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<h2>There&#39;s a long and debatable list of standards for proper wedding etiquette, but most people would agree that turning a sentimental moment during the reception into an advertisement for your company is probably not a classy move...</h2><p>Anything that takes attention away from the couple celebrating their love and committment to each other with their family and friends is usually frowned upon during a wedding. Wearing a white gown, proposing to your partner during the reception, taking advantage of family being there and announcing a pregnancy, an impromptu speech, or a surprise performance are all usually risky and tacky wedding moves. While there&#39;s nothing wrong with offering up information to guests about your business while doing the job you were hired for at a wedding, interrupting an emotional moment for an announcement into the mic about your DJ equipment is incredibly bold. Thanks for the update on your Instagram handle during the father-daughter dance, but we just wanted you to play the song...</p><p>So, when a frustrated and confused wedding DJ decided to consult the internet&#39;s courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to promote his business at a wedding, people were quick to weigh in.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/m07om7/aita_to_promote_my_business_at_a_wedding/">AITA</a> (Am I the as*hole) to promote my business at a wedding?</h2><blockquote> <p>I (42M) am a DJ primary doing weddings and small events. I&rsquo;ve spent years learning about how to DJ and doing it as a serious hobby until making the plunge and finally starting my own business full time. I&rsquo;ve been in operation about about a year and a half and it&rsquo;s going as well as expected.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I was hired to do a wedding and was very shocked at the response I got after making a short announcement. The bride and groom picked a really significant dance they did alone together at the end of the wedding before all the guests and them left to do a sparkler exit. After the song, there was a moment of silence so I told them who I was, the areas I served, told them a little about my equipment (since I&rsquo;ve invested in the best stuff) and then mentioned I do all events.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Everyone did stop and listen, including the bride and groom, but it was a brief moment and they left to do the sparkler exit. All seemed fine.</p> <p>After it was over, the venue manager pulled me aside and told me it was inappropriate. She said that if I was allowed back at the venue, that couldn&rsquo;t happen again. Okay, I figured she was being over the top as event planners can be, and I let it go. Then a couple days later I get an email from the bride telling me she was mortified that I stole their big exit and wouldn&rsquo;t be recommending me.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I feel this is a huge overreaction and certainly not worth all the drama. Part of being in any business is promoting, especially to people who have heard what I have to offer. I&rsquo;m worried she will leave a bad review for a silly reason that has nothing to do with the quality of music I produce. AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the as*hole). The timing is what makes it <strong>really</strong> sh*tty - dbohat</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA. Using the wedding audience as a captive audience to prompt your business was tone deaf, tactless and bad business practice. Have business cards/info cards available at your booth for those interested but otherwise let your skills do the talking.</p> <p>If I was a guest at that wedding, I wouldn&#39;t hire your services after hearing you turn the wedding exit into your radio ad. - Obiterdicta</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Yes, YTA. Have business cards handy if anyone asks for them, don&rsquo;t make a rambling announcement promoting yourself right before they get ready to make their exit. - The_Bookish_One</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA. If you are going to do entertainment you need to learn to read the room. Learn from this. Your job is create MOMENTS not steal them. - ageekyninja</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>YTA Good promotion comes through word of mouth and social networking and there&#39;s a dozen things you could have done that wouldn&#39;t have involved ruining your clients special day. Do your job well and the guests will remember you and ask the bride for your info. Now they&#39;re just going to remember you as the jerk who self promoted instead of doing his job. Learn from this experience and don&#39;t do it again. - what-time-is-purple</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>YTA. I am a former professional event planner. If a DJ I hired did this, I would be LIVID. And I&rsquo;d make sure every other wedding and event planner in the area knew not to do business with you.</p> <p>This was...beyond a faux pas. This was an extraordinary level of cringe. - sammymalti</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed across the board that the DJ was completely unprofessional and wrong to promote his business during a sentimental moment at a wedding. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

DJ asks if he was wrong to promote his business during a wedding.

There&#39;s a long and debatable list of standards for proper wedding etiquette, but most people would agree that turning a sentimental moment during the reception into an advertisement for your company is probably not a classy move...Anything that takes attention away from the couple celebrating their love and committment to each other with their family and friends is usually frowned upon during a wedding. Wearing a white gown, proposing to your partner during the reception, taking advantage of family being there and announcing a pregnancy, an impromptu speech, or a surprise performance are all usually risky and tacky wedding moves. While there&#39;s nothing wrong with offering up information to guests about your business while doing the job you were hired for at a wedding, interrupting an emotional moment for an announcement into the mic about your DJ equipment is incredibly bold. Thanks for the update on your Instagram handle during the father-daughter dance, but we just wanted you to play the song...So, when a frustrated and confused wedding DJ decided to consult the internet&#39;s courtroom of moral philosophy otherwise known as &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to promote his business at a wedding, people were quick to weigh in.AITA (Am I the as*hole) to promote my business at a wedding? I (42M) am a DJ primary doing weddings and small events. I&rsquo;ve spent years learning about how to DJ and doing it as a serious hobby until making the plunge and finally starting my own business full time. I&rsquo;ve been in operation about about a year and a half and it&rsquo;s going as well as expected.   I was hired to do a wedding and was very shocked at the response I got after making a short announcement. The bride and groom picked a really significant dance they did alone together at the end of the wedding before all the guests and them left to do a sparkler exit. After the song, there was a moment of silence so I told them who I was, the areas I served, told them a little about my equipment (since I&rsquo;ve invested in the best stuff) and then mentioned I do all events.   Everyone did stop and listen, including the bride and groom, but it was a brief moment and they left to do the sparkler exit. All seemed fine. After it was over, the venue manager pulled me aside and told me it was inappropriate. She said that if I was allowed back at the venue, that couldn&rsquo;t happen again. Okay, I figured she was being over the top as event planners can be, and I let it go. Then a couple days later I get an email from the bride telling me she was mortified that I stole their big exit and wouldn&rsquo;t be recommending me.   I feel this is a huge overreaction and certainly not worth all the drama. Part of being in any business is promoting, especially to people who have heard what I have to offer. I&rsquo;m worried she will leave a bad review for a silly reason that has nothing to do with the quality of music I produce. AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: YTA (You&#39;re the as*hole). The timing is what makes it really sh*tty - dbohat  YTA. Using the wedding audience as a captive audience to prompt your business was tone deaf, tactless and bad business practice. Have business cards/info cards available at your booth for those interested but otherwise let your skills do the talking. If I was a guest at that wedding, I wouldn&#39;t hire your services after hearing you turn the wedding exit into your radio ad. - Obiterdicta  Yes, YTA. Have business cards handy if anyone asks for them, don&rsquo;t make a rambling announcement promoting yourself right before they get ready to make their exit. - The_Bookish_One  YTA. If you are going to do entertainment you need to learn to read the room. Learn from this. Your job is create MOMENTS not steal them. - ageekyninja  YTA Good promotion comes through word of mouth and social networking and there&#39;s a dozen things you could have done that wouldn&#39;t have involved ruining your clients special day. Do your job well and the guests will remember you and ask the bride for your info. Now they&#39;re just going to remember you as the jerk who self promoted instead of doing his job. Learn from this experience and don&#39;t do it again. - what-time-is-purple  YTA. I am a former professional event planner. If a DJ I hired did this, I would be LIVID. And I&rsquo;d make sure every other wedding and event planner in the area knew not to do business with you. This was...beyond a faux pas. This was an extraordinary level of cringe. - sammymalti So, there you have it!Everyone agreed across the board that the DJ was completely unprofessional and wrong to promote his business during a sentimental moment at a wedding. Good luck, everyone!

There&#39;s a long and debatable list of standards for proper wedding etiquette, but most people would agree that turning a sentimental moment during the reception into an advertisement for your company is probably not a classy move... ...