute intervals of ur life</p>&mdash; codie (Taylor’s Version) (@boiledcrocs) <a href="https://twitter.com/boiledcrocs/status/772659975726387201?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">September 5, 2016</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Having a newborn baby completely changes your routine, sleep schedules, time management, and relationship, and those changes will only continue for years to come when raising this child together. If this dad can&#39;t handle having to watch the baby for one hour after work, he&#39;s unfortunately in for a crude awakening when the toddler phase hits and he&#39;s welcomed home to a squirt gun of ketchup.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Honestly - I hate pumping breast milk. I’ve been exclusively pumping for the last several months and while I’m glad I’m able to and still aiming for my goal of one year of breast milk for my child, it is my least favorite part(s) of every day. I cannot wait to stop.</p>&mdash; Leah Sink Haynes (@leahjsinkhaynes) <a href="https://twitter.com/leahjsinkhaynes/status/1495838039586877451?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">February 21, 2022</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><h2>Of course, people were quick to weigh in on this parenting drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) pumping is so damn hard. It&rsquo;s painful and if you can&rsquo;t relax the milk won&rsquo;t come. - Lurker_the_Pip</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>YTA. I actually cried as it was coming time to pump every single time because I knew it would hurt so bad. - Curious-mousse8714</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA but I understand your predicament. You&#39;re looking at this the wrong way. You aren&#39;t considering that she&#39;s working all day too and her job is just as hard as yours is in a different way. It comes with almost no time off but for the bits of sleep she can get or that hour you give her when you get home.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s a 24 hour a day milking machine and it&#39;s hard work. What you need to do is reach out to family, see if someone can come in and help her out and lighten the load. Hire a Nanny or a housekeeper who comes in once or twice a week for a while, ask grandma or grandpa to take the baby for a walk so mom can rest, etc. Seriously. - Yellow-beef</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>YTA. You have to watch your kid for <em>ONE HOUR</em> out of the day, and that&rsquo;s not even to let your wife go out or have time to herself - it&rsquo;s literally so she can get <em>another</em> chore done. Yes, pumping is painful and cannot always be done while also walking around or watching the baby or doing other chores. - CrazyBoPeep</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>As a dad who used to work very similar hours, i can say, unequivocally: YTA. Jesus Christ, she&#39;s at home all day, taking care of the kid, tending to the house, etc. Even if she does just need a break, give it to her: she bore your child. My Lord, try being a partner and a father. - brian_m1982</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA, but only for making this a fight about pumping. Both of you deserve breaks, and you need to have an adult conversation talking about when you can rest and when she can rest. - Sam-I-Am_Not</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>YTA, you should try squeezing your nipples for one hour, multiple times a day, let me know if it doesn&rsquo;t hurt. - WhiteJadedButterfly</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed unanimously here that this dad is completely in the wrong for refusing to trust his wife and accept that she needs a 60 minute break. Still, this is a situation concerning two exhausted and overworked new parents and perhaps they can come up with a solution that benefits both of them. In the meantime, though, let your wife watch a little television while her body conjures up food for your baby, sir. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Dad asks if he's wrong to expect wife to still do chores while breast pumping.

Being a new parent is a reality show competition in how little sleep a human being can get before they lose all grasp on reality and try to open the fridge with the car keys, but it&#39;s important to remember you&#39;re not the only one who needs rest...So, when a frustrated dad decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about his wife&#39;s pumping routine, people were quick to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for asking my wife to do chores while pumping? My wife is a stay-at-home mom and I work long hours. When I get home, I just want to take a break for a little bit before helping out. Everyday I get back, she immediately throws our baby at me and tells me to watch him while she goes to breast pump and watch Korean drama for like an hour.  I got her one of those portable pumps (willow, no tubing, fits in the bra) so she&rsquo;s not stuck to one position while pumping. She says she can&rsquo;t do chores or baby care because pumping is painful and she needs to do something she enjoys to get her mind off the pain or else she can&rsquo;t get enough milk during that session.  I told her I didn&rsquo;t believe it and she was using pumping and milk production as an excuse to take a break and get away for an hour. I do not mind giving her a break but I feel like she&rsquo;s making it up to justify a break. She accused me of calling her liar.  (Btw, when I say long hours, I&rsquo;m talking like 14-18 hours a day, 6 days a week. There are days I only have 6 hours off between shifts but instead of sleeping, I have to watch our baby for an hour and it results in me only getting 5 hours of sleep for several nights. And I do help out a little during the 6 days and we split the rest of the work on my off day.)  If she said &ldquo;I need a break and go watch Kdrama, you watch him for an hour&rdquo;, I would not have questioned it. She&rsquo;s always worried about my health as well.  Half the nights, she gets up before I wake up to do my night feeding/diaper shift so I get more sleep. I was just wondering, did she say that because she felt guilty she&rsquo;s asking me to give up an hour of sleep to take a break so she made an excuse or is this a real thing&hellip;? &ldquo;My milk letdown is low if I&rsquo;m not fully relaxed and distracted from the pain.&quot; Juggling work schedules and family time can be an extreme sport, but clearly these new parents need to amp up their communication skills...Needing a break after a long day of work is completely understandable, but it seems that this dad doesn&#39;t get that his wife also needs a break. Pumping (a painful, frustrating process) isn&#39;t exactly the relaxing binge-watching session he&#39;s framing it as, especially when his wife also put in a full shift that day.Breast pumping : the worst 25 minute intervals of ur life&mdash; codie (Taylor’s Version) (@boiledcrocs) September 5, 2016 Having a newborn baby completely changes your routine, sleep schedules, time management, and relationship, and those changes will only continue for years to come when raising this child together. If this dad can&#39;t handle having to watch the baby for one hour after work, he&#39;s unfortunately in for a crude awakening when the toddler phase hits and he&#39;s welcomed home to a squirt gun of ketchup.Honestly - I hate pumping breast milk. I’ve been exclusively pumping for the last several months and while I’m glad I’m able to and still aiming for my goal of one year of breast milk for my child, it is my least favorite part(s) of every day. I cannot wait to stop.&mdash; Leah Sink Haynes (@leahjsinkhaynes) February 21, 2022 Of course, people were quick to weigh in on this parenting drama. Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: YTA (You&#39;re the As*hole) pumping is so damn hard. It&rsquo;s painful and if you can&rsquo;t relax the milk won&rsquo;t come. - Lurker_the_Pip  YTA. I actually cried as it was coming time to pump every single time because I knew it would hurt so bad. - Curious-mousse8714  YTA but I understand your predicament. You&#39;re looking at this the wrong way. You aren&#39;t considering that she&#39;s working all day too and her job is just as hard as yours is in a different way. It comes with almost no time off but for the bits of sleep she can get or that hour you give her when you get home.  She&#39;s a 24 hour a day milking machine and it&#39;s hard work. What you need to do is reach out to family, see if someone can come in and help her out and lighten the load. Hire a Nanny or a housekeeper who comes in once or twice a week for a while, ask grandma or grandpa to take the baby for a walk so mom can rest, etc. Seriously. - Yellow-beef  YTA. You have to watch your kid for ONE HOUR out of the day, and that&rsquo;s not even to let your wife go out or have time to herself - it&rsquo;s literally so she can get another chore done. Yes, pumping is painful and cannot always be done while also walking around or watching the baby or doing other chores. - CrazyBoPeep  As a dad who used to work very similar hours, i can say, unequivocally: YTA. Jesus Christ, she&#39;s at home all day, taking care of the kid, tending to the house, etc. Even if she does just need a break, give it to her: she bore your child. My Lord, try being a partner and a father. - brian_m1982  YTA, but only for making this a fight about pumping. Both of you deserve breaks, and you need to have an adult conversation talking about when you can rest and when she can rest. - Sam-I-Am_Not  YTA, you should try squeezing your nipples for one hour, multiple times a day, let me know if it doesn&rsquo;t hurt. - WhiteJadedButterfly So, there you have it!Everyone agreed unanimously here that this dad is completely in the wrong for refusing to trust his wife and accept that she needs a 60 minute break. Still, this is a situation concerning two exhausted and overworked new parents and perhaps they can come up with a solution that benefits both of them. In the meantime, though, let your wife watch a little television while her body conjures up food for your baby, sir. Good luck, everyone!

Being a new parent is a reality show competition in how little sleep a human being can get before they lose all grasp on reality and try to open the fridge with the car keys, but it&#39;s important to remember you&#39;re not the only one...