Many families have wedding traditions they pass through the generations, so it can be an emotional minefield to navigate the desires of two families when planning your festivities.
In theory, since a wedding is a public celebration of love, the couple getting married should call the shots for how that takes shape. However, that's not always how it goes down, especially if one party prioritizes their extended family's desires over their partner.
While a wedding is just one day, the emotional politics around planning it can serve as foreshadowing for how the relationship will unfold over time. So, paying attention to the difficult conversations that come up is essential if you want a long and healthy marriage.
To this very point, in a recent post on the Am I The A*shole subreddit, a man asked if he's wrong for considering canceling his wedding after getting pressured into a "tradition" he absolutely hates.