While there are understandable conditions that are completely out of someone's control such as a mental illness that limits your parenting capabilities, refusing to come up with a solution because you didn't want kids to begin with is inexcusable. It takes two to tango and if your tango results in a surprise child, you can't always just blame your partner and run for the hills. Of course there are extenuating circumstances and all kinds of complex relationship dynamics that prevent people from being hands-on parents, but problem-solving and compromising is key to any co-parenting team.
So, when a frustrated man decided to confront the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's "Am I the As*hole?" about his co-parenting relationship with a former partner, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
I had a very short relationship with a woman. We weren't really together because I don't well, have relationships with people very often because it disgusts me. I have diagnosed OCD but would be a germaphobe even without that. I've been in therapy but some things don't go away. I don't have as many of the rituals, but I can't just ignore how disgusting people are. I can't deal with bodily fluids at all. I know immediately when something (ex. a baby needing a diaper change while I'm holding them) happens and I just need them away from me so I can try to not need to leave immediately to go puke and/or take a shower.