News

<p>A lot of the dramatic wedding stories floating around the internet center around bridezillas, but there are just as many awful grooms out there. While the cultural narrative focuses on a women&#39;s obsession with their wedding day, there are plenty of men who also want to dictate the details of every wedding photo.</p><h2>In a recent post on the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cqbtrd/aita_for_getting_a_tattoo_before_my_brothers/" target="_blank">Am I The *sshole subreddit</a>, a woman shared how her latest tattoo set off her groomzilla brother.</h2><p> </p><p> </p><blockquote> <p>&quot;AITA for getting a tattoo before my brother&#39;s wedding?&#39;</p> </blockquote><h2>OP started the post by sharing that she&#39;s going to be in her brother&#39;s wedding party in just a few months.</h2><p>OP is in her 30s and has accrued a collection of tattoos since her 20s, her family has always been critical but that has never been a real issue up until now.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;My brother is getting married in a few months. I have been asked to be in the wedding party. I&#39;m in my early 30s and have been getting tattooed once every year or two since I was 20, so by now I have a number of tattoos, they&#39;re all well-done and no offensive/shocking designs. Mostly they are nature and abstract art. No one in my family really likes my tattoos, but it&#39;s not their body or their money so their comments never bothered me much.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>OP has been on the waiting list for a skilled tattoo artist for a long time, and was overjoyed to finally get her latest ink.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Sometimes good tattoo artists have LONG waiting lists. There&#39;s an artist I&#39;ve been trying to get an appointment with for years and recently his receptionist contacted me saying they had appointments available. I booked one and got a new piece a few weeks ago. It never occurred to me to think of the wedding before getting it done, and besides, I already have so many tattoos that why would one more make any difference?&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>However, when OP shared the ink in an Instagram post, her groom-to-be brother immediately messaged her angrily.</h2><p>OP&#39;s brother believes the new tattoo will be distracting since the wedding party is wearing short sleeves.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;But my brother saw the tattoo in one of my social media photos and contacted me upset that my new tattoo will be a distraction during the wedding and in the pictures. The dress that he and the bride picked for the wedding party is short and strapless. I offered to wear a different outfit that covers more skin, but they also think it would be distracting for me to not match the rest of the party.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>When OP asked her brother why this new tattoo makes a difference, since she already has a batch of them, her brother said it was a matter of &quot;respect.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;I asked why my older tattoos didn&#39;t bother them but the new one did, and they said it&#39;s because they &quot;had to accept&quot; the old ones and thought I&#39;d &quot;respect them&quot; by not getting any more. I don&#39;t really understand how it has to do with respect.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>Now, OP is having second guesses about whether it was inconsiderate to get her tattoo before the wedding.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;AITA for not thinking of the wedding pictures before booking my tattoo? I&#39;m married, I get that wedding photos are expensive and you want them to look good, but I don&#39;t think it&#39;s right to dictate your wedding partys appearances other than choosing their clothes.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cqbtrd/aita_for_getting_a_tattoo_before_my_brothers/" target="_blank">FragileBird90</a> is about to get married and thinks OP&#39;s brother is being completely unreasonable about it.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA. Sick of all this bride and groomzilla bullshit being worried about their guests or wedding party distracting from the day.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;I&#39;m getting married next year. The bridesmaids are wearing navy but they can choose their styles and hair. I want them to be comfortable and to enjoy themselves. I wouldn&#39;t want them worrying about upsetting me because they made a personal choice for themselves.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;People get way to in to themselves when their wedding comes up. Your tattoo choices have sod all to do with them.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Rhaenyra20/">Rhaenyra20</a> also thinks it&#39;s over the top to forbid a wedding party member from getting a new tattoo.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA. I did have pink dresses that weren&rsquo;t great for rewearing, but I did let them pick whatever style they wanted for it, hair, makeup, shoes, jewellery, etc. I also got them all different bridesmaid gifts based on their interests and that had nothing to do with the wedding.&quot;</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;The number of people who think giving their bridesmaids a necklace that isn&rsquo;t their style and mandatory wedding wear or something with the wedding date on it is dumb. Stuff that is all about your wedding isn&rsquo;t a gift for people, ffs. Ditto a couple mismatched wine glasses with the couple&rsquo;s name and wedding date on them for favours.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/trumpbrokeme/">trumpbrokeme</a> thinks OP should call out how judgemental the request is.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA. Fuck it. Offer to not be in the wedding. It sounds like they really don&#39;t accept you for who you are. My father in law wears doo-rags to cover up scars and marks on his head. Did I ask him not to wear one in the wedding? Hell no. We found a &quot;nice&quot; black one for him to wear.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LindsayVoid/">LindsayVoid</a> doesn&#39;t understand why a tattoo would affect the quality of the photos.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA. I don&#39;t understand this urge to strip friends and family of personality for &#39;perfect&#39; wedding photos. A wedding should be a celebration for friends and family that happens to be memorialized in photos, not a photoshoot.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>The comments all pretty much unanimously supported OP&#39;s freedom to get a tattoo before her brother&#39;s wedding, hopefully her brother comes around and does the same.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Groom mad at sister for getting tattooed before his wedding because it will 'distract' people.

A lot of the dramatic wedding stories floating around the internet center around bridezillas, but there are just as many awful grooms out there. While the cultural narrative focuses on a women&#39;s obsession with their wedding day, there are plenty of men who also want to dictate the details of every wedding photo.In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a woman shared how her latest tattoo set off her groomzilla brother.   &quot;AITA for getting a tattoo before my brother&#39;s wedding?&#39; OP started the post by sharing that she&#39;s going to be in her brother&#39;s wedding party in just a few months.OP is in her 30s and has accrued a collection of tattoos since her 20s, her family has always been critical but that has never been a real issue up until now. &quot;My brother is getting married in a few months. I have been asked to be in the wedding party. I&#39;m in my early 30s and have been getting tattooed once every year or two since I was 20, so by now I have a number of tattoos, they&#39;re all well-done and no offensive/shocking designs. Mostly they are nature and abstract art. No one in my family really likes my tattoos, but it&#39;s not their body or their money so their comments never bothered me much.&quot; OP has been on the waiting list for a skilled tattoo artist for a long time, and was overjoyed to finally get her latest ink. &quot;Sometimes good tattoo artists have LONG waiting lists. There&#39;s an artist I&#39;ve been trying to get an appointment with for years and recently his receptionist contacted me saying they had appointments available. I booked one and got a new piece a few weeks ago. It never occurred to me to think of the wedding before getting it done, and besides, I already have so many tattoos that why would one more make any difference?&quot; However, when OP shared the ink in an Instagram post, her groom-to-be brother immediately messaged her angrily.OP&#39;s brother believes the new tattoo will be distracting since the wedding party is wearing short sleeves. &quot;But my brother saw the tattoo in one of my social media photos and contacted me upset that my new tattoo will be a distraction during the wedding and in the pictures. The dress that he and the bride picked for the wedding party is short and strapless. I offered to wear a different outfit that covers more skin, but they also think it would be distracting for me to not match the rest of the party.&quot; When OP asked her brother why this new tattoo makes a difference, since she already has a batch of them, her brother said it was a matter of &quot;respect.&quot; &quot;I asked why my older tattoos didn&#39;t bother them but the new one did, and they said it&#39;s because they &quot;had to accept&quot; the old ones and thought I&#39;d &quot;respect them&quot; by not getting any more. I don&#39;t really understand how it has to do with respect.&quot; Now, OP is having second guesses about whether it was inconsiderate to get her tattoo before the wedding. &quot;AITA for not thinking of the wedding pictures before booking my tattoo? I&#39;m married, I get that wedding photos are expensive and you want them to look good, but I don&#39;t think it&#39;s right to dictate your wedding partys appearances other than choosing their clothes.&quot; FragileBird90 is about to get married and thinks OP&#39;s brother is being completely unreasonable about it. &quot;NTA. Sick of all this bride and groomzilla bullshit being worried about their guests or wedding party distracting from the day.&quot;  &quot;I&#39;m getting married next year. The bridesmaids are wearing navy but they can choose their styles and hair. I want them to be comfortable and to enjoy themselves. I wouldn&#39;t want them worrying about upsetting me because they made a personal choice for themselves.&quot;  &quot;People get way to in to themselves when their wedding comes up. Your tattoo choices have sod all to do with them.&quot;  Rhaenyra20 also thinks it&#39;s over the top to forbid a wedding party member from getting a new tattoo. &quot;NTA. I did have pink dresses that weren&rsquo;t great for rewearing, but I did let them pick whatever style they wanted for it, hair, makeup, shoes, jewellery, etc. I also got them all different bridesmaid gifts based on their interests and that had nothing to do with the wedding.&quot;  &quot;The number of people who think giving their bridesmaids a necklace that isn&rsquo;t their style and mandatory wedding wear or something with the wedding date on it is dumb. Stuff that is all about your wedding isn&rsquo;t a gift for people, ffs. Ditto a couple mismatched wine glasses with the couple&rsquo;s name and wedding date on them for favours.&quot; trumpbrokeme thinks OP should call out how judgemental the request is. &quot;NTA. Fuck it. Offer to not be in the wedding. It sounds like they really don&#39;t accept you for who you are. My father in law wears doo-rags to cover up scars and marks on his head. Did I ask him not to wear one in the wedding? Hell no. We found a &quot;nice&quot; black one for him to wear.&quot; LindsayVoid doesn&#39;t understand why a tattoo would affect the quality of the photos. &quot;NTA. I don&#39;t understand this urge to strip friends and family of personality for &#39;perfect&#39; wedding photos. A wedding should be a celebration for friends and family that happens to be memorialized in photos, not a photoshoot.&quot; The comments all pretty much unanimously supported OP&#39;s freedom to get a tattoo before her brother&#39;s wedding, hopefully her brother comes around and does the same.