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<h2>Sometimes all it takes to start some soap opera-level drama at a family holiday is to gift everyone a DNA test...</h2><p>Learning about your genes can be fun even when the only juicy fact you discover is that you&#39;re 10% more Italian than you predicted, but things can get especially interesting when you connect with your mysterious &quot;DNA relatives.&quot; Usually ancestry kits alert you to a few distant cousins that you can follow on Instagram, but when someone messages you claiming to be your daughter or sibling, someone in your family owes you some answers.</p><p>Meeting up with newly discovered biological family members can certainly be exciting, but taking on the role of a parent figure to someone you didn&#39;t raise can get messy for all parties involved. As long as everyone in the family respects each other and is honest and open about what they&#39;re comfortable with, the reunion usually won&#39;t end in someone throwing a box of wine across the backyard in a fit of rage.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>So, when a conflicted dad decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about his decision to walk the 20-year-old daughter he didn&#39;t know he had down the aisle on her wedding day, people were there to help deem a verdict.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nmhqj2/aita_for_not_stepping_down_from_walking_my/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for not stepping down from walking my daughter down the aisle?</h2><blockquote> <p>I was pretty young (18) when I had this fling with an older woman. It lasted a few months then we didn&rsquo;t see eachother again. Three years ago I found out I had a 20 year old daughter that I fathered with this woman. We only found out because she got matched with my brother on some dna site he had an account on and that&rsquo;s how the story trickled out. She never told me she got pregnant because she didn&rsquo;t want her husband to know about it. Apparently he did when my daughter was 7 and was gone for a few years then got back together when she was a teen, but they had a strained relationship. It got even more strained when she found out the truth and neither had told her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;ve been seeing my daughter regularly ever since and we&rsquo;ve tried to build our own relationship as father/daughter. It&rsquo;s been an emotionally heavy, but rewarding journey. My daughter has kept minimal contact with them both from what I know and doesn&rsquo;t see either as often as she used to. She got engaged to her boyfriend of 5 years. It&rsquo;s meant to be a small backyard wedding and my daughter has given me the honor of asking to walk her down the aisle. It was very overwhelming for me and I said yes without hesitation. This has gotten back to her mother and husband, neither which are happy about it, but since my daughter doesn&rsquo;t speak to them as much, they&rsquo;ve contacted me. Since he&rsquo;s the one who raised her and such it&rsquo;s rather disrespectful of me to accept a role I&rsquo;ve only been filling for a few years when all the hard work was already done.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I wanted to say plenty in that moment and bit my tongue as best I could. He&rsquo;s just hurt that she didn&rsquo;t bother to ask him to be the one to give her away and understands they have their own history. And asking me, man to man, to do him this favor and bow out of doing this since he&rsquo;s been the one in her life the most, and he understands it wasn&rsquo;t my fault that I wasn&rsquo;t but still. Seeing it from his perspective yeah I&rsquo;m sure it&rsquo;s painful. My daughter doesn&rsquo;t want to consider it so that&rsquo;s why stepping down on my own would be the next best thing and I&rsquo;d be doing something pretty disrespectful and selfish (that&rsquo;s rich coming from her I know). Just to have a clear conscience on this, AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>It&#39;s not your choice and it&#39;s not that other man&#39;s choice, it&#39;s her choice, and she asked you. NTA (Not the As*hole). - Weskit</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. If your daughter is low contact with her mother and her step-father, there&#39;s a very good reason for it. If you did bow out, there&#39;s no guarantee that she will put whatever issues they all have aside and ask him to walk her down the aisle. You will also be deprived of yet another father daughter moment. You&#39;ve already missed out on so much, through no fault of your own. Don&#39;t miss out on this moment. If you do, this one will be your fault and you will regret it for ever. - OK_LK</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>DO Not step down. It&#39;s your daughter&#39;s choice, but you should talk to your daughter about doing something to include the only father she has know for a long time. Yes they messed up by not telling her or you, but people are flawed and he did raise her at the end of the day. NTA - crazytrini</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. If the bride wants you to do it then do it. It&rsquo;s HER wedding not the parents - DwightMcRamathorn</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. I get where he&rsquo;s coming from but how would your daughter feel if you backed out? She&rsquo;d likely feel rejected.. and if she knew how it came about, she&rsquo;d be even more pissed at her step father and would likely disinvite him and her mother altogether. This is not a winning strategy. He needs to accept her choice gracefully and learn to set his ego aside. - Annalirra</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this dad wouldn&#39;t be wrong at all to refuse to step down, as the choice of who walks the bride down the aisle is only up to the bride. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Dad asks if he’s wrong to walk daughter he just met down aisle after stepdad protests.

Sometimes all it takes to start some soap opera-level drama at a family holiday is to gift everyone a DNA test...Learning about your genes can be fun even when the only juicy fact you discover is that you&#39;re 10% more Italian than you predicted, but things can get especially interesting when you connect with your mysterious &quot;DNA relatives.&quot; Usually ancestry kits alert you to a few distant cousins that you can follow on Instagram, but when someone messages you claiming to be your daughter or sibling, someone in your family owes you some answers.Meeting up with newly discovered biological family members can certainly be exciting, but taking on the role of a parent figure to someone you didn&#39;t raise can get messy for all parties involved. As long as everyone in the family respects each other and is honest and open about what they&#39;re comfortable with, the reunion usually won&#39;t end in someone throwing a box of wine across the backyard in a fit of rage.So, when a conflicted dad decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole&quot; about his decision to walk the 20-year-old daughter he didn&#39;t know he had down the aisle on her wedding day, people were there to help deem a verdict.AITA (Am I the As*hole) for not stepping down from walking my daughter down the aisle? I was pretty young (18) when I had this fling with an older woman. It lasted a few months then we didn&rsquo;t see eachother again. Three years ago I found out I had a 20 year old daughter that I fathered with this woman. We only found out because she got matched with my brother on some dna site he had an account on and that&rsquo;s how the story trickled out. She never told me she got pregnant because she didn&rsquo;t want her husband to know about it. Apparently he did when my daughter was 7 and was gone for a few years then got back together when she was a teen, but they had a strained relationship. It got even more strained when she found out the truth and neither had told her.   I&rsquo;ve been seeing my daughter regularly ever since and we&rsquo;ve tried to build our own relationship as father/daughter. It&rsquo;s been an emotionally heavy, but rewarding journey. My daughter has kept minimal contact with them both from what I know and doesn&rsquo;t see either as often as she used to. She got engaged to her boyfriend of 5 years. It&rsquo;s meant to be a small backyard wedding and my daughter has given me the honor of asking to walk her down the aisle. It was very overwhelming for me and I said yes without hesitation. This has gotten back to her mother and husband, neither which are happy about it, but since my daughter doesn&rsquo;t speak to them as much, they&rsquo;ve contacted me. Since he&rsquo;s the one who raised her and such it&rsquo;s rather disrespectful of me to accept a role I&rsquo;ve only been filling for a few years when all the hard work was already done.   I wanted to say plenty in that moment and bit my tongue as best I could. He&rsquo;s just hurt that she didn&rsquo;t bother to ask him to be the one to give her away and understands they have their own history. And asking me, man to man, to do him this favor and bow out of doing this since he&rsquo;s been the one in her life the most, and he understands it wasn&rsquo;t my fault that I wasn&rsquo;t but still. Seeing it from his perspective yeah I&rsquo;m sure it&rsquo;s painful. My daughter doesn&rsquo;t want to consider it so that&rsquo;s why stepping down on my own would be the next best thing and I&rsquo;d be doing something pretty disrespectful and selfish (that&rsquo;s rich coming from her I know). Just to have a clear conscience on this, AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: It&#39;s not your choice and it&#39;s not that other man&#39;s choice, it&#39;s her choice, and she asked you. NTA (Not the As*hole). - Weskit   NTA. If your daughter is low contact with her mother and her step-father, there&#39;s a very good reason for it. If you did bow out, there&#39;s no guarantee that she will put whatever issues they all have aside and ask him to walk her down the aisle. You will also be deprived of yet another father daughter moment. You&#39;ve already missed out on so much, through no fault of your own. Don&#39;t miss out on this moment. If you do, this one will be your fault and you will regret it for ever. - OK_LK   DO Not step down. It&#39;s your daughter&#39;s choice, but you should talk to your daughter about doing something to include the only father she has know for a long time. Yes they messed up by not telling her or you, but people are flawed and he did raise her at the end of the day. NTA - crazytrini   NTA. If the bride wants you to do it then do it. It&rsquo;s HER wedding not the parents - DwightMcRamathorn   NTA. I get where he&rsquo;s coming from but how would your daughter feel if you backed out? She&rsquo;d likely feel rejected.. and if she knew how it came about, she&rsquo;d be even more pissed at her step father and would likely disinvite him and her mother altogether. This is not a winning strategy. He needs to accept her choice gracefully and learn to set his ego aside. - Annalirra So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this dad wouldn&#39;t be wrong at all to refuse to step down, as the choice of who walks the bride down the aisle is only up to the bride. Good luck, everyone!

Sometimes all it takes to start some soap opera-level drama at a family holiday is to gift everyone a DNA test...  Learning about your genes can be fun even when the only juicy fact you discover is that you&#39;re 10% more Italian than you...