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<p>Honesty is conceptually the best policy, but in real life it can be a lot trickier than it sounds. For instance, if you know about a coworker&#39;s unsavory behavior but don&#39;t have a close relationship with their wife, is it your responsibility to tell her, or should you abstain from narcing?</p><p>When it comes to the concept of &quot;telling&quot; on someone, situations can quickly get dicey and there is rarely a clear answer. Save instances of clear abuse or danger, getting in the middle of other people&#39;s business, even if well-intentioned, can often backfire.</p><h2>In a recent post on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/c83yih/aita_for_leaving_a_coworker_stranded_in_detroit/" target="_blank">the Am I The Asshole subreddit</a>, a man asked the internet if he was wrong for lying to his coworker&#39;s wife about his whereabouts.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;AITA for leaving a co-worker stranded in Detroit, and not telling his wife the truth about it?</p> <p>I&#39;ve been giving a co-worker of mine a ride back and forth to work for the last couple of weeks now since his car broke down. He only lives a couple blocks away from me, so it&#39;s not like I&#39;m going out of my way or anything.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>OP shared that he regularly gives his coworker rides, and after work the coworker asked for a ride to Detroit to visit his &quot;sister.&quot;</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Today after work he gave me a sob story about his sister needing to borrow some money for rent and diapers, and he asked me for a ride to Detroit. I&#39;m a family man myself I couldn&#39;t tell him no, even though it&#39;s a bad neighborhood.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>However, when they got there, it was clear the coworker was actually in Detroit for a drug deal.</h2><p>OP didn&#39;t feel safe in the situation, and immediately drove off, leaving their coworker chasing them down the Detroit block.</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;When we got there, he walked over to a group of guys sitting on the porch of an abandoned house. He gave one guy some money then he put something in his pocket. I know a fucking drug deal when I see one! I was pissed, I took off, and he started running down the street to catch up. I floored it, and let my tires squeal behind me.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>When OP got home, the coworker&#39;s wife soon came over searching for him. Rather than telling her the truth, OP said the coworker was at his sister&#39;s.</h2><p>Since the coworker had used his sister as a cover, OP assumed there was actually a real sister.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>&quot;A couple hours after I got home, his wife came to my house looking for him. I told her I dropped him off at his sister&#39;s, and she stormed off pissed. Come to find out he doesn&#39;t even have a sister! Now his wife thinks he&#39;s having an affair.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>OP quickly found out the coworker has no sisters, and now the wife thinks he&#39;s having an affair.</h2><p>Understandably, OP doesn&#39;t want to involve himself in this situation, but now that the wife is concerned, he wonders if he should come clean about the coworker&#39;s whereabouts.</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/unusualpersimmon/">unusualpersimmon</a> thinks OP did the right thing by bolting.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA he made his choices. He lied that&#39;s his own fault.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Kingofearth23/">Kingofearth23</a> thinks it&#39;s unfair to the wife, especially since the coworker could be in danger.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;But what did his wife do to deserve getting lied to? What if her husband was kidnapped and she was frantically trying to find him because he hasn&#39;t returned? Valuable minutes that she could alert authorities wasted for nothing.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/peithecelt/">peithecelt</a> thinks both the OP and the coworker are slimeballs for different reasons.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;Ugh, I hate to say this, but you ditched a guy in a shitty neighborhood? Then lied to his wife about it? Dudes a slime, so ESH.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/soph_lurk_2018/">soph_lurk_2018</a> thinks OP did the right thing protecting himself from potential felony charges and giving the wife the same cover story.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;OP does not have to let someone into his car with drugs. If the police pull them over and his coworker throws the drugs on the floor of the car, then they are all going to jail! He doesn&rsquo;t have to take that risk for a coworker. As for lying to the wife, OP simply repeated the same cover story he was told. Any fall out is on the coworker&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/depraved_/">depraved_</a> thinks OP did the right thing and it&#39;s not his responsibility to further involve himself, particularly after the coworker put him at risk of going to jail.</h2><blockquote> <p>&quot;NTA! I don&#39;t understand how some people here are saying everybody sucks here. Firstly, he lied about having a sister. Secondly, he was buying drugs! C&#39;mon people, just think! What if he had been pulled over by the police? Then he would be fucked. No, dude, not the asshole in the slightest here. Yes, you probably could have told his wife where you dropped him off.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/purpleninjacat/">purpleninjacat</a> thinks OP should have told the wife, for her sake - not the coworker&#39;s.</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p> </p><blockquote> <p>&quot;I&#39;m going ESH just because he should have told his wife where he was. I understand leaving him there, I wouldn&#39;t want drugs anywhere near my car. But at least tell his wife so she knows where to look if he goes missing, there&#39;s really no reason to lie to her.&quot;</p> </blockquote><p>The internet is relatively split on this, but one aspect is agreed upon: OP did what they had to do to avoid jail time. Hopefully, for the wife&#39;s sake, they end up telling her the truth.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man strands coworker in Detroit after drug deal and lies to coworker's wife about it.

Honesty is conceptually the best policy, but in real life it can be a lot trickier than it sounds. For instance, if you know about a coworker&#39;s unsavory behavior but don&#39;t have a close relationship with their wife, is it your responsibility to tell her, or should you abstain from narcing?When it comes to the concept of &quot;telling&quot; on someone, situations can quickly get dicey and there is rarely a clear answer. Save instances of clear abuse or danger, getting in the middle of other people&#39;s business, even if well-intentioned, can often backfire.In a recent post on the Am I The Asshole subreddit, a man asked the internet if he was wrong for lying to his coworker&#39;s wife about his whereabouts. &quot;AITA for leaving a co-worker stranded in Detroit, and not telling his wife the truth about it? I&#39;ve been giving a co-worker of mine a ride back and forth to work for the last couple of weeks now since his car broke down. He only lives a couple blocks away from me, so it&#39;s not like I&#39;m going out of my way or anything.&quot; OP shared that he regularly gives his coworker rides, and after work the coworker asked for a ride to Detroit to visit his &quot;sister.&quot; &quot;Today after work he gave me a sob story about his sister needing to borrow some money for rent and diapers, and he asked me for a ride to Detroit. I&#39;m a family man myself I couldn&#39;t tell him no, even though it&#39;s a bad neighborhood.&quot; However, when they got there, it was clear the coworker was actually in Detroit for a drug deal.OP didn&#39;t feel safe in the situation, and immediately drove off, leaving their coworker chasing them down the Detroit block. &quot;When we got there, he walked over to a group of guys sitting on the porch of an abandoned house. He gave one guy some money then he put something in his pocket. I know a fucking drug deal when I see one! I was pissed, I took off, and he started running down the street to catch up. I floored it, and let my tires squeal behind me.&quot; When OP got home, the coworker&#39;s wife soon came over searching for him. Rather than telling her the truth, OP said the coworker was at his sister&#39;s.Since the coworker had used his sister as a cover, OP assumed there was actually a real sister. &quot;A couple hours after I got home, his wife came to my house looking for him. I told her I dropped him off at his sister&#39;s, and she stormed off pissed. Come to find out he doesn&#39;t even have a sister! Now his wife thinks he&#39;s having an affair.&quot; OP quickly found out the coworker has no sisters, and now the wife thinks he&#39;s having an affair.Understandably, OP doesn&#39;t want to involve himself in this situation, but now that the wife is concerned, he wonders if he should come clean about the coworker&#39;s whereabouts.unusualpersimmon thinks OP did the right thing by bolting. &quot;NTA he made his choices. He lied that&#39;s his own fault.&quot; Kingofearth23 thinks it&#39;s unfair to the wife, especially since the coworker could be in danger. &quot;But what did his wife do to deserve getting lied to? What if her husband was kidnapped and she was frantically trying to find him because he hasn&#39;t returned? Valuable minutes that she could alert authorities wasted for nothing.&quot; peithecelt thinks both the OP and the coworker are slimeballs for different reasons. &quot;Ugh, I hate to say this, but you ditched a guy in a shitty neighborhood? Then lied to his wife about it? Dudes a slime, so ESH.&quot; soph_lurk_2018 thinks OP did the right thing protecting himself from potential felony charges and giving the wife the same cover story. &quot;OP does not have to let someone into his car with drugs. If the police pull them over and his coworker throws the drugs on the floor of the car, then they are all going to jail! He doesn&rsquo;t have to take that risk for a coworker. As for lying to the wife, OP simply repeated the same cover story he was told. Any fall out is on the coworker&quot; depraved_ thinks OP did the right thing and it&#39;s not his responsibility to further involve himself, particularly after the coworker put him at risk of going to jail. &quot;NTA! I don&#39;t understand how some people here are saying everybody sucks here. Firstly, he lied about having a sister. Secondly, he was buying drugs! C&#39;mon people, just think! What if he had been pulled over by the police? Then he would be fucked. No, dude, not the asshole in the slightest here. Yes, you probably could have told his wife where you dropped him off.&quot; purpleninjacat thinks OP should have told the wife, for her sake - not the coworker&#39;s.  &quot;I&#39;m going ESH just because he should have told his wife where he was. I understand leaving him there, I wouldn&#39;t want drugs anywhere near my car. But at least tell his wife so she knows where to look if he goes missing, there&#39;s really no reason to lie to her.&quot; The internet is relatively split on this, but one aspect is agreed upon: OP did what they had to do to avoid jail time. Hopefully, for the wife&#39;s sake, they end up telling her the truth.

Man asks if he's wrong to lie to coworker's wife about leaving him in Detroit after drug deal.