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<h2>While weddings can, in theory, be the perfect day the couple getting married always dreamed about, sometimes planning such an important event can turn otherwise normal people into full-blown &#39;Zilla demons from the depths of Instagram Influencer sea...</h2><p>The flowers, the formal attire, color schemes, guest list, seating charts, DJ or band, all diet accommodating menu, venue, open bar, bridal party, bachelor and bachelorette parties, bridal showers--planning a wedding (depending on how elaborate you want to go) can be an incredibly stressful experience. What usually starts as the desire to share a fun day of celebrating your relationship with everyone you love can rapidly turn into a detail-driven flower-frenzied fit of chaos if you don&#39;t constantly keep your perspective in check. If you&#39;ve ever been in a wedding, you might be familiar with the drama surrounding dress styles, hair and makeup, or a bride or groom&#39;s wish for everyone attending to conceal the physical traits that make them unique &quot;for the photos.&quot;</p><p>So, when a pregnant maid-of-honor decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the as*hole?&quot; about an unbelievably selfish bride, people were quick to offer their words of wisdom.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kq2iwn/aita_for_ruining_my_best_friends_wedding_pictures/">AITA</a> (Am I the as*hole) for &quot;ruining&quot; my best friends wedding pictures?</h2><blockquote> <p>My (27F) best friend (27F) who we will call Claire is getting married. They got engaged in 2017, planned for a wedding in April of 2020, but obviously that has not worked out. Now they are planning it for June of 2021 (ya know... circumstances permitting). Her big thing, since she&#39;s had to wait, is she needs EVERYTHING to be perfect. Which I understand, I would also be very upset to plan such a huge, beautiful wedding and then have it pushed back another year.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>However, my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 years. Last month we found out I am pregnant and due in July, and we are elated. However, when I called her, she was FURIOUS with me. She had asked me if we were still trying to get pregnant, and I told her it&#39;s literally a miracle that I am pregnant, she accused me of trying to sabotage her wedding. I let her cool down and then called her later, and she told me I was selfish because all anyone will talk about is me being pregnant and that I&#39;m going to look huge in her wedding pictures. I told her I was sorry and would gladly not be in the wedding party anymore, and then she told me that I HAVE to be because I know more than anyone the details of her wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Well, at this point I honestly didn&#39;t want to be part of the wedding, so I told her that her wedding date is so close to my due date that maybe it would be smarter to pick someone else to be maid of honor, considering she has months to do so. She told me that this absolutely proves that I got pregnant to sabotage her wedding.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I gave her a few more days to cool down, and she said that maybe she&#39;ll postpone her wedding a few more months, like into August, and that I&#39;ll have lost the baby weight by then and can come. I said well... I&#39;ll have a newborn and don&#39;t know if I would be comfortable leaving them for that long because everyone I know will be at the wedding (her fam and my fam are very close). She said my husband can stay home and watch the baby. When I said I don&#39;t mind him staying home, but I just don&#39;t know where I will mentally be by August, she said that I 100% am just trying to ruin her wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I have been so sad by her response. I have cried to her for hours before about wanting a child and her reaction has been so unbelievably hostile for no reason. We haven&#39;t &quot;talked&quot; for a week, however she keeps sending me emails of maid of honor stuff I need to do. I talked to mutual friends and they are mostly on my side, however I had a few friends that said that she&#39;s been planning her wedding as long as I have been trying to have a baby, so they could see her point of view.</p> <p>AITA?</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say:</h2><blockquote> <p>Wow. NTA (Not the As*hole). A child is for life, and she thinks you&rsquo;re having one simply to sabotage her wedding? It&rsquo;ll still be her big day, and you being pregnant won&rsquo;t take away from that at all. And your size on the day won&rsquo;t ruin anything - LevelBaker3573</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA. There&rsquo;s literally no way someone can plan a pregnancy that precisely. Your friend is a jerk. - discordantreflection</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your friend isn&#39;t just being a bridezilla she is being a bad friend. You didn&#39;t choose to get pregnant around her wedding its just how things have played out. Not wanting to go at all given her attitude makes perfect sense to me and you&#39;re well within your rights to do it - Outside-Question</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA.</p> <p>Your friend is one of the most selfish as*holes I&rsquo;ve ever heard of.</p> <p>Since she&rsquo;s so convinced that you&rsquo;re trying to sabotage her wedding, you might as well actually sabotage it. It makes absolutely no difference what you do because she&rsquo;s not thinking straight.</p> <p>Obviously kidding about sabotaging her wedding, but it might do you &amp; your baby some good to distance yourself from this person. - HIOP-Sartre</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA Is she even your friend at this point? It&#39;s months off her wedding date and she&#39;s complaining that your pregnancy is all anyone can talk about? Is she insane? Bridezilla is going overboard. - GalaGrins</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Drop her like a hot potato and don&rsquo;t look back. - Practical_Heart7287</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your successful pregnancy is far more important than her wedding day, particularly given the fertility issues you have had. She is not a true friend to you if she&#39;s acting this way. No true friend does anything other than welcome their friend&#39;s pregnancy. And they certainly would not throw a tantrum over your size in the photos, that&#39;s troubling right there no matter the reason. - cascadia1979</p> </blockquote><h2>So, there you have it!</h2><p>Everyone agreed that this soon-to-be mom is not wrong at all for refusing to go to her friend&#39;s wedding or giving up her maid-of-honor duties after the way this bride has truly gone off the rails. Telling someone who is supposedly your best friend that they&#39;re &quot;sabotaging&quot; your wedding day with their very happy personal news is cartoonishly selfish behavior. Good luck, everyone!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Maid-of-honor asks if she's wrong to ditch wedding after bride says her pregnancy will ruin photos.

While weddings can, in theory, be the perfect day the couple getting married always dreamed about, sometimes planning such an important event can turn otherwise normal people into full-blown &#39;Zilla demons from the depths of Instagram Influencer sea...The flowers, the formal attire, color schemes, guest list, seating charts, DJ or band, all diet accommodating menu, venue, open bar, bridal party, bachelor and bachelorette parties, bridal showers--planning a wedding (depending on how elaborate you want to go) can be an incredibly stressful experience. What usually starts as the desire to share a fun day of celebrating your relationship with everyone you love can rapidly turn into a detail-driven flower-frenzied fit of chaos if you don&#39;t constantly keep your perspective in check. If you&#39;ve ever been in a wedding, you might be familiar with the drama surrounding dress styles, hair and makeup, or a bride or groom&#39;s wish for everyone attending to conceal the physical traits that make them unique &quot;for the photos.&quot;So, when a pregnant maid-of-honor decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit&#39;s &quot;Am I the as*hole?&quot; about an unbelievably selfish bride, people were quick to offer their words of wisdom.AITA (Am I the as*hole) for &quot;ruining&quot; my best friends wedding pictures? My (27F) best friend (27F) who we will call Claire is getting married. They got engaged in 2017, planned for a wedding in April of 2020, but obviously that has not worked out. Now they are planning it for June of 2021 (ya know... circumstances permitting). Her big thing, since she&#39;s had to wait, is she needs EVERYTHING to be perfect. Which I understand, I would also be very upset to plan such a huge, beautiful wedding and then have it pushed back another year.   However, my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 years. Last month we found out I am pregnant and due in July, and we are elated. However, when I called her, she was FURIOUS with me. She had asked me if we were still trying to get pregnant, and I told her it&#39;s literally a miracle that I am pregnant, she accused me of trying to sabotage her wedding. I let her cool down and then called her later, and she told me I was selfish because all anyone will talk about is me being pregnant and that I&#39;m going to look huge in her wedding pictures. I told her I was sorry and would gladly not be in the wedding party anymore, and then she told me that I HAVE to be because I know more than anyone the details of her wedding.   Well, at this point I honestly didn&#39;t want to be part of the wedding, so I told her that her wedding date is so close to my due date that maybe it would be smarter to pick someone else to be maid of honor, considering she has months to do so. She told me that this absolutely proves that I got pregnant to sabotage her wedding.   I gave her a few more days to cool down, and she said that maybe she&#39;ll postpone her wedding a few more months, like into August, and that I&#39;ll have lost the baby weight by then and can come. I said well... I&#39;ll have a newborn and don&#39;t know if I would be comfortable leaving them for that long because everyone I know will be at the wedding (her fam and my fam are very close). She said my husband can stay home and watch the baby. When I said I don&#39;t mind him staying home, but I just don&#39;t know where I will mentally be by August, she said that I 100% am just trying to ruin her wedding.   I have been so sad by her response. I have cried to her for hours before about wanting a child and her reaction has been so unbelievably hostile for no reason. We haven&#39;t &quot;talked&quot; for a week, however she keeps sending me emails of maid of honor stuff I need to do. I talked to mutual friends and they are mostly on my side, however I had a few friends that said that she&#39;s been planning her wedding as long as I have been trying to have a baby, so they could see her point of view. AITA? Here&#39;s what the jury of internet strangers had to say: Wow. NTA (Not the As*hole). A child is for life, and she thinks you&rsquo;re having one simply to sabotage her wedding? It&rsquo;ll still be her big day, and you being pregnant won&rsquo;t take away from that at all. And your size on the day won&rsquo;t ruin anything - LevelBaker3573  NTA. There&rsquo;s literally no way someone can plan a pregnancy that precisely. Your friend is a jerk. - discordantreflection  NTA. Your friend isn&#39;t just being a bridezilla she is being a bad friend. You didn&#39;t choose to get pregnant around her wedding its just how things have played out. Not wanting to go at all given her attitude makes perfect sense to me and you&#39;re well within your rights to do it - Outside-Question  NTA. Your friend is one of the most selfish as*holes I&rsquo;ve ever heard of. Since she&rsquo;s so convinced that you&rsquo;re trying to sabotage her wedding, you might as well actually sabotage it. It makes absolutely no difference what you do because she&rsquo;s not thinking straight. Obviously kidding about sabotaging her wedding, but it might do you &amp; your baby some good to distance yourself from this person. - HIOP-Sartre  NTA Is she even your friend at this point? It&#39;s months off her wedding date and she&#39;s complaining that your pregnancy is all anyone can talk about? Is she insane? Bridezilla is going overboard. - GalaGrins  NTA. Drop her like a hot potato and don&rsquo;t look back. - Practical_Heart7287  NTA. Your successful pregnancy is far more important than her wedding day, particularly given the fertility issues you have had. She is not a true friend to you if she&#39;s acting this way. No true friend does anything other than welcome their friend&#39;s pregnancy. And they certainly would not throw a tantrum over your size in the photos, that&#39;s troubling right there no matter the reason. - cascadia1979 So, there you have it!Everyone agreed that this soon-to-be mom is not wrong at all for refusing to go to her friend&#39;s wedding or giving up her maid-of-honor duties after the way this bride has truly gone off the rails. Telling someone who is supposedly your best friend that they&#39;re &quot;sabotaging&quot; your wedding day with their very happy personal news is cartoonishly selfish behavior. Good luck, everyone!

While weddings can, in theory, be the perfect day the couple getting married always dreamed about, sometimes planning such an important event can turn otherwise normal people into full-blown &#39;Zilla demons from the depths of Instagram...