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<p> </p><h2>Faking a romantic relationship with a close friend or co-worker to impress the family is often the plot of a Christmas movie, but every once in awhile people try to make it work in real life...</h2><p>While most of us are more than willing to tell a little white lie to protect our loved ones from having to reveal a secret about their identity that may ruin their repuation or their family dynamic, lying for an acquaintance is a pretty big ask. Neighbors, if you ever even speak to them other than a half-hearted wave in the hallway or enthusiastic nod in the driveway, are usually not the people you&#39;re going to pull an elaborate husband-swapping charade with.</p><p>So, when an angry husband decided to consult the internet&#39;s moral compass of Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to refuse to lie in order to protect a secret for his neighbor, people were eager to weigh in.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/l6buhy/aita_for_refusing_to_let_neighbor_borrow_my/">AITA</a> (Am I the as*hole) for refusing to let neighbor &quot;borrow&quot; my husband for her lie?</h2><blockquote> <p>My husband (42M) and I (31M) live in a nice apartment, we aren&#39;t really friends with our neighbors, we&#39;re polite but that&#39;s about it. Our upstairs neighbor Kelly is a lesbian (closet, she only told us because she assumes all LGBT+ needs to be friends) who&#39;s never told her family.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Well, she&#39;s been lying to her mother about having a boyfriend, by describing my husband (red haired, groomed beard, former marine), she came to our apartment to &quot;ask a huge favor&quot;, her mother was coming over to dinner she needed my husband to act like her boyfriend and break up with her. I asked if she was serious, but told Kenny it&#39;s up to him.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Kenny held up his hand to show his wedding ring and said only way it&#39;s coming off if someone chops the finger off and no way is he going to act as her fill in boyfriend or a cheating husband. Kelly begged us to reconsider but I told her no means no. She brought up that gay&#39;s need to stick together but I hold firm, Kenny is MY man. And he said no too!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Kelly has since told her mom about being a lesbian and that made her mom leave without staying for dinner (Kelly told us). Kelly says we&#39;re both vicious as*hole for forcing her to come out and we say we aren&#39;t because SHE lied about a man.</p> <p>AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the as*hole), lies have consequences. It totally sucks that her mother hurt her and that she felt she need to hide who she is, but she can&#39;t demand people come rescue her from her own lies. That boy&#39;s a keeper though, I can see the appeal! - BUTTeredWhiteBread</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. There&rsquo;s a difference between solidarity and enabling. She easily could&rsquo;ve used something else for her mom instead of a lie about your husband - theprincessjasmine99</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Is Kelly a sitcom character? If she needed a pretend boyfriend that badly, she should&#39;ve planned this a lot further in advance, and been prepared to pay an actual actor if necessary. Or at least had a good excuse lined up for why her imaginary dude couldn&#39;t make it to dinner. Or she could&#39;ve just told the truth from the start. Nobody forced her to handle <em>any</em> of this the way she chose to handle it, and of course she has no one to blame but herself. - mm172</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. She needs to deal with her own sh*t and not involve you two. You didn&#39;t force her to do anything. - Emptyplates</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA-She could have said they broke up. She could have avoided lying about having a boyfriend in the first place without coming out to her mother. - GothPenguin</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this man and his husband were not at all wrong for refusing to follow along with their neighbor&#39;s fictional plot, and while it&#39;s understandable that she is upset, there are other solutions she could&#39;ve opted for besides telling her mother and then blaming them. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Gay man asks if he’s wrong to refuse to help lesbian neighbor ‘fake straight’ for her mom.

 Faking a romantic relationship with a close friend or co-worker to impress the family is often the plot of a Christmas movie, but every once in awhile people try to make it work in real life...While most of us are more than willing to tell a little white lie to protect our loved ones from having to reveal a secret about their identity that may ruin their repuation or their family dynamic, lying for an acquaintance is a pretty big ask. Neighbors, if you ever even speak to them other than a half-hearted wave in the hallway or enthusiastic nod in the driveway, are usually not the people you&#39;re going to pull an elaborate husband-swapping charade with.So, when an angry husband decided to consult the internet&#39;s moral compass of Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the As*hole?&quot; about whether or not he was wrong to refuse to lie in order to protect a secret for his neighbor, people were eager to weigh in.AITA (Am I the as*hole) for refusing to let neighbor &quot;borrow&quot; my husband for her lie? My husband (42M) and I (31M) live in a nice apartment, we aren&#39;t really friends with our neighbors, we&#39;re polite but that&#39;s about it. Our upstairs neighbor Kelly is a lesbian (closet, she only told us because she assumes all LGBT+ needs to be friends) who&#39;s never told her family.   Well, she&#39;s been lying to her mother about having a boyfriend, by describing my husband (red haired, groomed beard, former marine), she came to our apartment to &quot;ask a huge favor&quot;, her mother was coming over to dinner she needed my husband to act like her boyfriend and break up with her. I asked if she was serious, but told Kenny it&#39;s up to him.   Kenny held up his hand to show his wedding ring and said only way it&#39;s coming off if someone chops the finger off and no way is he going to act as her fill in boyfriend or a cheating husband. Kelly begged us to reconsider but I told her no means no. She brought up that gay&#39;s need to stick together but I hold firm, Kenny is MY man. And he said no too!   Kelly has since told her mom about being a lesbian and that made her mom leave without staying for dinner (Kelly told us). Kelly says we&#39;re both vicious as*hole for forcing her to come out and we say we aren&#39;t because SHE lied about a man. AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: NTA (Not the as*hole), lies have consequences. It totally sucks that her mother hurt her and that she felt she need to hide who she is, but she can&#39;t demand people come rescue her from her own lies. That boy&#39;s a keeper though, I can see the appeal! - BUTTeredWhiteBread  NTA. There&rsquo;s a difference between solidarity and enabling. She easily could&rsquo;ve used something else for her mom instead of a lie about your husband - theprincessjasmine99  NTA. Is Kelly a sitcom character? If she needed a pretend boyfriend that badly, she should&#39;ve planned this a lot further in advance, and been prepared to pay an actual actor if necessary. Or at least had a good excuse lined up for why her imaginary dude couldn&#39;t make it to dinner. Or she could&#39;ve just told the truth from the start. Nobody forced her to handle any of this the way she chose to handle it, and of course she has no one to blame but herself. - mm172  NTA. She needs to deal with her own sh*t and not involve you two. You didn&#39;t force her to do anything. - Emptyplates  NTA-She could have said they broke up. She could have avoided lying about having a boyfriend in the first place without coming out to her mother. - GothPenguin So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this man and his husband were not at all wrong for refusing to follow along with their neighbor&#39;s fictional plot, and while it&#39;s understandable that she is upset, there are other solutions she could&#39;ve opted for besides telling her mother and then blaming them. Good luck, everyone!

Faking a romantic relationship with a close friend or co-worker to impress the family is often the plot of a Christmas movie, but every once in awhile people try to make it work in real life...  While most of us are more than willing to...