Guy tells GF to 'learn when to shut up' after she defends his niece's racist bully.

Being in an interracial relationship is just like any relationship, except when issues of race come up and one partner simply doesn't get it.

In these moments, ignorance and incompatibility can be revealed, and it can be deeply uncomfortable and ugly.

In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a man asked if he was wrong for telling his GF to 'learn when to shut the f*ck up' after she inserted herself in a conversation with his niece about a racist classmate.

He wrote:

AITA for telling my girlfriend that she needs to learn when to shut the f*ck up?

I (M24) have been dating my girlfriend (F23) for about five months. Every other month, my grandmother hosts a large family dinner with all my close relatives. She encouraged me to invite my girlfriend over for the dinner yesterday.

For some context, my entire family and I are black, and my girlfriend is from a white Anglo-Saxon Protestant family.

I was at the dinner yesterday, and I went to go hang out with my niece, (F7) who I'm very fond of, and the rest of the kids to play Monopoly. My girlfriend tagged along.

My niece was counting play money to pass out to everyone, and one of the kids said something about how he wanted to be rich and get the 500-dollar bills. My niece, out of nowhere, blurted out that she couldn't be rich because she's an n-word.

I was totally taken aback, and asked her who told her that. Apparently, some bully at school said that to her on career day when they were sharing dream jobs, and she said she wanted to be a rich president.

I told her that that wasn't true at all, and hugged her, and she started crying.

Then, my girlfriend jumped in, and told my niece that it's really important to forgive the boy who said that because he probably wasn't trying to be mean and was just confused.

I was shocked, and told her she needs to stop trying to justify what happened. She then tried to hush me, and started baby-talking my niece and said that she should try to be nicer to all the kids at school, because 'kindness goes both ways.'

I was totally livid at this point, and pulled my girlfriend aside and quietly but angrily told her she 'needs to learn when to shut the f*ck up.'

She started getting riled up at me and started rambling about how statistics are on her side (idk what the hell she meant, I wasn't really processing what she was saying).

I told her to get out of my grandma's home, and just leave already (she drove me here in her car, and I was planning to hitch a ride home with my brother.)

This morning, I got multiple calls from my girlfriend's sisters calling me an abusive and sh**ty prick. I know my words were harsh, but I thought my girlfriend was talking in a disgusting manner to my niece. AITA?

The internet weighed in on the situation with a fiery gavel of judgment.

tatersprout wrote:

NTA. From the title, I was prepared to call you the AH. But hell no, your gf deserved the strong reaction. There is no scenario where racism should be tolerated, understood, or forgiven. Your gf is a racist and actively promoting it.

And she did it in a Black household. Children don't think up that sh*t on their own. Someone taught that child from school wrong. Why is she still your gf?

MbMinx wrote:

NTA. Your GF sucks. She ENTIRELY missed the point, and absolutely needed to stay out of that discussion.

I mean, it would have been cool if she could have encouraged your niece, told her that boy doesn't know anything, and she CAN be anything she sets her mind to. But if she couldn't do that, she should have indeed STFU.

Advocating for the bully? Hell naw! Maybe you were harsh in the heat of the moment, but you weren't wrong.

Moon-spirited wrote:

NTA. What the hell???? Please tell me your GF is now an ex.

Wolf_Reader wrote:

NTA and I look forward to voting for your niece for president one day. Also, make the gf an ex.

After receiving thorough feedback that he's not TA, and it's time to drop the GF, OP shared a brief update.

I haven't talked to her since last night but I definitely am breaking up with her.

This is one of those rare situations where the lines are super clear, and OP knows exactly what he needs to do.