Sometimes it's hard to discuss your true feelings about parenthood (even with your partner) and that's where the internet comes in. Of course, it's probably not a great idea to involve Reddit strangers in every personal life decision you make, but what if your wife has suddenly decided her full-time job is to "get pregnant?" Yikes.
Reddit's, "Am I the As*hole?" , the underbelly of the internet's compass of the rights and wrongs of humanity, has solved many moral issues in the past. Of course, this one is no different.
I want to be clear before we start, I TOTALLY understand that being pregnant has a multitude of different effects on different women. I understand that some women have it easier than others in terms of their pregnancies, like some women can work on their feet until the day the baby is born whereas some can't after 3 months; that is not the issue at hand. My wife has been out of work for 6 months due to recent things at her job, none of which are her fault. We have been trying for a baby for over a year with no results, besides IVF and have been working hard to have a baby.
With all this in mind my wife has taken it upon herself(from recent world-changing events) to say that getting pregnant is now her job. I completely disagree. She's stopped looking for a job now and has stopped any amount of side work she was initially doing as well. I said to her that her looking for a job would help with the income for our baby later but she says all the work required for making a baby has made it a full-time job. Now I don't necessarily disagree with her that this is a lot of work but I've been working 70 hrs/week for the past 6 months, I don't want to come home and find out I have to do 50% of the chores because she was "working all day" as she says. I find this to be a cop-out and quite frankly lazy and ridiculous. Now I never said this verbatim to her but these are my thoughts. AITA for this?
edit: just to clarify I understand BEING pregnant can be a job in and of itself but getting pregnant is something else entirely.