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<p>Relationships with in-laws can get pretty complicated. If you get along with your significant other&#39;s parents, consider yourself lucky. Multiple movie plots have created the stereotype of the evil mother-in-law who threatens and undermines her son&#39;s wife whenever she can. It&#39;s a weird, old, trope that is highly unhealthy for a family dynamic. Mothers should want their children to be happy and that happiness also applies to the love of their adult child&#39;s life.</p><p>Especially during the holidays, forcing family together when not everyone gets along is a recipe for disaster. Some families adopt the &quot;push all the trauma under the rug and drown yourself in wine&quot; approach while others apply the &quot;get everything out in a four hour circular screaming match!&quot; Choose a side, stay alive!</p><p>When a recent <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dzhl0z/aita_for_putting_my_foot_down_and_not_allowing_my/">Reddit </a>user consulted the &quot;AITA: Am I the Asshole?&quot; section to ask about his choice to tell his mother-in-law that she can&#39;t join them for the holidays, people were ready to join the drama!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>AITA for putting my foot down and not allowing my mother in law to come to Christmas.</h2><blockquote> <p>My mother in law is a horrible person who loves to create drama whenever she can.</p> <p>last Christmas we got both of our kids different gifts as one was a 13 year old girl and one is a 10 year old boy. my mil (mother in law) decided to tell my daughter that she didn&#39;t get as many gifts as my brother and that we spent less on her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>basically trying to get our daughter to believe that we loved her less. we then had to deal with a crying 13 year old on Christmas. she has also brought super expensive gifts for people specifically to upstage everyone, she will even make a point of mentioning how much it is in front of people.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>she called up to ask what we will be doing for Christmas as it&#39;s our turn, I mentioned that me and my wife want to have a potluck at our place. she then proceeded to explain to me how we shouldn&#39;t let some family members cook certain food because of some instances where they f**ked up and ruined the dish (this is all completely false information that she is mentioning to try and start some more family drama)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I then decided to put my foot down and told my wife that I do not want her at our house starting drama on Christmas and that her phone call was the last straw.</p> <p>wife is completely against it and thinks I&#39;m being incredibly cruel to her mum, and doesn&#39;t want to exclude her.</p> </blockquote><h2>&quot;keyonme1990&quot; wrote:</h2><blockquote> <p>I think once your in a marriage every decision has to be a joint one, even if that means on of you has to compromise. I think &quot;putting your foot down&quot; and ignoring how your wife feels about the situation is an AH move. You&#39;re not the AH for not wanting your MIL there, but you and your wife need to have better communication about this.</p> </blockquote><h2>&quot;Pavsters&quot; wrote:</h2><blockquote> <p>if the wife is ignoring how her mother is making everyone feel bad, then it is on OP (Original Poster) to do something at least for the sake of their kids.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>&quot;AnonImus18&quot; wrote:</h2><blockquote> <p>My Mother is an alcoholic and I grew up hating the holidays because of it. Don&#39;t let this woman ruin your children&#39;s memory of Christmas. Your wife may not realize how toxic she is so you may need to remind her of some of the hurtful things she experienced and really get her to question whether she wants that for her own children.</p> </blockquote><h2>&quot;maisie88&quot; wrote:</h2><blockquote> <p>Your wife shouldn&#39;t be choosing her mother over her own family. How is she ok with her mother&#39;s rudeness and cruelty to her own children? She should be telling her mother that her behaviour is not acceptable if she wants to be welcome.</p> <p>Is couples counseling an option?</p> </blockquote><p>So, there you have it! Banish the evil MIL to a tower! Or, have a healthy therapy session and enjoy the holiday season.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Dad asks if he's wrong to ban 'horrible' mother-in-law from Christmas.

Relationships with in-laws can get pretty complicated. If you get along with your significant other&#39;s parents, consider yourself lucky. Multiple movie plots have created the stereotype of the evil mother-in-law who threatens and undermines her son&#39;s wife whenever she can. It&#39;s a weird, old, trope that is highly unhealthy for a family dynamic. Mothers should want their children to be happy and that happiness also applies to the love of their adult child&#39;s life.Especially during the holidays, forcing family together when not everyone gets along is a recipe for disaster. Some families adopt the &quot;push all the trauma under the rug and drown yourself in wine&quot; approach while others apply the &quot;get everything out in a four hour circular screaming match!&quot; Choose a side, stay alive!When a recent Reddit user consulted the &quot;AITA: Am I the Asshole?&quot; section to ask about his choice to tell his mother-in-law that she can&#39;t join them for the holidays, people were ready to join the drama!AITA for putting my foot down and not allowing my mother in law to come to Christmas. My mother in law is a horrible person who loves to create drama whenever she can. last Christmas we got both of our kids different gifts as one was a 13 year old girl and one is a 10 year old boy. my mil (mother in law) decided to tell my daughter that she didn&#39;t get as many gifts as my brother and that we spent less on her.  basically trying to get our daughter to believe that we loved her less. we then had to deal with a crying 13 year old on Christmas. she has also brought super expensive gifts for people specifically to upstage everyone, she will even make a point of mentioning how much it is in front of people.  she called up to ask what we will be doing for Christmas as it&#39;s our turn, I mentioned that me and my wife want to have a potluck at our place. she then proceeded to explain to me how we shouldn&#39;t let some family members cook certain food because of some instances where they f**ked up and ruined the dish (this is all completely false information that she is mentioning to try and start some more family drama)  I then decided to put my foot down and told my wife that I do not want her at our house starting drama on Christmas and that her phone call was the last straw. wife is completely against it and thinks I&#39;m being incredibly cruel to her mum, and doesn&#39;t want to exclude her. &quot;keyonme1990&quot; wrote: I think once your in a marriage every decision has to be a joint one, even if that means on of you has to compromise. I think &quot;putting your foot down&quot; and ignoring how your wife feels about the situation is an AH move. You&#39;re not the AH for not wanting your MIL there, but you and your wife need to have better communication about this. &quot;Pavsters&quot; wrote: if the wife is ignoring how her mother is making everyone feel bad, then it is on OP (Original Poster) to do something at least for the sake of their kids. &quot;AnonImus18&quot; wrote: My Mother is an alcoholic and I grew up hating the holidays because of it. Don&#39;t let this woman ruin your children&#39;s memory of Christmas. Your wife may not realize how toxic she is so you may need to remind her of some of the hurtful things she experienced and really get her to question whether she wants that for her own children. &quot;maisie88&quot; wrote: Your wife shouldn&#39;t be choosing her mother over her own family. How is she ok with her mother&#39;s rudeness and cruelty to her own children? She should be telling her mother that her behaviour is not acceptable if she wants to be welcome. Is couples counseling an option? So, there you have it! Banish the evil MIL to a tower! Or, have a healthy therapy session and enjoy the holiday season.

Relationships with in-laws can get pretty complicated. If you get along with your significant other&#39;s parents, consider yourself lucky. Multiple movie plots have created the stereotype of the evil mother-in-law who threatens and...